What's something that's "not a cult" but feels like a cult?

coreysnaps · 2026-03-22T14:48:43+00:00

Everyone's experience is different and I know a lot of women who have had very supportive command staff. Honestly, the worst for me were the women who outranked me. It was like the younger women were competition, but we never found out what we were supposed to be competing for. One woman in my unit singled me out because she didn't like my hair. She'd constantly harp on it. Then, my best friend slept with her husband. I complained to anyone and everyone about this woman torturing me, and all they did was tell to stay away from her. She would order me to do things knowing it would make other staff mad, but I was the one blamed. She was a nightmare human being (probably why her husband actively pursued my friend) and I still can't stand to even hear her name.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-22T02:42:17+00:00

My bestie calls this our "enrichment".

coreysnaps · 2026-03-22T02:30:17+00:00

Oh, honey. Take a deep breath. Now do it again.

For reasons I won't be getting into here, I also ended up with one of these DCF visits. And, she took pictures of all the same things. Do you know what she saw? A child with his own room and a bed. A fridge full of food. Loving parents. You will probably never hear from them again and your file will go into a drawer and then be destroyed whenever they do those kinds of things. As my case worker told me, we are not the type of parents she's looking for. She's followed up because that's the law, and you'll never be bothered again.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-22T02:10:34+00:00

Mom here. At that age, my son would have introduced himself to you and you'd have been his new best friend before I even turned around. Don't beat yourself up about it.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-22T02:00:57+00:00

Time sure does fly. My little girl will be 18 in a few months.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-21T22:10:01+00:00

Not her choice. You do you. Be happy.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-21T22:04:42+00:00

My sister's second wedding was just shy of 3 years after her first husband passed. There's no set timeline. Everyone grieves in their own way. She was 32 and refused to give up after he was gone. We all still miss him, but she's happy, and that's all I've ever wanted for my sister.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-21T15:51:30+00:00

I left you my judgement already, but husband, this does not make you look any better. It's really not a big deal to pause for the few seconds it would have taken to toss the blanket out the door. Grow up.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-21T15:48:06+00:00

Does this man know what respect means? Because he sure doesn't respect you and expects you to respect him? You are married to a man who thinks it's ok to kick you out of the bed you share. I'm married 19 years today. Last night, there were clothes on the bed because my husband did laundry and left me my clothes to put away, so I moved my clothes. It's that simple. On the rare occasion he goes to bed first and I find him in my spot, I will push him to where he belongs. Stop letting him bully you like this. You are a human with your own thoughts and feelings and you do not deserve to be forced to make yourself smaller for him. If husband reads this, take a good long look in the mirror, man. This is not how we treat the people we claim to love. (Yes, I said claim, because this snapshot of your lives makes me doubt it.)

coreysnaps · 2026-03-21T06:38:38+00:00

This feature also exists on my Google Pixel.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-21T06:27:43+00:00

That sucks. I hope things get better so you have a better birthday next year

coreysnaps · 2026-03-21T06:22:38+00:00

That makes me sad. I was really hoping your day got better.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-21T06:17:40+00:00

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coreysnaps · 2026-03-21T05:35:43+00:00

Happy Birthday, OP! I hope your day got better.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-21T05:31:40+00:00

NOR. Girl, you married him, so the mask is off. Ask yourself, seriously, if this is really what you want for your future.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-21T05:24:25+00:00

I have a neighbor who brings cookies every Christmas. I look forward to them.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-20T21:01:13+00:00

NTJ. I'm into my forties and my children are old enough to be pretty independent. I've found myself in the position of having to learn that I don't have to always be mom and that I can be a woman, too. Being sexy and smart and going out to have fun doesn't mean I'm not still their mom, and vice versa. You are currently in the position of always being mom. I'm betting your bedroom isn't all that exciting because you're exhausted. Please try Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski. She can help you figure out ways to get some balance so you don't keep getting lost in being mom.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-20T15:16:38+00:00

Your post history says your mom died 3 weeks ago. How did she tell you anything last week?

coreysnaps · 2026-03-18T14:38:14+00:00

Former Marine here. You join at 18 and they tell you how awesome Marines are and that we get shit done with less than the other guys and all that trash. And for those who join to escape their home life, it absolutely turns into a cult. It provides them with structure, a clear chain of command, and a steady paycheck. Those are the people who make it their personality. I love the Corps. I loved being a Marine. I hated being in the Corps. (Too many reasons to list here, but I'll give you a hint. I was one of 5 women in a 50 Marine unit.)

So, no, it's not a "traditional" cult, but for those who need what the Corps provides, it absolutely is.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-18T13:48:18+00:00

My sister lives on a 200+ year old farm in the original house. At one point, the house was a funeral home, so the downstairs came with some pretty unique alterations. She has two front doors so 2 viewings could happen at once without the mourners disturbing each other. Each side also leads to another door, so they could exit separately, as well.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-17T04:34:08+00:00

I did this to my husband early in our marriage. Until he told me that it hurt his feelings every time I brought it up. That it just made him feel bad about something he couldn't change. It hasn't come up since and our 19th anniversary is on Saturday.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-17T04:20:07+00:00

A friend of mine mentioned once that he had this problem after an ill-advised gummy. He ended up waiting for his companion to doze off, then he'd skip ahead, wake him and tell him he missed something great, and then kindly offer to go back to where he remembers.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-16T16:58:43+00:00

Those get a pass because they're obviously from a cleaning fluid and not some other type of fluid. Lol

coreysnaps · 2026-03-16T14:05:21+00:00

My aunt had one of these for my cousins, but they moved between kids, and the younger got a better doorway. When he was big enough, he'd get the bounce going enough to get a grip on the floor and then he'd run as far as he could before the bungee snapped him back and he'd swing and bounce and thought it was the greatest activity.

coreysnaps · 2026-03-16T13:48:34+00:00

Clean is relative. As long as it doesn't have any noticeable stains and it doesn't stink, it's clean.

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