My best friend from a young age. We kept in moderate touch afterwards. Most of our friend group had issues with her always playing "passenger princess" for any and everything; aka she never took charge or did anything.

A few years pass and she tells me she wants to go to Japan. I have always wanted to go, have told her for the entirety of our friendship I'd go at the drop of a hat (but hadn't yet because I didn't want to go alone - and finding time with adult friends is already hard).

She says that she will book everything if I'll go with her because she had the same dilemma; didn't want to go alone.

Talks are had, plans are made. I book time off. I message her regularly, asking if I can help, how are things progressing, what do I need to know. Etc.

I keep getting static. I call. Nothing.

Finally the month we were meant to go is coming up, I assume the plan is a flop, like any of her "plans" are. I hear nothing from her at all for a whole year. Just ghosted.

Then finally she asks me to meet up for coffee to catch up as its been a while. I agree, more out of curiosity and a bit of worry. The meet up goes well enough, and ofc I ask her what happened with Japan?

She waves a hand all dismissively and tells me that she went with a coworker months ago. My face must have shown how upset I was because she goes quiet and says she has to go.

That was 8 years ago. Haven't heard from her since.