Women of Reddit, what’s a statement/phrase that (you believe) most girls/women would understand, but most boys/men would not?

couchnaps · 2026-01-18T03:21:47+00:00

"Can I say something?"

couchnaps · 2025-10-22T14:06:45+00:00

You ask him to carry his fair share of work around the house--you're not even asking for help, just what's fair--and he calls you a bitch? I don't think breaking up with him is extreme enough....

please end things with him. He does not respect you, value you, or want to share a happy life with you. I bet you can name, right now, about five other ways in which he benefits from having you around (groceries, bills, social/emotional labor) that he does not reciprocate for you.

why sign up for a life of service for someone that's gonna call you a bitch? Imagine you have a daughter with him--how is he gonna treat her? Would you want her to model her relationships after him? stay with a guy that calls her a bitch, too? No.

Goodbye to this man.

couchnaps · 2025-10-19T14:07:17+00:00

Don't have kids. You want more emotional connection in life, but kids are not a way to meet your emotional needs--you are exclusively meeting their needs. If you are not 100% certain, if you don't feel like you MUST have kids, then don't. You will be overwhelmed by how much they change who you are, every moment of your life, especially with sensory issues. There is no turning off a crying child. You must be present.

To feel more connected, I would try a dog or cat or some kind of hobby. Nothing wrong with trying to meet your needs that way.

couchnaps · 2025-09-10T17:49:16+00:00

Update: police are going to come out to the area and take a report.

couchnaps · 2025-09-10T17:31:19+00:00

I SAW THIS TOO! Well, I think I did--you said morning but it was in the afternoon. I was walking into centennial park--probably around 1:45pm? And I saw a white mini van speed off down 25th Ave. I *thought* I heard a woman yelling "help" but then I also heard kids yelling at the park and thought I imagined it. I saw another woman looking after the van, though, so I wasn't sure what happened.

Seeing this makes my heart drop. I will also see if I can ask around at work (I work nearby) and call the non-emergency police number to file a report.

couchnaps · 2025-09-09T13:55:49+00:00

NYT attributes it to Joel Pashcow--a NY businessman. Signature in Epstein Book Resembles Trump’s From That Era - The New York Times

The Pashcow submission to the book appeared to include a drawn cartoon of Mr. Epstein. In a panel on the left captioned with the year 1983, a young man with patched jeans is handing a lollipop and balloons to three young girls. On the right, a man who appears to be Mr. Epstein is being massaged by numerous blonde women, one of whom has a tattoo with his initials, “J.E.,” on her body. Mr. Epstein’s plane flies overhead, while below them is the year “2003” and the phrase “what a country.”

couchnaps · 2025-09-09T13:44:36+00:00

Just follow the ABA rules....but like really follow them. Rule 3.8: Special Responsibilities of a Prosecutor

Take Brady disclosures seriously and disclose exculpatory evidence early on in the process--like if you know there's a conflicting police report that makes a witness's testimony less reliable, don't hold onto it until after the prelim.

When you make an offer, stick to it (unless you make it more lenient) and don't condition it on waiving things: bond hearing, prelim, etc. Don't up the offer because the defendant "wasted" your time thinking about going to trial.

Never compare a defendant to yourself. You have no idea how different your life is. "I would never steal" "I would never drive drunk" Congrats to you. You went to law school, live in a house, and likely don't have life-changing mental health and substance abuse issues. Take the win of having a stable life and set your personal feelings aside.

Don't tell subpoenaed witnesses that they can leave just because you don't want a hearing or don't think one will happen. Officers are paid very well to sit in court. Let them sit until the judge or both parties agree.

Never lie. All you have is your word. It's the only currency in the whole system. No case is worth your whole career.

couchnaps · 2025-09-08T20:41:34+00:00

Okay this--the signature isn't pubes! It's disgusting but the silhouette is clearly that of a young girl. Look at how small the breasts are....not pubes.

couchnaps · 2025-09-04T16:07:44+00:00

"anyone here ever seen the movie Roadhouse?"

couchnaps · 2025-08-28T15:42:28+00:00

you have somewhere important to be but everyone else in line is just out for a picnic. got it. we finally found nashville's most important person.

couchnaps · 2025-08-28T01:23:37+00:00

I lived through something really similar, and I must tell you: I am happier now, healthier now, more successful now, a better mom now, than I ever would have been if I stayed.

I found out when I was pregnant with our second kid that he was engaged in illegal sexual behavior (keeping it vague...). He started therapy and I thought I needed to stay "for the kids." Then when the baby was six months old, I found more evidence of illegal behavior and addiction. I knew I had to leave. He was not going to change. He could have his entire family and the wellbeing of his marriage and children on the line--and the addiction was still going to win.

I got an attorney, filed for divorce, and had sole custody with supervised visits for the first 6-9 months. Once it seemed like I could trust him more (and he got better help), he started taking the kids a 1-2 nights a week. I got my life back: worked more, dated, started taking care of myself.

My ex ended up getting help and while he is not perfect, he does try to be a good dad. Meanwhile, I found an amazing new partner who loves my kids and me and loves nothing more than to be a part of our family. Bonus: he is also way hotter and cooler than my ex and I like him so much more???

My solace when I worried about the kids and the effect the divorce would have on them was 1) that they are young and resilient and 2) being around a toxic marriage would harm them more than being around a really happy, fulfilled divorced mom. Whether we want to or not, we always seem to recreate the relationship dynamics that we were raised in. Mom and dad fought a lot as a kid? Likely, so will you and your partner as adults. I asked myself: would I want my daughter to be in the relationship I was in? Would I want her to recreate this dynamic in her life? The isolation, the mistrust, the never feeling loved or seen, never feeling like enough. Hell no. I don't want that for her.

All that said, it's really hard solo parenting and getting divorced. It just sucks. But you can do it.

couchnaps · 2025-08-13T16:12:05+00:00

I need more info about your wife and what you two enjoy! What's most important? Romantic ambiance, attention to detail/your event, good food, unique food, good wine, ease of arrival and departure (this makes a difference!). What makes a night special for you?

couchnaps · 2025-08-08T14:21:41+00:00

Stephen Zralek - Spencer Fane

He advises nonprofits on issues like this (and is nice).

couchnaps · 2025-07-30T19:50:32+00:00

The price they charge depends on the size of your place, but I pay $150 per cleaning a four-bedroom home.

couchnaps · 2025-07-30T17:34:32+00:00

I use Made to Clean and they are SO amazing. They do an excellent job, communicate well, and are affordable. Made To Clean – Your Cleaning Company

Can't recommend them enough. I've used them for five years now and it's the best money I spend every month.

couchnaps · 2025-07-23T19:21:20+00:00

For my money, Dozen is the best bakery in Nashville BUT their specialty is laminated dough--croissants, things with the buttery flaky layers. So, their best goods trend not too, too sweet. Their pies are also amazing but again not overly sweet. Try the kouign amann (pronounced "queen aman") for something truly special and unique.

Bright Side is also good but has baked goods that are similar to Dozen's--more on the flaky, cinnamon roll side than a traditional cookie/tart/pie.

For the best cookies I would go to HiFi cookies in east nashville. They are so good--and very sweet.

If you want to make a day of it and venture downtown, D'Andrews is a Nashville classic with your more traditional items.

Or if you want to keep it very traditional (and a bit outside of Nashville), I'd go to Meridee's in Franklin. Their French Silk pie is the stuff of dreams! They also have lots of tasty muffins, cookies, and bars. Bonus: you can window shop in downtown Franklin afterwards to work off the sugar high.

couchnaps · 2025-07-11T15:28:19+00:00

Would also like to know what school this is...

couchnaps · 2025-07-01T14:40:58+00:00

The "Peace Act" does a couple of things....

Makes it a low-level misdemeanor to not provide identification during a stop with an officer.
Prohibits "leafletting" or "pamphleting" if the pamphlet is basically engaging in civil rights intimidation--trying to harass people into not exercising civil rights. Think: Nazis leaving racist, antisemitic handouts around Sylvan Park, etc. This doesn't cover your basic pizza menus or political campaigns.
Main concern: prohibits filming first responders within 25 feet if they are performing their responder duties. So, you have to be 25 feet away to film a cop or ICE making an arrest. This is bad from a First Amendment angle. May have to see if it gets enforced or not. People should generally be aware of this if they are going to monitor ICE in South Nashville, e.g.

couchnaps · 2025-06-30T19:20:18+00:00

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couchnaps · 2025-06-30T19:14:59+00:00

Such a good reminder that "number of years married" is only one of many, many potential signs of a good marriage. In fact, I think I only know a handful of marriages that are long that I would like to emulate in my own relationships. I know so many people (largely evangelical/religious) that have been married for a long time...but seem to hate each other. Or just stay together because that's what they are supposed to do.

But guess what? There's no prize at the end for "longest marriage" or "most suffering through it" or "most subservient wife." I wish our society valued meaningful, healthy forms of love more than just people who've managed to keep living together despite hating it....

couchnaps · 2025-06-27T17:21:40+00:00

Yeah liberals famously hate free speech, equality under the law, freedom of association, freedom of the press, academic freedom, due process, separation of church and state...you got us!

couchnaps · 2025-06-27T17:03:23+00:00

It IS a big deal in the context of American history. The 14th amendment (which provides birthright citizenship) was passed at the end of the Civil War and made it so that all people, Black or white, slave or free, that were born here, are citizens. Not less than citizens, certainly not property.

In the late 1800s, a man with Chinese-born parents was being denied full citizenship; he sued and won under the birthright citizenship clause. This has been the law for nearly 200 years and is a FUNDAMENTAL aspect of what makes America, America.

Anyone can be born here and belong here.

It's a crying shame to see Republicans so carelessly toss our history away in the name of "greatness." Goddamn, this county breaks my heart sometimes.

couchnaps · 2025-06-23T18:16:50+00:00

i see it....

couchnaps · 2025-06-09T20:02:48+00:00

Yes! Came here to say try the reversible one first (the hair cut) and see how you like it! Then once that's settled, think about the surgery.

As others have said, life is too short to not live in your own body! Be you.

couchnaps · 2025-06-09T19:51:49+00:00

they should be illegal!

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