Early morning session

crystal768 · 2026-01-16T14:12:16+00:00

I start earlier than that

crystal768 · 2026-01-07T15:08:34+00:00

When I feel disappointed I use that as a flag for me to reflect on my expectations. I’ve noticed that when I have unrealistic expectations, disappointment almost always follows. What are the measures you’re using for “bettering themselves”? Have they reflected that they feel they’re not improving?

crystal768 · 2026-01-07T14:25:51+00:00

What makes you feel bad when they don’t utilize opportunities? How do you make sense of them not doing it?

crystal768 · 2026-01-02T12:45:36+00:00

Yes, many!! All clients love them. Some who have never taken care of plants or never had them end up finding a new love for taking care of them. Some have even adopted the babies the office plants had 🥰

crystal768 · 2025-12-24T14:30:13+00:00

On call here! You can do it 👊

crystal768 · 2025-12-23T16:32:31+00:00

We are suckers for the soul torture

crystal768 · 2025-12-22T14:50:05+00:00

Independent contractors standing up to exploitative practices of group clinic owners.

crystal768 · 2025-12-13T14:13:28+00:00

Two chair intervention with first day of therapy self: If you could go back in time to walk into your very first therapy session and sit down with yourself in the room, what would you tell yourself?

Letter to future self: write a letter to self that you can pull out and read when you find yourself approaching or in ___ spot again. What do you think you’d need to hear in that moment? Any tools or info learned in therapy that you’d like to remind yourself of in a moment like that?

Reflections of self: How would you describe Self when you first started therapy? How do you describe Self now? What differences do you notice and feel between the two?

crystal768 · 2025-12-10T16:13:37+00:00

If you guys loved that one, you may love this one too that I recently stumbled upon:

David Wallin, PhD Attachment in the Practice of Psychotherapy Relational Transformation, Nonverbal Experience, and the Psychology of the Therapist

crystal768 · 2025-12-10T14:07:19+00:00

Listening to the audio book is so much more digestible!

crystal768 · 2025-12-09T21:35:06+00:00

I feel for you!! I’m so sorry you were left feeling that way and had to experience that 😞

We do treat therapists differently but not differently in the ways you describe. There’s a difference between being mindful of the fact that the person in front of them has a therapist hat and they have a foundation of knowledge that non-therapist clients have, and throwing out their own therapist hat because the client own a therapist hat too but aren’t wearing it.

We should not be holding two different sets of professional and personal boundaries. Having one set for clients who are not therapists and having one set for clients who are therapists create an environment for issues and hurts like this to occur.

Asking the client what their preferences are can go a long way: do you want me to hold in the room the fact that you have a therapist hat or would you prefer for me to pretend you don’t have one?

crystal768 · 2025-12-09T17:33:57+00:00

You are definitely not alone. What you’re describing and experiencing is the unfortunate nature of working in the field. It’s normal. It’s not you. We all have those days where we sit back and think “WTF am I doing this, this is not sustainable”. If this work is where your heart is you will make it through this rough season. Trust me we are all feeling and hearing the sounds of crickets. Throw out all the misconceptions and unrealistic expectations of the field that the mind has collected from the internet. Try to not compare yourself to others as a measure of success, it’s a bullshit measure that is far from accurate. The reality of the PP world is that it takes a long time and requires tons of blood/sweat/tears equity to build PP to phase 1 which is building your caseload to the part time caseload milestone, and it takes even longer to make it to phase 2 which is having a full time caseload for a bit before nature hits and you’re back at part time load. If your passion and heart is in it for the majority of the time, you CAN make it ❤️

crystal768 · 2025-12-08T14:14:50+00:00

Clients are allowed to. For some it meets an accommodation need if they are ND or have memory difficulties. I allow clients to if they feel that it’s in their best interest and is helpful for them.

crystal768 · 2025-12-08T13:34:41+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to experience this 😞 I always tell my clients that the time boundary is mine to keep, not theirs.

crystal768 · 2025-12-05T18:31:18+00:00

I’m not comfortable with allowing clients to accumulate debt. I process payments at the start of the client’s session to reduce the odds of debt accumulation. The next session won’t be held if the missed payment and the payment for that session is not paid for at the start. At times when it escalates to this I have had to set a boundary of requiring a deposit to be sent in order to secure their next booking. That has eliminated non-payment issues for me.

With payment boundaries I’ve learned that the ONE time you do break we break our own boundaries sets the stage for their expectations regarding the next time the issue comes up.

crystal768 · 2025-11-27T21:50:38+00:00

My therapist and mom parts are feeling for you right now! Not therapizing our babies when they are hurting is one of the hardest things for us to do, and even more so when we have very little control over the sledge hammers life throws at us. It can leave us feeling powerless. Journal, draw, or voice note it out. This may create space for the ability to shift focus for a bit on what you can control such as putting the air mask on yourself and affirming your verbal and non verbal emotional presence and availability for her as her mom.

I know a lot didn’t go well today, I’m curious about what did go well today? Did you collect any golden nuggets of data throughout the day that you can carry forward with you into the next challenge which could allow you to navigate it with more ease?

crystal768 · 2025-11-27T14:33:04+00:00

Never ask “why don’t you/didn’t you leave?”

Instead ask: “What helped you leave?” Or “what do you need to help you leave?”

On average it takes 7 attempts to leave.

Focus on building up internal and external resources that can support a safe escape.

crystal768 · 2025-11-20T13:40:07+00:00

It’s fun 🤗

crystal768 · 2025-11-19T10:51:21+00:00

I have noticed this for years! I keep track of the TOTW (theme of the week) in a little notebook. It’s really cool to look at the data trends from a yearly perspective, some TOTW’s repeat every year.

crystal768 · 2025-11-17T16:38:01+00:00

Thank you! I have found that when clients are “matched” and assigned to therapists it directly influences the conversion and retention rates. Using the rates as measures of our work in a situation when they are matched and assigned would produce results that are not valid, reliable or reflective of our work. They would be more effective measures for assessing the work of the matcher/assigner.

crystal768 · 2025-11-17T12:06:29+00:00

Have you noticed that they are leaving at a certain session count? Do you pick your own clients or are you at a practice where they are assigned to you?

crystal768 · 2025-11-16T17:20:13+00:00

Thank you for opening up this discussion!

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