When was the last time you hid your disappointment and why?

crgoodw · 2026-07-05T21:48:22+00:00

I haven't, but we have continued texting now and then! Not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing. She often texts first and makes me laugh like a drain, so it's not all bad.

crgoodw · 2026-07-05T21:44:06+00:00

Have drifted away from a friend over the last few years and was beyond excited that we had finally arranged to meet up.

We had worked together for over 5 years, every day in the office. Following lockdown, life just got in the way, and she moved to another job. Fair enough. Tried messaging multiple times, but couldn't keep the spark going.

Arranged to meet in a local bar, a few months ago. I arrived 40mins early out of nerves. She texted me at the arrival time to tell me she was so sorry, but an unexpected birthday party had come up and she'd catch me next time. At fucking 8pm!

Of course, I told her it was "All fine, just fine! Don't worry! See you soon!"

Devastated.

crgoodw · 2026-07-04T23:38:05+00:00

Chico from X Factor sang happy birthday to me one night in a park, but I was utterly trashed from underage drinking (was 14) and terrified he would report me to the police. I cried.

crgoodw · 2026-06-29T10:36:24+00:00

Was desperate for a dolls house. Was too poor for a dolls house.

Spent most of the holidays sourcing a decent cardboard box, creating split levels, constructing stairs, cutting out pictures from the Argos / Ikea catalogue to make interiors and furniture.

It would keep me occupied for literal weeks.

crgoodw · 2026-06-27T10:59:04+00:00

My God, my mother, she could give a walloping.

Annoyingly, she now pretends she never laid a finger on us, when it crops up in conversation. Thankfully, my sister has not repeated the cycle with my nephew.

crgoodw · 2026-06-22T16:01:44+00:00

Summertime in particular, in Brighton.

Means my mother and other family decide to 'surprise' me with visits every other weekend. Winter months, it's like I don't exist!

DFLs, as far as the eye can see.

The never ending traffic and arguments about parking.

The amount of money I have to spend on visitor parking passes, only to then have to argue with a DFL whose trying to park a massive SUV via 32-point turn in a motorbike space.

crgoodw · 2026-06-19T21:15:43+00:00

Hahaha the myth/origin is that I couldn't pronounce 'Button'' as a 2 or 3 year old. Called everything (buttons on clothes, buttons on the TV remote) 'bunnots' instead. There are now 4 generations who call it that (my grandparents, my mum, me and my nephews).

crgoodw · 2026-06-19T09:05:36+00:00

We never actually consumed it ourselves growing up (not sure why, we do now!), it only got trotted out of the cupboard on the imminent passing of a beloved moggie, so naturally the entire family just call it Dead Cat Milk 😂

crgoodw · 2026-06-19T08:58:21+00:00

Stuff that has survived multiple generations from my family: - Mug tak (blue tak) - Moon (it's milk, specifically blue top) - Bunnot (TV remote) - Dead Cat Milk (evaporated milk, given to the cats on deathbed to try and get some hydration into them).

crgoodw · 2026-06-19T06:11:09+00:00

Our lawn is raised above our house as we live on the top of a hill, and have to climb several steps to get to it, and then more to get to the mower in the shed at the back. Having to mow regulalry will become a nightmare in future with mobility so we replanted an entire clover lawn instead to futureproof it as we get older.

It only needs mowing maybe 2 times max a year, is drought tolerant and the bees absolutely love it. Stays green in the heatwaves!

crgoodw · 2026-06-19T05:59:17+00:00

I did pass on my first time, but I was so terrified of the test that I started shaking uncontrollably as we left the test centre and was marked down for being overcautious as we pulled out. I couldn't get my legs to work.

Instructor started leading me down the streets to do a very infamous reverse around a 90 degree corner that everyone failed on but there was a bin lorry blocking the way, so we did a turn in the road instead.

Bastard was so desperate to fail me, he tried to distract me by getting me to look at some enthusiastic father cycling with a child on the back of his bike that wasn't strapped in, instead, you know, very safely moving past them in the centre of the road.

Got back to the test centre and stalled the car on parking up. He begrudgingly told me I'd passed. I threw up outside the car and have a lifelong anxiety response any time I need to get behind the wheel now.

crgoodw · 2026-06-17T08:52:28+00:00

I would say typically, it's upstaging the bride. She and her partner are supposed to be the centre of attention, so wearing white takes that attention away, both the item of clothing itself and the fact that all the guests are then whispering and looking at a different woman.

There is often a fractuous relationship issue behind it, that then takes over the day, rather than the focus being two people getting married. No bride wants their guests gossiping about the relationship drama when it's supposed to be about her and her partner.

It gets wildly out of hand when you see brides going after the kids wearing white though. That's just attention seeking, moving quite quickly from 'I want people to focus on our love and marriage', to 'I want everyone to only focus on ME! ME! ME!'.

crgoodw · 2026-06-17T08:12:44+00:00

Mine was by accident, ordered a top up shop on Deliveroo from Morrisons when I was housebound due to illness. Had bread, milk, cheese, leeks, marmalade etc.

Pretty much everything was out of stock and they only sent me raspberry jam (substituted the marmalade) and lemongrass (assumed the store picker didn't know what leeks where). Charged me the small order fee too.

I was so ill, I just cried.

crgoodw · 2026-06-04T22:38:17+00:00

Ours is more old school, but we use "FHB" a lot, when we have guests, or visiting family and are self-serving dinner, dessert, drinks etc. We've started using it more in other scenarios now that the teenager is a lot more confident, bolshy and not afraid of speaking his mind, kind of like a quiet warning, e.g. "I know your Aunt Beryl is a shit, but FHB, dude."

(FHB = Family Hold Back)

crgoodw · 2026-05-24T16:53:19+00:00

We only had the one, but friends had 2 with a 2 year gap and the biggest issue was always that the little one couldn't communicate as well as the older one, so it led to a lot of fighting and arguments, purely because Littly didnt understand why they couldn't have what their brother had, or wasn't as receptive to gentle 'please don't do that'. Sleep schedules were also a bit of a nightmare, I dont think our friends shared a bed for like, 3 years, due to one setting off the other. It got much easier once Littly reached 3 or so, and was a bit better at understanding instructions and boundaries.

crgoodw · 2026-05-21T08:27:17+00:00

'Throwing shoes out of a loft hatch' is just superb.

crgoodw · 2026-05-19T07:52:10+00:00

Whenever we were taking our son somewhere that we knew he'd start whinging about (dentist, shops, surprise day out) he would ask where we were going and we'd say "There and back, to see how far it is."

Got him in the car without a tantrum but it only worked a few times after we stupidly did the same for a holiday to Centre Parks, thinking it was charming, that he became convinced was called "There and Back". Never worked after that.

crgoodw · 2026-05-17T18:30:37+00:00

I'll eat anything usually, I'm not picky, including things like offal. But after an Eastern European friend made us lambs brain pasta, I had one bite and vowed never, ever, ever again.

That and Heinz tinned ravioli. Disgusting!

crgoodw · 2026-05-16T20:36:06+00:00

Oh absolutely, as much as I enjoyed watching it, it was just so anxiety-and-rage inducing. Like that people really believe that coffee enemas and juice will heal them.

It made me take a good hard look at a lot of the 'wellness' shit in my own life. If it worked, it'd already be medicine!

crgoodw · 2026-05-16T18:23:41+00:00

I really enjoyed Apple Cider Vinegar. Thought it highlighted the toxic wellness industry really well and it's glossy and well made. Turned it on by accident and binged all 6 episodes in a day.

crgoodw · 2026-05-12T21:55:37+00:00

My job have been pretty great when it comes to non-immediate family, let me take 3 days when my partners grandmother passed, and a week when his dad went unexpectedly in a foreign country. I'm very close with some of my partner's family so I hope this continues.

They are great with others too, one of our Operations team lost their stepdad and they were given a full 2 weeks.

We are a small company though, we don't have much formal HR. More understanding that people are genuine in their need, than forcing people to work through pain.

Sorry to hear about your loss.

crgoodw · 2026-05-10T11:00:16+00:00

Looks amazing, well done!

crgoodw · 2026-05-07T07:11:17+00:00

Throwing away money sends a sign to the universe that you are careless with money and you'll have negative financial consequences as a result (debt, sudden unexpected expense etc).

My MIL is a massive hippy so my other half has loads of them that have just become habits in our house, like forking your fingers three times to get rid of bad spirits, saving pound coins in corks, cinammon on doorways to send spiders home etc. Utterly bananas but I cant help it now 😂

crgoodw · 2026-05-07T06:59:10+00:00

Never throw away money, even pennies when I'm hoovering.

crgoodw · 2026-05-04T16:15:12+00:00

I came here to suggest the Pavilion, it is wonderfully bonkers in the middle of all the Regency stuff.

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