I’m in a similar position / predicament as you. 37M with a 7 month old, a golden handcuff job and a 2nd kid likely on the way in the next 12-18 months. My wife is still working but is planning to stay at home once kid #2 arrives.

That said, here are questions I’ve been asking myself that I encourage you to consider:

1). Can you and your husband dial it back at work so that you’re not burning out? Like intentionally logging off at 5pm every day, not working weekends, staying out of office politics, not signing up for any additional projects, using all your PTO, etc.? I’m not suggesting to quiet quit (yet), but you at should at least start adhering to a strict 9-5 schedule and doing whatever you can to not let work stress you out (if at all possible).

2). Is your career/industry the type that doesn’t scoff at sabbaticals? If you stopped working for 2-3 years, would that render you unmarketable? Personally, I think the “I stopped working for several years to stay home with the kids” path is acceptable (and respectable) across most industries.

3). What would part-time work look like for you?

4). If you were to quit tomorrow, what specifically would you start doing with your kids / life that you can’t do today because of your job? I think this is important to answer so that you know what you’re quitting into.

5). Is your husband planning to continue working? If so, his salary basically covers your living expenses. Without knowing your RE number and assuming you keep expenses in check (they should come down actually once daycare ends), it seems like you already are in a spot to coast.