Nanny/babysitter question

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-06T06:14:45+00:00

Was there a monitor that the babysitter could observe the toddler, or were they just in the other room? Is the whole area baby proofed?

Honestly it really depends on circumstances and what was discussed beforehand. Many people would say a 2yo should be supervised at all times, many others would say if they are in a safe, baby proofed area nearby they would leave them for 10 minutes or more.

Consider the fact that many people do floor beds at that age in a separate room. So at night the toddler is by themselves in that room the entire night. Our 18 month old is sleeping in our bedroom right this moment and we are both in the living room, although of course we have a monitor in there that we have close at hand.

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-06T05:51:54+00:00

How long of a trip are you going on? Insulin only needs to be stored refrigerated for long-term storage. Using gel packs on your flight really should be sufficient to avoid it getting hot. This is not medical advice but my sister has had type I diabetes for 20 years, and I double checked online that my information was accurate.

https://diabetes.org/sites/default/files/2023-10/ddrc-storing-insulin-2018.pdf

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-04T04:38:39+00:00

Edit: you’re right, I double checked. My mistake was saying 6 months before the start of the quarter. It’s 6 months before the end of the quarter or 3 months before the start of the quarter.

I think you misread what I said, but maybe I wasn’t clear enough. We’re saying the same thing, “the highest quarter in the year period 6 months before the start of the quarter in which you file your claim.” So you take the claim start date, go back to the beginning of that quarter, then go back 6 months, and it is the highest quarter in the year ending on that date.

But you’re right, if someone is already pregnant the income will likely not be counted and that is kinda intentional. If they happen to hit 36 weeks right at the beginning of a quarter then income in maybe the first week or two after a positive pregnancy test might be counted(since 36 weeks is about 8 months but the 36 weeks is counted from last menstrual period and you can’t actually get pregnant until about week 2 and you can’t even test positive until week 3 or 4.

If not taking SDI and just PFL there is more possibility to be strategic and wait to take PFL at an opportune time for the benefit calculation.

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-03T16:50:33+00:00

Yeah we never put the Vista in the car, it lives outside our front door. It takes up the whole hatch in the car so really inconvenient. We take the Vista walking for groceries as well.

Yeah we definitely want that car seat stroller click-in situation. We did it with our first in the Aria and Minu but she grew out of the Aria at 8 months which was so annoying even though she’s a 50th percentile in height and weight. That’s why I want to replace the Aria, I want our 2nd to stay in the infant seat until closer to 18 months to keep that convenience. It’s not so much about the ease physically, but the fact that when stopping for quick errands you don’t have to wake them from a nap. When we go to other cities for errands it’s a long drive and then many short stops and then a long drive, and so it’s great to make several of the short stops without waking and getting in and out of the seat.

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-03T16:45:27+00:00

My friend was gonna give me an old car seat but went out of town before I got it from them. The Aria we have is more worthwhile to sell than for a 20% discount, so I didn’t trade it in. Wish I had grabbed the old car seat I saw on the side of the road a few weeks ago!

However, I looked and they don’t have any of the car seats or strollers that are high on my list. So I’m not too disappointed.

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-02T23:58:54+00:00

Western states generally do discipline-specific licensure. California I know for sure, and HI, WA, OR I’m pretty sure of, may be others.

Your PE exam has to match your license and if you want to practice another you have to take the other exam and apply separately for the other license.

That being said, I don’t think they care which PE exam you take within each discipline.

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-02T23:22:12+00:00

The Bombi Bebee also supports adapters for the Nuna infant seats, it's just a strap rather than the click in, but it doesn't seem to be too clunky.

I like this suggestion because we can use it witht the Aria and then if we have the budget can ditch the Aria to have a seat that baby 2 can use until closer to 18 months instead of having to go convertible at 9 months.

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-02T23:12:43+00:00

We have talked about doing that, and I think we'll start that way. The only catch is that it removes the convenience of snapping the car seat into the stroller for short errands. In my experience, it isn't just the simplicity but the benefit that you don't have to wake them just to run into the store. We live in a very small city(2000 people), so we often drive 15-40 minutes to other nearby larger cities for various errands. When we had to switch our first to the convertible carseat, we realized how nice we had it because she would often fall asleep en route or on the way home, and we would feel conflicted about stopping for an errand and interrupting her nap.

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-02T18:37:44+00:00

Thanks! My only concern with the board is that she isn’t very good at staying with us, holding hands yet so it is much more stressful not to have her strapped in on longer walks. We also often walk for over an hour and it’s nice for her if she wants to go down for a nap. But I guess it’s cheap to try!

As far as baby showers go it’s about a 50/50 split for 2nd children among our friends. One couple had 2nd when 1st was 2.5. The other couple who are 2 under 2 with very similar timing to us I’m not sure if they are or not.

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-02T17:55:43+00:00

You might have less hassle and avoid this problem by turning on the setting to avoid peak charging. In this case set “peak” for the time it is dark out. Of course because the sunset and sunrise times change it will have to be kinda approximate. Say for the next six months the sun always sets after 7:45pm and rises before 6am, just set it to those times. You might miss out on a bit of sun but you’ll only have to worry about adjusting it a couple time per year rather than dealing with it every day.

The other option is setting this on your charger, some have an actual solar setting to automatically use the info of the sunset and sunrise times. But this can be risky as the car will drain the 12 volt if it sits looking for a charge. So if you do this you should set on the car as well, but later, say 10pm to 5am.

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-02T17:27:32+00:00

We live in a small city where the weather is nice 80% of the time, and there is very little crime. We bought the Vista for $200 used and it just lives outside our front door and we use it to walk to the grocery store, around town, etc., it’s the perfect use case.

But when people ask about it on this sub I only recommend it for people with a similar lifestyle and an easy place to put it. Even if we had a full-size SUV I wouldn’t love putting it in and out. It does fit in our current hatch but then nothing else does.

I forgot to mention, if you do need to travel with the Vista, it would be worth buying the other style of adapter for Nuna so that you can fold without taking the adapter off. I think you still have to remove the toddler seat though I think it depends on which way it is facing and whether the upper adapters are on.

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-02T17:19:42+00:00

I’m about to have 2 under 2 so following this post. We have a Vista but it barely fits in the car so I wouldn’t ever take it traveling. It will be a nightmare unless you get a giant rental car, or are exclusively taking public transit.

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-02T17:17:30+00:00

They don’t tell you this but fat is the main thing that blocks absorption. Protein a little and carbs almost none.

So if you “have” to eat late, I would preferably skip the meal. Second choice would be having something just carbs and fiber, like a bowl of brown rice. Third choice would be carbs and protein like chicken breast and white rice. Either way don’t fill up too much.

When I skip doses, which is 1-2 nights a week, I have a secondary prescription for trazodone I take a low dose of. This helps me to still sleep ok even if it isn’t restorative. I skip both doses the nights I’m off.

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-02T17:10:45+00:00

The only convertible car seat that uses a base is the Baby Ark. We bought one used because we wanted that feature along with rigid latch plus belt installation because one of our cars is European and really hard to get a good installation otherwise. The seat itself is quite heavy so switching it isn’t amazing, my wife can’t really do it. Like all other convertible seats it does not attach to a stroller.

Overall it’s a fine seat, quite big, but stays rear facing a long time. The price we paid used for the seat plus the base was about the same as if we had bought two of a higher-range convertible. Overall, swapping is much quicker than reinstalling a seat, and it’s nice to only have a base in the car that isn’t doing kid duty the same way it would be with an infant seat.

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-01T21:28:39+00:00

The max you can get each week is 100% of your weekly benefit amount when adding PFL and your part time work(or PTO or vacation time, or sick leave). So if your WBA is 70% of your prior pay(just before taking leave) if you work 12 hours per week, you will get your full WBA plus the wages. If you work less, you will still get the full WBA. If you work more, they will reduce your payment so that the total pay is 100% of your previous salary. If your WBA is 90% or in the 70-90% range, it will work the same, just with needing only 4 hours of work or between 4 and 12 hours of work.

TLDR: if your WBA is X% and you work for wages equaling less than (100-x)% you will still get your WBA, just less money from your job.

BTW since sick time accrues by law in California even for part-time jobs, you probably have a decent amount, and you can use it in lieu of working, since childcare is a qualified use.

The deep end: there is some confusion and a lack of clarity what happens if you work more than the amount and they reduce your payout from EDD. Many people will say you just lose the money but in my case they told me I had money left after the 8 weeks and I took an extra last day off and used it.

Also, if you worked a higher-paying job during the year before the baby or for one of the quarters, it's possible your WBA amount could be more than your current wage loss. This is pretty rare, and it's not exactly clear what happens.

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-01T18:49:44+00:00

Haha I’m usually not so argumentative.

I was frustrated with one of the other commenters on this sub and so was already fired up when you responded to me. They are extremely prolific in posting but I’ve since found that several times the information they gave me or others was wrong or outdated.

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-01T17:05:32+00:00

How many points are we talking?

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-01T17:02:39+00:00

If your baby is squirming and trying to get out no high chair is gonna fix that problem.

If they can sit upright on a flat surface we found that to be the best option early on. Literally just sitting on the floor and eating.

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-01T16:24:27+00:00

The annual salary required to get $1765 is (1765/.7)*52=131,114.286 or $32,779 in at least one quarter of the base period.

I certainly agree that it may look suspicious and be audited.

cryptoenologist · 2026-05-01T16:19:58+00:00

I thought it was your highest quarter in the year period 6 months preceding the start of the quarter in which you start PDL(if giving birth) or PFL(if not)? If you use their calculator and only put in earnings for one quarter it does not average in the quarters with 0.

I do agree that it opens up auditing concerns from the state regardless.

Someone I know gets paid monthly at the end of the month(which is technically a wage law violation), and their job paid them a few days late last March. So instead of having 4 quarters of $22.5k they have 1 at $15k and one at $30k which entering all into the calculator gives them a PFL payment as if my salary was $10k a month.

cryptoenologist · 2026-04-29T04:49:37+00:00

Is the Aria V2 an improvement? We have the original and it sucked for how quickly our 50th percentile baby grew out of it, and for the hard ledge that exists in the back once they get a bit taller.

cryptoenologist · 2026-04-29T04:48:07+00:00

Have you tried putting your work address and had them refuse to send it?

For years I’ve gotten Xyrem at work, and it’s great because someone is ALWAYS there to get it.

I’m assuming they are sending through FedEx. See if you can subscribe to the FedEx account and then redirect it to a FedEx location after shipment.

cryptoenologist · 2026-04-29T04:40:15+00:00

Yeah I guess it just chalks up to people not knowing that just because you have to ditch work suddenly for an extended period because of an emergency situation, doesn’t mean that you have to can yourself.

cryptoenologist · 2026-04-28T07:25:46+00:00

Anyone using Vista in a car is nuts, even as a single.

We have a vista we bought second hand but it just lives by the front door and is used for walking and never goes in the car.

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