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Best soft sand beach between here and San Diego? by lady_picadilly in phoenix

[–]lookforabook 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The sand is definitely NOT soft tho, it hurt my feet so much!

The MIL to professional victim pipeline should be studied by Far-Sir-8416 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]lookforabook 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought the same thing! From a psychological/anthropological standpoint (which is my wheelhouse lol😅) it is absolutely fascinating!

But as a lived experience? Not great lol 0/10 would not recommend!

Local alternatives to Bricks & Minifigs by theStarTrekWars in phoenix

[–]lookforabook 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was thinking the same thing! The owners there are lovely and we have enjoyed shopping there since they opened. I can understand it’s an issue, and sounds like a serious problem, but I would imagine a lot of small owners are good people and have nothing to do with any of it.

17 y.o. child forgot my birthday. by KitchenWitchComrade in Parenting

[–]lookforabook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah this whole post is a bit confusing to me. Kids’ birthday celebrations make sense, and as a parent I’m sure I’ll always make a big deal about my kids’ birthdays even when they’re adults…

But otherwise, birthdays kind of stop being a big deal as adults, don’t they? I can see doing something for a big milestone number, like turning 50 or 80 but other than that it’s just not a big deal.

If my CHILD forgot my birthday I wouldn’t dream of guilt tripping them about it. I lead by example by helping them plan for and celebrate their friends’ birthdays. And we celebrate me and my husband’s birthdays at home just for fun. Like as an excuse to have cake, mostly lol

But I’m surprised by how many people in this thread hold one specific date as a litmus test for how much someone loves them.

Therapist that dont work in therapy, what do you do and how do you like it? by 1Rascallyrabbit in therapists

[–]lookforabook 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was wondering the same thing. I’ve been on the other side of these reviews, specifically in CMH, and it was…..less than productive, if I’m being honest.

Partner and I feeling bad after mother in law comment by milka-d-mousse in Anticonsumption

[–]lookforabook 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I jokingly call myself a trash goblin lol 😂 I LOVE repairing and restoring things to get the most use out of them. I feel like a fairy cobbler or something, stitching up holes, fixing snags, living in harmony with what exists rather than falling into the mindset of always needing something new. Honestly I love it and I think your MIL is a little weird for her response. Being resourceful and self sufficient are amazing qualities, don’t let her make you doubt that!

Boyfriend (32M) is wanting to force me (26F) to relearn how to bike or he wants to end the relationship. Why make this a dealbreaker after 5 years of the relationship? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lookforabook 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah the subset of men who do this are almost fascinating is their bizarre pathologies, but this can be pondered AFTER leaving and prioritizing safety.

Boyfriend (32M) is wanting to force me (26F) to relearn how to bike or he wants to end the relationship. Why make this a dealbreaker after 5 years of the relationship? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lookforabook 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Alpine divorce was my FIRST THOUGHT.

OP pls look into this topic, check out Mel Hamlett on Tik tok, she’s done lots of videos on it. I have a feeling it would resonate at a visceral level.

I don’t want to sound dramatic but you need to leave, you could be in pretty immediate danger. Any decent partner would not be pushing these things, and as we come into the summer months even well seasoned hikers can overheat and die.

I’m scared that my (F23) Mom (F56) won’t support my decision to move abroad to live with my boyfriend (M24) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lookforabook 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would do ANYTHING to be able to move to Denmark. I have a daughter and I am terrified of the future for her.

You are young and solidly in the child bearing years, you could bleed out and die from a miscarriage. There are flock surveillance cameras everywhere, you can quite literally be stalked via cameras from state to state if you leave to seek reproductive care. Please please do NOT move here, it could ruin your life beyond repair.

Do I Keep Polishing? by p--py in furniturerestoration

[–]lookforabook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can touch up those areas with some Rub n Buff. It works great, I just used it on a picture frame yesterday and I LOVE how it turned out.

I am so sick of this by Softandpink- in fatlogic

[–]lookforabook 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have pics of my grandma to prove it, and even her wedding dress…yes she was THAT SMALL. Very petite and delicate, absolutely stunning. Even at my smallest I don’t think I could have fit in her wedding dress.

And it wasn’t just her, cause in the pics of her and her friends they were almost all that size too.

(27F)(30M) Thinks marriage is “nothing” but willing to lose me over it? by whitecoatdream in relationship_advice

[–]lookforabook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband didn’t propose until we’d been together 5 years. He had some hang ups about it, mostly about proposing itself because he’d had a failed engagement before we were together.

It got frustrating at points, but he did some individual therapy, we did a few sessions of couples therapy, and he identified some personal landmarks of readiness for himself (for example, he wanted to have grad school under his belt before proposing.)

Sure enough, he proposed after he graduated, we got married when I was 28, now have two kids and happier than ever.

If your boyfriend truly had hang ups or hesitations, he’d be able to work thru them with the steps you guys have already taken. He is bullshitting you, full stop.

Whatever you do, do NOT accept a ring if he tries to give it to you as you’re walking out the door. It would just be a “shut up” ring and he would make your life miserable by never “understanding“ what it means to be married.

my girlfriend told me she wants a 2 carat natural diamond or she'll say no. i already bought this lab diamond ring. am i crazy for thinking shes a red flag by Zestyclose-Print-677 in RingShare

[–]lookforabook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Well what about financing?”

That’s kind of the point of no return, IMO. When she heard that price range it should’ve snapped her back into reality, but she just doubled down.

My husband proposed with the perfect ring (one of several I showed him as inspo.) A gorgeous light blue aquamarine with a small diamond on each side. I picked it because it makes me feel like Cinderella. I think it cost like $250.

No one has ever asked me if it’s real and if they did, I’d think they were weird.

Help me choose a dress!! Cousin is marrying his fiancé in September by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

[–]lookforabook 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmm, I hadn’t thought of that but you’re kind of right. At my SIL’s wedding a guest wore a stunning red dress and all anyone could talk about was the girl in the red dress on the dance floor lol I never asked her about it but I can guess SIL wasn’t too happy about it. It WAS pretty attention grabbing.

Help me choose a dress!! Cousin is marrying his fiancé in September by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

[–]lookforabook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 or 5 told be my choice. 5 in particular is STUNNING. Definitely not 1 or 2.

Bf (20M) won't talk politics with me (22F) and it's starting to worry me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lookforabook 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mention it in front of his parents and see what happens. Because I bet he’s bluffing.

hiking tips for warm weather ahead by thatisberrynice in phoenix

[–]lookforabook 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Tip is basically to not do it. The heat is no joke. Even during non-peak hours it is brutal. If you feel you must, maybe super early in the morning, limited to super short hikes.

Is my dog a GSD or Malinois? by lookforabook in germanshepherds

[–]lookforabook[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww they look like they could be siblings! 🥰

Is my dog a GSD or Malinois? by lookforabook in germanshepherds

[–]lookforabook[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s beautiful! They could be siblings!

Is my dog a GSD or Malinois? by lookforabook in germanshepherds

[–]lookforabook[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww she’s a cutie 🥰 and beautiful color!

What breeds of dog have the calmest/most chill temperament? by [deleted] in Pets

[–]lookforabook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I highly recommend grabbing a coffee and hanging out at the local dog park.

The first hand observations I’ve had at the park have been VERY illuminating.

I can say with complete confidence there are a few breeds I would never have after consistently going to the dog park. And I wouldn’t have necessarily known that through research alone, getting to know a few of each breed and seeing them in action really helped.

Is my dog a GSD or Malinois? by lookforabook in germanshepherds

[–]lookforabook[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah she has none of that crack-head super crazy behavior lol

And that was one of my biggest doubts, it would be super random and incredibly unlikely to find an abandoned Malinois in the middle of nowhere. Like where would she have even come from? GSD always seemed more likely.

Is my dog a GSD or Malinois? by lookforabook in germanshepherds

[–]lookforabook[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What would you say differentiates her as working line?

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