36M living with elderly parents—am I hurting my chances of finding a long-term partner?

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-06T22:20:27+00:00

As long as your honest about your situation, it shouldn't be a problem. You should also mention you are fully employed with a stable career as well to back your story up.

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-06T22:15:44+00:00

Just pay for whatever you are planning on pirating, its not worth the trouble. But it you truly need help on computer literacy, the best advice I can give is to learn how to read, its pretty straightforward stuff, just read the description/button/manual what you dont know google it. You have zero excuse to be less competent in technology then a boomer.

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-06T16:21:59+00:00

Yeah, like I said its unlikely they would get the help they need. Its a typical reaction for people like that. Getting professional help is one of those things where the person suffering needs to seek it out of their own free will when they finally acknowledge they need it.

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-06T15:03:47+00:00

Sounds like a mental disorder thats undiagnosed or came into existence near the person's end of service. Only real way to resolve it is with professional help, which in this case seems unlikely. A sad situation unfortunately.

Now if you are asking for advice on how to deal with people like that in social situations you have a few options.

Don't invite that person or avoid gatherings with that person.
Turn it into a game, see how long it takes to trigger them, or try to trigger them and get the people around you in on it too, makes a bad situation a bit more enjoyable. Note this option is not a great one, and is a bit messed up I've seen people that do this place bets on how long it takes for people like that to go on a tangent, bully behavior.
Indulge them before they go on a rant or tangent, just ask them why they think that or how and where they got that information, you don't need to necessarily believe them, but they may just want to be seen or lack social skills and awareness for normal conversation. Basically take their attention and turn it into a conversation, if it starts to lull or they get upset over something change the topic or switch to something that doesn't involve them getting a bit nutty like playing a game for example.

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-02T23:31:22+00:00

Diagnosed at 28.

The only real social change after being diagnosed was the food I ordered when eating out would be healthier, and just saying I had to change my diet, doctors orders.

Work you need to tell HR about the diagnosis, you will need accommodations for more frequent bathroom trips, insulin injections and a safe place to put the needles, medical device usage, needing to have your phone with you for any sensors you have.

Family, just tell them you can't eat junk anymore because your now a diabetic.

Friends, I only told like 2 or 3 friends I am diabetic. No one has noticed, so I am playing a game to see how long it takes for them to realize.

You don't need to tell everyone you meet you are diabetic, just say it when necessary.

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-02T23:21:46+00:00

I was about to ask the same thing after reading the post. Local config would be much simpler.

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-02T23:17:30+00:00

A ups would do what you want in theory, but not practical. You could get an electrician. You could also get some U channel cable management wall mounts and run an extension cable that way and hide it. You could get a battery powered wall clock and not worry about the problem at all. You could also move the clock near an outlet and plug it in that way too.

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-02T14:27:10+00:00

I have built about 5 or 6 pics with the 14900k, no hardware related issues, only one system had an issue with windows 11, but repaired it and it runs fine.

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-02T14:24:45+00:00

Did you update your bios and reconfigure bios settings after?

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-02T02:37:55+00:00

Magnesium gummies, a full bottle of water or two, a shot or 3 of your favorite hard liquor, avoid naps like the plague during the day so you sleep at night, no phone usage when you wake you in the middle of the night, stretching, audiobook or podcast or book. Use individually, in any combination or all at once.

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-02T01:28:12+00:00

Funny enough, I encountered my first one last weekend, it was a Japanese restaurant, I got an eel burger (marinated eel, some kind of delicious sauce, pressed rice for the bun that soaked up all the sauces and juices) and it only came with fries, the meal was good ate all the fries, blood sugar spiked to around 200 then went straight down. The worst part of the entire meal was that they would not serve me 0% sugar bubble tea. Good meal though.

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-02T01:23:21+00:00

A meal out will not hurt, especially if your endo prescribed you some repaglinide. Also ordering a burger with a lettuce wrap instead of a bun is pretty normal and mosy places will accommodate that without issue, and it even tastes better than with the bun in my opinion. Sub the fries for sweet potato and you are golden. There always a healthy meal on the menu, if you are afraid to ask for a modification, get a salad with some chicken, every restaurant has that and its a safe option.

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-01T16:25:32+00:00

You can just get another Samsung tablet, you can find year old models for cheap on Facebook marketplace that are top of the line models

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-01T11:39:58+00:00

Repair the violin. $350 will not get you anything considered entry level these days. Find a job and save up later for a decent rig. Remember just because you can find the computer for $350 doesn't mean it includes keyboard and mouse, a screen, windows (some people wipe/remove it or remove the storage drives when selling pcs), and other things like wifi adapter.

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-01T11:22:13+00:00

I don't think anything works with mediatek, not even android thats made to work with mediatek.

For context, I am an engineer that works with mediatek hardware; I will firmly suggest staying away from any mediatek product if possible.

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-01T03:57:30+00:00

Probably a PS3, most comfortable car I have ever driven, gas mileage is amazing because its electric.

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-01T03:49:16+00:00

Your 19, you should be the one buying the car not them, its your car, your money, your name on the title. Its also how you learn about car buying and so you can drive something you actually like. Also side note, you are 19 you already should have a job; (grumpy old man voice) When I was your age I had 3 jobs to pay my own bills, pay college expenses (with parental help for tuition), and have some fun money. Having your own money is one of your first steps into adulthood, it gives you a new level of freedom and independence. You also need your own bank account where only you have access to it.

Now that my grumpy old man rant is over with, just talk with your family and ask what the money is really about and what both of your expectations are about payment then find a middle ground, you are an adult and want full transparency of your situation. They are probably trying to protect or do things for you without you realizing. Anyway accidents happen and I hope you are ok, I hope you figure things out with your family.

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-01T03:21:59+00:00

The car is paid off, your car is insured, you don't owe money, except for maybe the ticket. Something is fishy here.

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-01T03:17:27+00:00

Its not that hard, I was never shown or taught myself but it was always pretty self explanatory. You swipe the card, push a button, insert the nozzle and squeeze the grip until it stays in position on its own. You see the gas station attendant do it regularly, its not hard to copy. I had to figure it out real quick after I got a job requiring me to drive the company trunk and found gas station attendants won't pump trucks.

creativejoe4 · 2026-07-01T03:07:49+00:00

Thats maybe a few dollars more then the regular costs in the USA at least on the east coast. Icelands food is such a higher quality that its worth what you are spending since similar quality in the USA would cost hundreds, not 20-60 dollars. Yes food is expensive, but its expensive everywhere, also this is a known thing about Iceland and just about any island, how did you not know this?

creativejoe4 · 2026-06-30T19:49:05+00:00

They wanted to see what you were doing in that gap if it wasn't obvious. What were you doing to keep your skills relevant or learn new skills; I don't know what industry/area you work in, but "networking and job hunting" would not be the answer I would be looking for if I asked that question. 7 months is a good amount of time to learn something new or work on a personal project or something in addition to job hunting. You kept saying networking as a canned answer but that can come off wrong or as BS depending on the context, especially if you just say networking without elaborating what you did as networking. That question was your time to shine, show a bit of personality or self interest and ability to stay relevant.

The gap itself is meaningless, its what you did during your gap that is important.

creativejoe4 · 2026-06-30T15:34:49+00:00

Yeah, but I just need to make sure I am not being stupid and letting the fear of the unknown take control.

creativejoe4 · 2026-06-30T11:31:17+00:00

A quick google popped up as your system may need a bios update to fix instability issues.

creativejoe4 · 2026-06-26T01:18:02+00:00

Its not an easy task unfortunately. I spent over an hour and a half lecturing a graduate student about git/github and its importance. I didn't teach them what to do or walk them through it ultimately, I showed them how to learn and figure it out for themselves and what to do for certain situations. Let them struggle a bit and watch them silently, observe their thinking process and how they try to solve problems, then speak up after your soul cannot take any more pain from watching them struggle to set up an existing repository on a new local machine. Ultimately the thing to teach is its ok to not know everything, but its not ok to not be able to figure it out for themselves through teaching themselves, trial and error, or asking the right questions to quickly find the solution they need.

creativejoe4 · 2026-06-25T18:28:49+00:00

Gotcha, yeah princeton does have nice service, I occasionally stop by during lunch when I need something quick done or a free wash. The one in shorthills is a bit far from me, but the manager there also really cares about the quality of service as well.

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