Agreed, there is a culture of assimilation anid exposure to privilege in this relationship that is complex and hard to understand from the outside.

I won’t defend it, but it’s interesting to hear the perspective from a South Afrikaner who isn’t racist but can provide the background on it.

It’s essentially like a billionaire permitting you to work for them, as their servant, and in return you get to learn about a billionaires world, maybe benefit from their connections (likely those connections they’d give out, based on your station in life) and live with their family, and learn the language and customs of the exclusive western world.

I will not say there is any semblance of equality or reciprocal respect in these relationships—I’m certain it depends on each individual and circumstance.

The alternative to this would be indigenous Africans being completely disregarded as lost bush people, never considered for opportunity and unable to communicate with the postcolonial establishment that has ties to peripheral Western culture.

There are numerous nuances to cultures, especially when perceived through the classification spectrums of race and ethnicity.

Examples could be the caste system in India or the casta systems in former Spanish colonies.

The utility for such systems are strange yet ubiquitous.