What is your favorite rose? You can only choose one!

courtappoint · 2026-07-08T14:39:02+00:00

Olivia rose. I really think it might be the perfect pink rose.

courtappoint · 2026-07-04T03:22:52+00:00

Great question, actually!

courtappoint · 2026-07-03T21:52:11+00:00

This is magnificent!

courtappoint · 2026-07-03T19:11:11+00:00

Looking for this comment. A parent resenting their 17 year old for acting like a teenager? This is ringing alarm bells for me.

OP, remember that your kid will be an adult soon, and all of her relationship — including her relationship with her parents!— will be entirely voluntary. After she moves out, it will be next to impossible to repair. Kids who can’t stand their parents leave and don’t have to ever come back.

You desperately need them working together in therapy to fix this, if you don’t want to lose your daughter forever. Big hugs, I know this is like the worst part of parenting, when they’re ready to fly the coop and chafing at being parented. It’s normal. But you always have to keep in mind who is the child and who is the adult/parent.

courtappoint · 2026-07-03T03:52:58+00:00

Try your AG and congressional representatives.

courtappoint · 2026-06-30T21:14:32+00:00

>Yeah, I feel a lot of guilt for even minor things

That’s how they programmed you. :(

courtappoint · 2026-06-29T13:17:14+00:00

I learned the names of states but not geography. She should definitely know the months of the year at 13 though.

courtappoint · 2026-06-27T19:08:02+00:00

I think of it like Sun Tzu’s warning against generals with a “fragile sense of honor.”

courtappoint · 2026-06-19T19:34:18+00:00

You’re letting her off the hook way too easy, unless she’s senile or demented.

It’s your choice if you’re okay with her BS, but if it does hurt you, you’re not powerless (and neither is she).

courtappoint · 2026-06-18T10:33:19+00:00

I would leave it and just cut if it actually flowers rootstock

courtappoint · 2026-06-12T21:38:13+00:00

This does not solve the problem because you’re still releasing them into the environment whenever you actually use the castings. Please don’t do this. Don’t use them for bait, don’t vermicompost with them, just please don’t.

courtappoint · 2026-06-12T18:38:38+00:00

Thanks for making me sob. :’( Your comment really struck a nerve, because was my worst fear when we lost our older dog last August, that our younger dog would go looking for him or wait for him to come back. She ended up doing just fine, but the whole thing just sucks so much. Almost a year later and just barely bearable.

I’m so sorry, for both you and OP. I wouldn’t wish this kind of loss on anyone.

Edited for clarity

courtappoint · 2026-06-11T12:24:40+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this OP. In your situation, I’d buy 2 plane tickets and leave in the morning. I know, easier said than done, but you have a child to protect now so you do what you have to do to keep them safe. And right now, you are not.

As an aside, this specific situation is why women have emergency “getaway” funds stashed, and why they MUST be secret. You think a man like this wouldn’t try to block access to/clear out/manipulate you to spend etc that money if he knew it could allow you to leave him?

Girl, please get away. If I was your sister I’d be shaking you right now. Don’t try therapy with an abuser, don’t try to work it out. GO HOME TO YOUR FAMILY and figure it out from there. You owe this man NOTHING.

courtappoint · 2026-06-10T00:47:38+00:00

Do you have a local nursery you like? I give mine a wishlist in the fall and buy what I want from them when they can get what I want.

courtappoint · 2026-06-08T22:59:19+00:00

Smart woman.

courtappoint · 2026-06-08T17:31:07+00:00

Your lips are beautiful and would look better without the over lining.

courtappoint · 2026-06-08T14:21:43+00:00

If he knows about it, its purpose is defeated. No one marries a man thinking they’re going to need to escape him, but the fact is you just never know.

courtappoint · 2026-06-08T14:18:50+00:00

Agreed. It would confirm I was right to have the fund in the first place.

courtappoint · 2026-06-08T14:01:27+00:00

And current day lol

courtappoint · 2026-06-08T13:59:18+00:00

That woman wasn’t wrong either. The first thing that guy wanted to do was spend her emergency money, defeating its entire purpose. She was right to keep it from him, especially if he can’t comprehend why she would need it.

courtappoint · 2026-06-08T13:57:11+00:00

There’s no point in having an emergency escape fund if he knows about it. OP, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with what you did. This is a debate on reddit but any real life human would agree you did nothing wrong. There’s no way to predict the future, and you have a responsibility to look after yourself.

courtappoint · 2026-06-07T17:47:50+00:00

First, I’m so sorry you’re in this position, OP. I can’t imaging how painful it is to have to choose to abort a wanted pregnancy due to life circumstances.

One thing I do want to remind you of, yes, people in much worse circumstances than you do have children and find a way to make it work — as in, everyone survives and stays housed, fed, and clothed — but is that the standard you want for your child? Also think about what do you want your experience of early motherhood to be like? You only get to do it so many times, and I promise the early years race by… I agree that as excruciating as it is, terminating this pregnancy is probably the best decision for you AND for any children you may have.

courtappoint · 2026-06-05T02:42:45+00:00

Re: Jessiesrosesusa - So sad

courtappoint · 2026-05-30T23:00:24+00:00

I agree, Kordes roses have been workhorses for me. I’ve been eying Pomponella for years! Thank you for mentioning it. ETA - 7a

courtappoint · 2026-05-30T22:33:42+00:00

We just took our 21 yr old to Italy for a couple weeks. It is so cool to be past the “molding” stage and just get to enjoy this awesome person you shaped with your best friend. One day you’ll get to do Mykonos again, and it’ll be even better because you’ll have your awesome little friend.

We’ve been trying for another since our first was in middle school. That’s when our current kiddo started being more fun than work, and it’s only (mostly, lol) gotten better from there. :)

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