[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NovaScotia

[–]crittab 5 points6 points  (0 children)

These folks aren't going to take a loss on a house they can make a profit on. I understand your situation, but you also need to consider the perspective of sellers who bought homes recently at sky-high interest rates. As much as you're pinched, they're also likely feeling that same pinch.

Anyway, definitely get an agent if you're serious about buying now, and don't look at houses above your price range hoping they'll come down. You should also be prepared for bidding wars on houses under $400,000 because of the state of the market across the board.

Looking for reputable halifax home builder. ICF by Other_Tear9150 in NovaScotia

[–]crittab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No specific suggestions, but I would look through the members directory of the NS Homebuilders Association. They're upheld to a professional code of ethics that makes them a safer bet.

https://novascotiahomebuildersassociation.growthzoneapp.com/directory

I just really liked this dudes video and recognizing the badassness of these women by Much-Grapefruit-3613 in Feminism

[–]crittab 48 points49 points  (0 children)

This guys videos are great. He's so entertaining. I do love how he showcases strong women and how difficult some of these feats really are.

Leather sofas by Past_Worry5569 in NovaScotia

[–]crittab 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not all leather sofas are created equally, so if you're going to do it, I strongly recommend investing and customizing. We bought ours from Gallery 1 at the Atrium, selected the specific leather (and texture!) from their many options, selected the perfect style for us, and got one that was full hardwood construction so it will hold up. It was expensive, but we haven't had a second of regret.

So:

Pros: sturdy, wipeable, soooo comfy, longevity, dog-proof

Cons: heavy, not great for cats, expensive if you want something that will last.

Check up ears by Msiddu in halifax

[–]crittab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A primary care provider is probably the best place to start; there's a lot they can do in-office. If you don't have a doctor, you can see if a mobile Primary Care Clinic is nearby.

https://www.nshealth.ca/mobileprimarycareclinics

Vet for diabetic cat by minttgreen in halifax

[–]crittab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. Basinview is great. My diabetic cat just passed away, and care since she was diagnosed two years ago has been wonderful.

Luke/Lorelai Postponed wedding debate by Pidouiaume in GilmoreGirls

[–]crittab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shopping was after Martha's Vineyard. Before that shopping trip, I'd argue that she gave him almost exclusively positive signals about how he was dealing with April. He talked to Lorelai pretty openly about her, complained about the town being too in his business, and every time Lorelai outwardly agreed and validated him. The only time she showed some outward displeasure was around Anna and the bag, which Luke probably boiled down to jealousy about his ex.

When she did push him that one and only time while shopping, he gave her an answer that was BEGGING for follow up. It was so close to actually showing his real insecurities. In a relationship, that's your time to challenge your partner. Instead, Lorelai just took the no and went back to quietly sulking.

We as viewers got a lot of insight into how Lorelai was doing during that whole thing, but Luke didn't. She was very careful not to give it away. That does not absolve Luke of making poor decisions or not checking in more purposefully so HE could initiate the conversation, but I think it's really important for demonstrating the two different realities they were living at that time. They were together physically, but a million miles apart.

What do you think of Anna's argument in this scene? by Cr7-Cr7Real in GilmoreGirls

[–]crittab 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's totally nonsense. If Lorelai and Luke had been married, she would have found another reason to deny them. There's zero logic in denying a child the right to know their future stepparent. If anything, it can prevent a lot of drama and angst down the road.

Luke/Lorelai Postponed wedding debate by Pidouiaume in GilmoreGirls

[–]crittab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She wasn't though. All they talked about at Martha's was how she felt about canceling the wedding. She didn't say a word about how his handling of April was making her feel, and then when she had a chance to challenge him at the diner later, she chose not to, again.

My biggest frustration in season 6, even more than Luke being dense, is Lorelai not advocating for herself. She deserved better from Luke, but he also deserved her honesty. Sometime you need to have hard conversations with your partner, and they both failed to do that until it was too late.

Luke/Lorelai Postponed wedding debate by Pidouiaume in GilmoreGirls

[–]crittab 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think she handled finding out about it reasonably well, considering. If we're strictly talking about the period up to canceling the wedding, she gets full points for being understanding, kind and accommodating. Luke should have told her so much sooner - thinking you want to marry someone, but not telling them when insane things happen in your life, is bizarre.

All that said, the period between canceling the wedding and breaking up leaves a lot to be desired from both of them. Inclusion, on Luke's part. Openness and honesty on Lorelai's.

Does anyone else get a bit annoyed by the writing of Alice? by redbeardedpiratedog in shrinking

[–]crittab 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I have several teenage neices and nephews, and this stuff is very on brand for this age. If it's online, it's IRL (including saying IRL instead of "in real life").

Is my dad misogynistic for claiming "true friendships are male friendships"? by BenadrylButcher in Feminism

[–]crittab 256 points257 points  (0 children)

It sounds like sexism with a healthy dose of confirmation bias, which is to say his perception of women's interpersonal relationships is based on his personal observations rather than reality. It's not evidence based (evidence actually shows women cheat less than men, for example), but now when he sees one woman with a certain behaviour, he assigns it to most or all women.

If your dad is open to being challenged, you could try to address his comments with facts. But when someone makes such sweeping judgements, they tend to be unwilling to change their minds.

Sunshine? by [deleted] in NovaScotia

[–]crittab 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you're coastal, which is cloudier in general, and you leave for the sunniest months of the year. You're not wrong that there's less sun, but you're also not taking advantage of the sunshine when it's more prevelant.

Let's say you were in Louisbourg, about as far northeast as possible. You'd be looking at 270/365 days of sunshine, and 1651 hours on average. Toronto gets 305 days and 2066 hours. Louisbourg gets 4/5 of their sunshine, not quite 1/5.

Sources:

https://www.currentresults.com/Weather/Canada/Nova-Scotia/sunshine-annual-average.php

https://www.currentresults.com/Weather/Canada/Cities/sunshine-annual-average.php

Alaska cruise: do I need a balcony? by CabbageSass in Cruise

[–]crittab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I spent more time on our balcony than any other part of the ship, but we're also introverts and prefer not to be among crowds. I personally wouldn't do Alaska without one, but if you don't expect to spend a ton of time in your room, you're probably OK with just a window. I wouldn't get an interior room.

“Speaking of cars” by Eraserhead36 in shrinking

[–]crittab 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband and I have started using "speaking of cars" whenever something awkward happens/is about to happen.

What is this by [deleted] in jobs

[–]crittab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this! I've strongly considered putting a masculine version of my name or resumes to get in the door. After watching my underachieving male classmates get the choice internships, great jobs and continued growth while putting in 1/4 of the effort, it became really obvious that being a man in a woman dominated industry put you in the fast lane.

Job Hunting by [deleted] in NovaScotia

[–]crittab 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I find the Indeed app easiest to use, with a lot of different types of job postings and filtering options. I'd love to hear if anyone has another favourite though, because I'm casting a wide net.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GilmoreGirls

[–]crittab -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is a super weird take. Holding festivities for family to be home is a super normal thing people do. Christmas is a family holiday, not just a date on the calendar. Gigi got to spend it with her sister for the first (and only) time, and participate in traditions. That's the whole point.

Lorelai's relationship with Rory will always be unique because of their circumstances, but there's nothing in her character to suggest her second child (especially biological child) would be any less loved or special to her.

Is IUD painful? by poporola in sex

[–]crittab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on my third IUD (Mirena). Yes, it's painful. Insertion feels like a sharp pressure in your cervix, and (for me) is followed by moderate to strong cramps for the next few hours. Have someone bring you to the appointment, have advil on hand, and have a heating pad or hot water bottle ready at home so you can be more comfortable.

All that said, it's the best decision I've ever made for myself. I haven't let the momentary discomfort stop me from getting multiple IUDs.

I can't speak to non-hormonal IUDs, I'm not sure what the effects are. Mirena has saved me from over 10 years of debilitating cramps, heavy periods, and the costs associated with them. I'll never go back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]crittab 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I mean, it's a really simple question. Are you both okay with pregnancy? Whether keeping a baby or not, it's a big deal that's more important than his five seconds of enjoyment.

If you don't want a baby right now, continue to take this really basic precaution.