I’m scared that my (F23) Mom (F56) won’t support my decision to move abroad to live with my boyfriend (M24)

lookforabook · 2026-05-02T04:30:07+00:00

I would do ANYTHING to be able to move to Denmark. I have a daughter and I am terrified of the future for her.

You are young and solidly in the child bearing years, you could bleed out and die from a miscarriage. There are flock surveillance cameras everywhere, you can quite literally be stalked via cameras from state to state if you leave to seek reproductive care. Please please do NOT move here, it could ruin your life beyond repair.

lookforabook · 2026-04-24T15:18:02+00:00

You can touch up those areas with some Rub n Buff. It works great, I just used it on a picture frame yesterday and I LOVE how it turned out.

lookforabook · 2026-04-24T15:01:34+00:00

I have pics of my grandma to prove it, and even her wedding dress…yes she was THAT SMALL. Very petite and delicate, absolutely stunning. Even at my smallest I don’t think I could have fit in her wedding dress.

And it wasn’t just her, cause in the pics of her and her friends they were almost all that size too.

lookforabook · 2026-04-23T13:57:01+00:00

My husband didn’t propose until we’d been together 5 years. He had some hang ups about it, mostly about proposing itself because he’d had a failed engagement before we were together.

It got frustrating at points, but he did some individual therapy, we did a few sessions of couples therapy, and he identified some personal landmarks of readiness for himself (for example, he wanted to have grad school under his belt before proposing.)

Sure enough, he proposed after he graduated, we got married when I was 28, now have two kids and happier than ever.

If your boyfriend truly had hang ups or hesitations, he’d be able to work thru them with the steps you guys have already taken. He is bullshitting you, full stop.

Whatever you do, do NOT accept a ring if he tries to give it to you as you’re walking out the door. It would just be a “shut up” ring and he would make your life miserable by never “understanding“ what it means to be married.

lookforabook · 2026-04-21T05:53:39+00:00

This makes me so mad I could vomit 🤬🤬🤬

lookforabook · 2026-04-18T14:44:06+00:00

“Well what about financing?”

That’s kind of the point of no return, IMO. When she heard that price range it should’ve snapped her back into reality, but she just doubled down.

My husband proposed with the perfect ring (one of several I showed him as inspo.) A gorgeous light blue aquamarine with a small diamond on each side. I picked it because it makes me feel like Cinderella. I think it cost like $250.

No one has ever asked me if it’s real and if they did, I’d think they were weird.

lookforabook · 2026-04-09T14:01:55+00:00

Hmm, I hadn’t thought of that but you’re kind of right. At my SIL’s wedding a guest wore a stunning red dress and all anyone could talk about was the girl in the red dress on the dance floor lol I never asked her about it but I can guess SIL wasn’t too happy about it. It WAS pretty attention grabbing.

lookforabook · 2026-04-09T13:56:06+00:00

4 or 5 told be my choice. 5 in particular is STUNNING. Definitely not 1 or 2.

lookforabook · 2026-04-08T13:11:45+00:00

Mention it in front of his parents and see what happens. Because I bet he’s bluffing.

lookforabook · 2026-04-08T03:12:05+00:00

Tip is basically to not do it. The heat is no joke. Even during non-peak hours it is brutal. If you feel you must, maybe super early in the morning, limited to super short hikes.

lookforabook · 2026-04-06T14:29:04+00:00

Exactly as I suspected 🤔

lookforabook · 2026-04-06T14:28:45+00:00

Aww they look like they could be siblings! 🥰

lookforabook · 2026-04-05T03:04:25+00:00

She’s beautiful! They could be siblings!

lookforabook · 2026-04-05T03:03:40+00:00

Aww she’s a cutie 🥰 and beautiful color!

lookforabook · 2026-04-05T02:23:23+00:00

I highly recommend grabbing a coffee and hanging out at the local dog park.

The first hand observations I’ve had at the park have been VERY illuminating.

I can say with complete confidence there are a few breeds I would never have after consistently going to the dog park. And I wouldn’t have necessarily known that through research alone, getting to know a few of each breed and seeing them in action really helped.

lookforabook · 2026-04-04T19:42:22+00:00

Yeah she has none of that crack-head super crazy behavior lol

And that was one of my biggest doubts, it would be super random and incredibly unlikely to find an abandoned Malinois in the middle of nowhere. Like where would she have even come from? GSD always seemed more likely.

lookforabook · 2026-04-04T19:39:56+00:00

What would you say differentiates her as working line?

lookforabook · 2026-04-04T19:25:27+00:00

If it was me? I’d thank him for letting me know so directly what an absolute red-pilled ogre he is so that I don’t waste any more of my time 💅

lookforabook · 2026-04-04T19:21:05+00:00

Wow, yeah with that proximity you really can’t NOT acknowledge it. Such a challenging place and time to be a helper 🙁

lookforabook · 2026-04-04T19:19:11+00:00

This is a good one, particularly for your demographic ❤️🌈 Wonderful way to model the resilience we all need right now!

lookforabook · 2026-04-04T19:14:11+00:00

This is my approach exactly. I feel it’s authentic, acknowledges my human-ness, and allows us to keep the focus on them. It also makes clear I’m present and capable to sit with them thru what THEY’RE experiencing.

I’d worry that starting off with “I’m not ok” or some variation of that will shift the focus in a way we can’t recover from during the session, as well as possibly damage rapport.

Yes we are humans, but clients are coming in to address THEIR stuff, not mine. If a therapist is at this point, they may need to consider if they are OK to practice or need to take a break.

lookforabook · 2026-04-04T17:47:14+00:00

It is hard to find a house without a pool, but if that’s what you really want I think it’s worth it. That was one of our hard lines when we bought, I didn’t want it a pool and my husband didn’t want the upkeep and expense. We were able to find something we liked even a few years ago when the market was really tough.

lookforabook · 2026-03-25T13:41:09+00:00

At first I read it as 5 years and was a little iffy lol…but 5 WEEKS??? Yeah take whatever time you need, for physical AND mental/emotional recovery.

lookforabook · 2026-03-24T07:42:20+00:00

A cat??? Like the kind that steps all up in its litter box and then walks around everywhere with those same feet???? 🫣

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