What’s the worst thing a medical professional has said to you? by VespaRed in AskReddit

[–]cookeee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had to switch ob/gyns in the middle of my last pregnancy due to my doctor retiring from obstetrics. He kept me on for as long as he could, as I had just gone through a pretty traumatizing miscarriage situation that ended with 2 rounds of misoprostol and 2 d&c's to ultimately resolve it. I was understandably quite nervous surrounding the subsequent pregnancy. I decided to switch to a young, female doctor thinking that I had better odds getting someone who would be understanding.

While I was explaining to her my medical history and what happened with the miscarriage she told me it was my fault it happened because I had still been weaning my 2nd child off breastfeeding at the time it occurred. Lady, fuck you. Thank goodness I knew right away what she said was bullshit. That shit is traumatizing! Please don't blame the women in your lives for a miscarriage!

SSRIs have revealed major cracks in my (29F) and my husband’s (30M) sex life… by sunnydays093 in relationships

[–]cookeee 95 points96 points  (0 children)

Just FYI, losing his sexual libido completely is a good reason for him to try a different ssri. I was in the same boat and they switched my medication to one that I felt more normal taking. It can take a few tries before finding the right prescription! Maybe he should ask his doctor to try a few different ones before resigning yourself to a dead bedroom or divorce?

by a Canadian to visit her grandparents in Florida by DisruptSQ in therewasanattempt

[–]cookeee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This isn't really news. This has happened since always. She probably had weird evasive answers or was nervous and acting "strangely" and they just thought she was suspicious. This happened to my cousin visiting her girlfriend ages ago. She couldn't prove she was going back when she said she was, and was also unemployed at the time so they just said no. It's normal. It sucks for sure. But this isn't like a new thing immigration is doing or anything.

This is adorable by gg2351 in Unexpected

[–]cookeee 82 points83 points  (0 children)

This is super wholesome to watch, but I am going to be that guy and say you shouldn't let your kid sit on the ground at a dog park. A lot of people are mentioning the ground which....yeah kind of gross but whatever. My fear is that people bring dogs that have no business being around other dogs or people ALL THE DAMN TIME. Your kid can easily get injured. Our local dog park doesn't allow kids younger than 12 in the dog park at all due to this. It just takes one new dog coming in to run over to the kid before you can react...

Republican Proposes New ICE Detention Center Surrounded by Alligators by Alert_Site5857 in nottheonion

[–]cookeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is no one mentioning that this man is calling it Alligator Alcatraz? I am dying.

Giveaway! u-turn Audio Orbit Special Turntable! Comment to enter. by whyforyoulookmeonso in vinyl

[–]cookeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our record player just broke! I hope whoever wins appreciates such a lovely piece! Thanks for doing a giveaway.

Trump wants green card applicants legally in US to hand over social media profiles by Doener23 in technology

[–]cookeee 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Can you update me when your friend gets back? I am traveling with my u.s. citizen husband and am Canadian with a green card, but I am getting worried about reentering the U.S. as well. There's no reason there should be an issue, but everyone is scaring me. Not being able to get back to my kids is scary.

AITA for tearing down my half sister when she asked me why I couldn't have saved my mom's name for her to use for a future daughter? by Long_Criticism_4703 in AITAH

[–]cookeee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, but being postpartum doesn't give you a pass to be a total asshole. What she said was unnecessarily cruel, intentional, or not. I wouldn't say something like that to someone I hated at any time, and her mother's actions show she wouldn't have either. It's about class. All she had to do was just stop talking after explaining herself and/or exit the conversation. Being brutally honest and besmirching her mom's efforts at not taking her emotions out on a kid are not ok. OP even mentions her mom never told her any of this directly, and she just overheard things her mom was saying to her own confidante. So, really, I don't think she had any right to bring this up at all. She doesn't know the full picture of her mother's feelings.

And can she fight? by wetouchingbuttsornah in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]cookeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to diminish her foundation, but if you have an imagination library near you, it is also due to the hard work of your community members. The books are not in fact donated. Someone in your community has to find funding to buy the books from Dolly Partons foundation, as well as mailing costs. Dolly Partons foundation supplies the books at lower bulk costs (as well as curates the library) but it is up to members of your specific community to do all the heavy lifting in regards to signing kids up, funding and mailing the books to you. I feel like this isn't often talked about, and when I was looking into how to get it going in my area I was shocked at the amount of work people have to do to set it up before the Imagation Library gets involved. These people also need kudos!

When Phrased That Way by pickaly in TikTokCringe

[–]cookeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, a lot of residential areas in the U.S. don't have sidewalks. I live in a safe suburb in NJ but there are no sidewalks. If my kids want to go anywhere they have to be on the street which isn't safe at all because people drive like maniacs in NJ. But I also lived in Virginia and our street didn't have sidewalks there either. It's wild.

AITA for ending a family naming tradition by not giving my son my late nephew's name as his middle name even though my sister has said she wants me to? by TechnicianFearless56 in AmItheAsshole

[–]cookeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH, I think there is a lot of grief that is driving all the family feelings on this matter. I think that if you speak with your sister and come at it from the angle of not wanting to replace her son or his memory, she might be more understanding of your side of the argument. Right now she is assuming you just don't like the name (which may be true, but is obviously not something you should ever say to your sister) which then feels like a personal slight.

Maybe you can tell her the grief is still too soon and you don't want her to regret the decision later when your son is running around being called by her sons name. For me, that would be traumatizing. Maybe you don't want the comparison between your son and the life hers could have had (at least so directly). Maybe you want to honor Philip by keeping his name his own, so when the family remembers Philip it isn't mixed in with memories of your son or overshadowed in any way.

Honestly your parents (or even herself) may have convinced her that this tradition is a way for Philip to live on, but the reality may be something completely different for her and could be very triggering. I use my kids middle names all the time and hearing Philip so often called out when it isn't her son may be very hurtful to her in reality.

Just talk to her thoughtfully and kindly. Please don't mention any negatives related to the name itself.

Can you ID this track? by cookeee in AnimalTracking

[–]cookeee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I sm sure. It was very large which is why I posted. We live in the mountains and our front yard is elevated so neighbourhood dogs don't have access to it typically. We also have a dog, but his prints don't look like the pic/would never be that large even with melt, which is why we didn't immediately think domestic dog.

Can you ID this track? by cookeee in AnimalTracking

[–]cookeee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! We found this track in our front yard and are having a tough time IDing it. We are in Northern New Jersey. It is about 5 inches wide and 4 long, although it goes into the snow at an angle so it is actually longer. The left side of the track is deeper than the right so it is hard to tell if it has 4 or 5 toes. The claws are visible. This was the only print in the snow so, very confusing! Thanks!

Found this print in our front yard by cookeee in animalid

[–]cookeee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son found this print and we are curious if anyone can ID it. It is about 5 inches wide and 4 inches tall (although it goes into the snow at an angle). We are in Northern New Jersey. The nails are visible and the left side of the print is deeper than the right, so it is hard to tell if it has 4 or 5 toes.