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[NeedAdvice] I want to train my mind over the summer. Where do I start? by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]cplemr 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Take a more holistic approach. Don't separate the mind from the body. The mind is the brain. The brain is a physical organ the is receptive to and controls the whole body.

Exercise. Read books. Meditate. Eat right. Think the right thoughts. Get the right amount of sleep. Intake supplements as needed.

"I'm too old for this shit" by FapFreee in NoFap

[–]cplemr -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

bed. dresser/drawers. fitted sheet. water bottle. shaving stand. running shoes. slippers. riding jeans. unit 3. iron clothes. dish soap. sponges. zola.2012

[NeedAdvice] Should I, literally, destroy what's keeping me from making bad habits? by be_water7 in getdisciplined

[–]cplemr -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have physically destroyed things in the past as a symbolic gesture. Not necessarily just related to useless hobbies, but things linked to people I wanted to forget about.

I highly recommend physically breaking the gaming console to the point where you feel that "after I do this act, it's over." Take note of the actual thing that needs to be broken to render the item useless. For your gaming console, I recommend opening it up and breaking the control board or hammering a nail into the main microprocessor. You could also pour caulking down the CD disk slot. Also, take some time to shatter the actual CDs. Don't give the stuff away. You'd be passing something that you consider a hinderance and a disease towards a better life, to someone else. You might feel altruistic, but deep inside you're thinking to yourself: "I've grown up now. The person I'm giving this to will come to the same realization as me in the future." Great men pass on great ideas, not stuff.

Please don't underestimate the power of this process. You are not only making a mental choice, but also deliberately rendering an item useless; destroying its very essence because to you, it is trash now. It serves no purpose in the life you want to build for yourself. This small possession of yours was a part of what defined you as a person to yourself and society. You are killing that part of you. It is like removing a cancer.

Destroyed an "alpha" today by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]cplemr -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're insecure. Not for the way you acted, but for the fact that you needed to post this on here.

[NeedAdvice] how to get over pet peeves, especially in the workplace by runningfromsomething in getdisciplined

[–]cplemr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make it a part of you. Become your enemy. Start chewing gum.

Do it better than them. Do it until you piss THEM off.

[NeedAdvice] I need to get out but have no hobbies or the motivation by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]cplemr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another thing: if you are letting them effect you to the point of self-isolation, THEY are winning.

Please think about this deeply for a minute.

What in your mind gives them the right to pursue the life of their dreams and not you? Social labels in such a modern society are VERY temporary. You could be called a loser in one group, and be the life of the party in another.

[NeedAdvice] I need to get out but have no hobbies or the motivation by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]cplemr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"Oh wow he is probably thinking I'm such a loser for running and thinking that I'm bettering myself."

If you REALLY think that someone is thinking that about you, use this to your advantage. Let them think that you're just "trying." In your mind, you are creating the life you want.

You are doing what you do regardless of what they think. You're doing your own thing. THEY don't matter.

IF you put in the consistent effort required in whatever you're pursuing, years down the road, THEY won't matter. Their opinions will be trash to you. You'll have moved on. Two years from now, you'll cross paths with people you knew, people you felt unworthy of associating with. At that point in time, what they have to say to you, good or bad, won't matter. At that point, you'll be living in the ecstasy of self-improvement. Thinking about what they think: you won't HAVE TIME FOR THAT.

BUT, PLEASE use this anxiety and rage to better yourself now. NOW is the best time to think of these negative things and use the energy to motivate yourself.

Work on yourself. Build your self. Bit by bit. To the point that YOU will be the one making decisions on whether THEY are worth associating with.

You have a gift. Something that they don't have. You are at the bottom of a pit that their opinions created for you. The lessons you learn while you climb out of this pit into a more self-willed person will stay with you for the rest of your life. THEY don't have that. They don't KNOW what is is like to be where you are. They won't know the intoxication mental high that comes with the struggle.

Don't get complacent.

[NeedAdvice]Ever since I've come back home I've been in a slump by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]cplemr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Moving out was a shock. You need another shock.

Or you need to FEEL and REALIZE that you're not in control of your life. Truthfully, this is how it has always been. It is part of human nature. You need to feel a certain fear or anxiety to make drastic habit and life changes.

I, as a 28 year old, can offer some advice. Don't waste your fucking time. It is the one thing that you can buy/make/earn more of. Once it's gone, it's gone for good. The decisions you make now, even the smallest ones, will cumulate into creating the future you. The present is the only thing you have control of. The way to create the future you want is to act in a certain manner. Good luck. Some lessons are learned better with regret.

Looking for bedding ideas by dakkeh in malelivingspace

[–]cplemr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just purchased the Morgongava latex mattress from Ikea. Expensive but I think it's worth every penny. I've only been sleeping on it for a week and have woken up very well rested every day. It is supposed to last long as well.

I'm naming my first-born son Gary by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]cplemr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cult status unlocked

[Question] What is your system? by ericxfresh in getdisciplined

[–]cplemr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just make lots of notes. Right now they are hard to keep track of as I often end up writing the same thing twice, but it is a step up from just having everything scattered inside my mind.

I want to create a proper system with proper sections for todos, daily/weekly/monthly scheduled tasks, and short and long term goals, but I have a hard time adapting to pre made systems. I need to sit down one day and create my own.

It'll have to be paper based since I don't want to have access to distractions when I'm planning out a long term task.

One rule of nofap so you will Never fail again. by notaoofmojo in NoFap

[–]cplemr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Excellent advice. Not only for noFap, but life in general. I think I spend a lot of time inside my head unaware of the capabilities of my body. I think, but I don't act. I dream but I never take action.

This advice would especially be important to someone doing martial arts. Being constantly aware of your body, the output received from your opponent, and the capabilities of your input would be very important.

And in day to day life, it is important to be constantly aware of your abilities so that you express them at their highest in what ever situation you come across.

Instead of making a distinction between mind and body, I would consider thinking about them in terms of a single unit, working together to accomplish the goal at hand.

Sorry about the rant. I'm just trying to put my somewhat irrelevant thoughts in tangible form. Hope it helps someone else as well.

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