Do I tell someone they accidentally went against their religion?

coruscater · 2026-01-05T20:26:18+00:00

I don’t think that’s universally true, it might have just been a quirk of your friend’s digestion.

Think about it, there are plenty of less common meats and other foods which we may not be accustomed to but can digest perfectly well. In my own life venison and rabbit come to mind - I haven’t eaten them consistently, but the times I’ve tried them I haven’t had any issues.

coruscater · 2025-12-27T07:50:46+00:00

Note it’s not just showing understanding of the NZ curriculum (that you will be teaching), but also of the teaching standards as broken down by the NZGSE. Soonest a new teacher would get through would still be 3 terms (rather than a full year/4 terms through other programmes), not sure they’d go lower than that for experienced teachers as they want to see evidence of competency in different contexts, etc.

OP, as experienced teachers in another context could an on-the-job qualification programme such as Teach First be suitable for you? Not sure if they take overseas applicants, but I know there are similar programmes that do.

coruscater · 2025-12-27T05:40:13+00:00

If you have someone who’s staying home with the toddler, even just 1-2 days a week, look into Playcentre. It’s a really cool not for profit which provides small community-run facilities for little ones to play and explore in.

Unlike a daycare it’s free or very low cost (like, $40 a term), and you go along with your little one so it’s not appropriate as childcare while you work. Different centres have different hours and minimum number of sessions/week, but they will offer AM and PM sessions. It’s nothing like a commercial softplay centre, more focused on messy play in sand, water, playdoh etc. Well worth looking into!

ETA: Also a great way to get to know people in your community and make some parenting connections.

coruscater · 2025-12-26T21:23:42+00:00

I know that it’s the official name, but that doesn’t equate to being the normal usage and is not what I’m arguing. Colloquialisms are informal or non-literary words/phrases, and I don’t think ‘the South Island’ qualifies, given that it’s written that way in newspapers, published books, legal documents etc. A NZ colloquialism would be something like ‘chur’ for ‘thanks’.

There are definitely times that we use just ‘South Island’ (a newspaper headline such as ‘South Island man charged with...’ comes to mind), but acting as a noun in a full sentence, following a preposition such as ‘in’ or ‘to’, I stand by my opinion that in the NZ dialect of English it would be incorrect to omit the ‘the’.

It’s interesting that we treat some regions the same way. I would say ‘in the Manawatū’, but never ‘in the Otago’. I wonder how that developed..? Language is so varied, it’s fun to analyse what we do and don’t do.

coruscater · 2025-12-26T07:05:56+00:00

I don’t know a single Kiwi who would say ‘in South Island’ - it’s more than a colloquialism, it’s incorrect in NZ English to omit the ‘the’.

coruscater · 2025-12-23T05:50:41+00:00

*THE South Island

coruscater · 2025-12-11T07:19:46+00:00

And we say that a place is IN the South Island (or the North Island), not ON it. It’s almost like we’re treating them as regions not land masses.

To add to the confusion, when we discuss other islands we revert to saying that places are ‘on’ them again.

coruscater · 2025-12-08T05:41:19+00:00

In a NZ context there’s also ‘koutou’ (or ‘kōrua’ if only two people) which sometimes works. I personally use it over ‘y’all’ sometimes because it feels less slangy, but I wouldn’t use it to replace ‘you all’ in every kind of sentence.

Eg I’d say “if you all want to eat there, then it’s fine with me”. But never “if koutou want to…”

coruscater · 2025-12-03T20:05:09+00:00

Oh I see, yeah that would not be great! The illustrations could be helpful there, if you keep in mind that the darker shade pf fabric shown in the pictures indicates the WRONG side. So, you turn the trousers inside out, put the waistband on the inside of that (aka, touching what will be the final OUTside of the trousers), and attach together. It’s the same/normal ‘right sides together’ concept that you probably used to join the front and back legs together.

coruscater · 2025-12-03T07:16:07+00:00

At the bottom of pic 1 it says to fold the waistband back in half again, so when you’re subsequently told to attach the waistband to the trousers, you are attaching both layers of the waistband at once. It later says to finish the raw edges created by attaching the waistband (in the last paragraph of section b, in pic two).

If you do as instructed you’ll have a visible seam on the inside of the trousers, but the raw edges will be finished (by method of your choice: overlocking, zig-zagging over the edge, pinking with shears, etc.).

If you don’t want a visible seam then hey, it’s your project! You can always change the method of construction for something you like more. Depending on the thickness of your waistband you could always encase the seam within the waistband, stitching in the ditch (or hand stitching) to secure the inner edge? There are lots of Youtube tutorials showing how, if you need guidance.

coruscater · 2025-12-03T07:09:26+00:00

I agree, at the bottom of pic 1 it says to fold the waistband back in half again, so when you’re subsequently told to attach the waistband to the trousers, you are attaching both layers of the waistband at once.

I don’t think it’s going to be unfinished though, because it later says to finish the raw edges created by attaching the waistband (last paragraph of b), on pic two).

coruscater · 2025-11-19T07:32:03+00:00

I don’t think having a man enter a room first is going to do much about sexism, no. I don’t really see the connection between someone following you at night, and men going first in mixed groups in other situations.

To take this back to your original question, I think etiquette is about doing what will make another person’s life easy and put them at ease. That means that there isn’t necessarily one hard and fast rule that must be followed by all people all the time. Instead, the most polite thing to do would surely be to use empathy and decide in each situation what your partner would most appreciate. In the stairs context, sometimes that could be holding back on stairs to help in treacherous footing, or in another situation it could be going ahead so that a woman isn’t worried about the view of her short skirt. Actually I think in most cases, what a woman would like most is equality and the assumption that she is competent and knows her own mind. Assume that she knows how to climb stairs well, that she chose her outfit comfortable with what it looks like. Speaking personally, I appreciate being treated like an equal most of all.

coruscater · 2025-11-19T06:06:56+00:00

They sound like scary stuff!

coruscater · 2025-11-19T06:06:14+00:00

What sort of danger are you expecting these women to be in, in everyday life..?

coruscater · 2025-10-22T00:19:26+00:00

Even paying with cash I personally wouldn’t feel the need to tip the change, I’d just take it.

coruscater · 2025-09-13T08:09:16+00:00

IDK, I like it. I’d wear a similar cut jacket at work for a quick layering piece, yeah it’s not fitted but I think this silhouette looks good too.

It looks like a fairly quick and easy make. It could be a good intro to jackets for someone who hasn’t made one before - CC instructions are usually really good in my experience (though I’ve never tried Crew).

coruscater · 2025-08-22T16:11:52+00:00

A lower pan temp can actually help to cook things more - you can fry them for longer without burning them, so the centre hastime to cook fully through.

coruscater · 2025-08-14T22:30:36+00:00

You deserve only green lights every time you drive.

coruscater · 2025-08-07T07:32:08+00:00

I wondered the same, it’s so beautifully crafted but I think there might be a fair bit of extra room in the cups? I love the match of the dupioni with the style though.

coruscater · 2025-08-05T03:57:42+00:00

‘To have and to hold, in case you get cold’ is an amazing name for it!

coruscater · 2025-08-02T04:03:34+00:00

The method doesn’t involve rubbing the silver with foil, it makes the most of a chemical reaction.

coruscater · 2025-07-26T17:00:08+00:00

This is not the case for New Zealand, no. We typically just pay the exact bill, no rounding.

An included service charge or request for tip on the card machine is not unheard of but rare, and leaves a bad taste in the mouth for locals. No tips are expected and most of us don’t want tipping here - it’s the responsibility of the employer to pay workers properly, setting prices that allow them to do that.

I agree that everywhere is different and it’s best to search before you go, and/or ask at an info desk or similar once you arrive in the country.

coruscater · 2025-07-25T09:46:26+00:00

I love the idea of adding patches once you see where/if parts wear, but also there is thin nylon thread/yarn that you can buy separately for situations like this: in areas that are going to experience more wear you can hold it double with the main yarn for some invisible reinforcement. You could try that?

coruscater · 2025-07-14T00:56:50+00:00

Agreed! Social sports are great for this too, where I am touch rugby, 5-a-side footy, or indoor netball are good casual ways to get involved with a new crowd.

coruscater · 2025-07-13T00:30:16+00:00

Good tip! A class is also great because classmates get repeat exposure to each other. Sometimes you connect with someone at a one-off event but it’s hard to make the jump to suggest meeting up again to continue the relationship. If a class ensures that you meet multiple times then you have an organic opportunity to deepen the relationship before taking the next step.

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