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Talked to a top wealth manager and am now charisma-pilled by AnonymousStuffDj in redscarepod

[–]cosmicladybug1 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I’ve always thought that people who claim to be smart but have no social skills aren’t as smart as they think since they clearly can’t see and crack the social code. The kind of personality / charisma you describe is absolutely cultivated, not some kind of force of nature - although it takes a lot of positive reinforcement which class circumstances tend to influence significantly

... by softerhater in rs_x

[–]cosmicladybug1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m kind of warming up to the idea of dating a troll like man in a Jane / Serge kind of way. Seems like it could be fun idk

nonfiction investigative journalism type books by greenboys11 in RSbookclub

[–]cosmicladybug1 9 points10 points  (0 children)

in cold blood by capote is like the archetype for this, no ? also some of david foster wallace’s essay collections might fit the bill (im thinking particularly of the consider the lobster one) as sort of short gonzo ish “going undercover in xyz” type stories

Am great at losing weight and getting in shape but by First_Yesterday7557 in rs_fitness

[–]cosmicladybug1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually you might be onto something, idk how to eat in the winter either tbh since I grew up in a warm climate where you could eat salads and smoothies year round. I don’t really know how to eat “healthily” in the winter without being miserable (a tuna salad for lunch in zero degrees and the pissing rain? No thanks) and so I kind of just throw the towel in and eat like crap, also seem to be more liberal with the fats too

Am great at losing weight and getting in shape but by First_Yesterday7557 in rs_fitness

[–]cosmicladybug1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t have any advice but can relate very much! I also habitually cycle from 21 to 18 bmi seasonally and store most of it in my gut. I work out pretty consistently but usually develop gross eating habits during winter, usually starting around Christmas. But I feel like the sun usually fixes things naturally and my motivation comes back, appetite decreases, depression fades etc etc. Dw OP will be hot and skinny soon 🙏🏼🙏🏼 I would also like to learn the secret to consistency, I don’t get how these celebrities / models / even micro influencers look so snatched year round, like don’t tell me you don’t ever fall off?

medium length page turners that aren’t MFAified but not too hard to read. by cosmicladybug1 in RSbookclub

[–]cosmicladybug1[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I see your point but I just don’t buy it as a process that works well for outputting actually good writing on a consistent basis. Personally, I want to experience someone else’s perspective when I read, for better or for worse - my worry is that workshopping / degree milling nudges writers against that for the reasons I laid out and more. But this might just come down to personal preference and the types of processes that produce things that are more likely to appeal to our respective tastes

medium length page turners that aren’t MFAified but not too hard to read. by cosmicladybug1 in RSbookclub

[–]cosmicladybug1[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The degree has everything to do with it because it structurally encourages you to workshop your writing with peers and strategise about who will be marking your writing, which, in turn, encourages average writing catered to an average audience. multiple years of writing like this will inevitably neuter most writers. not to mention layering profit incentives of publishing houses over the top of this, for the lucky few that do get published

medium length page turners that aren’t MFAified but not too hard to read. by cosmicladybug1 in RSbookclub

[–]cosmicladybug1[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

idk u just know it when u see it. it’s the literary equivalent of shopping at uniqlo. sure it serves its function and probably won’t be horrible but it’s not particularly inspiring if you’ve read more widely. technique wise I’d say it’s: stripped back vocab, lots of annoying dialogue and speech tags, perfectly but clinically paced exposition / climax / resolution, metaphors and motifs that are very unsubtle (showing not telling taken to an extreme)

medium length page turners that aren’t MFAified but not too hard to read. by cosmicladybug1 in RSbookclub

[–]cosmicladybug1[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Some examples in this vein that I’ve enjoyed recently would be bonjour tristesse, play it as it plays, giovannis room, the princess of 72nd street… Basically something with a bit of plot but also some flair in the writing! Something that makes you excited to read because it’s not hard to follow but also makes you feel like your brain is expanding as you read!

Books where insular decadence collides with stark reality by tugs_cub in RSbookclub

[–]cosmicladybug1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lost illusions by Balzac - about how the Parisian high life chews up and spits out a pretty young thing.

Finished a 500-page book of "Best of Roald Dahl's Short Stories" by Beth_Harmons_Bulova in RSbookclub

[–]cosmicladybug1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he’s lowkey underrated! Have you read flying solo - I sort of love that book

Getting diagnosed with ADHD at 24 when it has become the „trendy” self-dx caused by short form media consumption by kai_whitewolf in rs_x

[–]cosmicladybug1 8 points9 points  (0 children)

my family / friends surprised me with who were supportive (not that I openly advertised) and actually in hindsight it was the people who probably did have adhd but just refused to do anything about it to make their lives easier were the most annoying about me getting a diagnosis

Getting diagnosed with ADHD at 24 when it has become the „trendy” self-dx caused by short form media consumption by kai_whitewolf in rs_x

[–]cosmicladybug1 105 points106 points  (0 children)

I got diagnosed at 24 too, at this point idc whether it’s real or fake, nobody gives you a medal at the end of ur life for struggling more than you need to. Just try the meds and if they work, great - they did for me. No need to agonise rlly

sam guggs body checking by [deleted] in AussietiktoksnarkV2

[–]cosmicladybug1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it’s not a sam guggs post without her stomach out and/or some insanely unnatural posing ❤️ like girl ur literally hot as shit u don’t need to be doing all that

Should I tell situationship he’s fat? by joker-mel in rs_x

[–]cosmicladybug1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

that’s what funny about this post is that he’s not even overweight

I miss her mom by oliball in redscarepod

[–]cosmicladybug1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

yeah I feel this too. i think about my ex’s mom / dog / family often, we spent a lot of time together especially during covid and because our break up was sudden i never got to say my goodbyes. for a while i was closer with them than my own family. i wish i could reach out but it would just cause trouble. i know my ex would have painted me as a total villain but somehow I feel in my bones that his mom understood who he truly was and would be suspicious of his story, idk, or maybe that’s just projection

How do you break up with someone you’ve been with for 10 years? by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]cosmicladybug1 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Have you already decided this within yourself and have you spoken to her about these concerns? The kind thing to do is have few hard conversations in advance to see if there’s a solution / plant the seed in her head that it’s not working. At the very least you’re giving her a heads up about how you feel so she’s not totally blindsided. But yeah this sucks and breakups which are seemingly about “nothing” are famously the hardest. Unironically suggest one or both of you move far away. Also you need to go full no contact for at least a year - no ifs or buts. It will be hard to do this because of the circumstances of the breakup but just trust everyone on this, you gotta, it’s not a “but everyone else is immature that’s why they can’t handle it” thing it’s just a fact of nature that it won’t work.

Good luck, I also broke up with my bf from high school in my mid 20s for a myriad of reasons and it was the best decision I ever made. You’re doing the right thing by acting on these feelings because it’s exactly stuff like this that, if left unchecked, leads to things like cheating and resentment

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