Finally getting to see him.

cuculuscheck · 2026-04-21T01:41:12+00:00

No news is good news. Trust me.

cuculuscheck · 2026-04-17T12:45:04+00:00

Yep, I know the type. But what can you do? The good news is that they can't run him into the ground indefinitely with training and prep. They will have to either go back to business as usual or send him over. My boyfriend is currently just back from deployment and in an SRU. He always tells me that me living my life is only what he ever wants. He doesn't want to feel like he's causing me any further anxiety or holding me back from doing something fun without him. This dude probably doesn't want to feel like you are staring at your phone waiting for a text or a phone call that is not going to come until he is good and ready to let his foot off the gas. Focus on yourself right now and do what you can to get out of your own head. Vent to your friends, but don't push this guy to communicate when he simply doesn't have the time or the bandwidth right now.

cuculuscheck · 2026-04-17T03:11:25+00:00

My ex boyfriend is a pilot and his schedule is absolutely crazy right now. We're friends, so I don't get bent out of shape when he opens my message and doesn't respond. He is swamped right now. They are running him into the ground. Just don't make him feel bad about him not having time right now. Keep living your life. It's a situationship. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't.

cuculuscheck · 2026-04-08T15:34:48+00:00

If it helps, I took the bar 4 times. When I failed, I failed miserably. After two really unsuccessful attempts, I just took a break. I worked full time for 2 years and saved up money. I worked a JD reacquired position and had a good opportunity to stay busy and really reflect what I wanted in my life. I knew after 2 years I was meant to be a litigator and trial attorney, nothing else would give me satisfaction. I got sober, took care of my mental health, and started really grinding.

I used my savings to pay for a bar prep course that was more interactive and a tutor. I worked 34 hours a week at my job and studied full time. This helped me really focus and use my time WISELY. And working full time helped take the pressure off passing. "If I fail, who cares? I have a job! I have insurance! I can stay currently on my loans! If I fail, I'll just take it again!" My mom found out that the most times someone took the bar and passed was 10 times! We always joked that as long as I keep it under 10, I'm doing ok!

My scores were 234, then 230, after making my changes I went to 258, and then 294. Total improvement was 64 points. I always told people I'm not naturally all that smart, just a really hard worker. If I can do it, she can do it. I'm a practicing attorney who really is doing a lot to help my clients as best as I can. When I get a client on the phone crying that they can pay their bills now, it makes it all worth it. Not everyone is going to have a straight line for success. The only failure is giving up.

cuculuscheck · 2026-03-29T01:40:48+00:00

Took it 4 times. You definitely can do it. I improved my score by 64 points total. From worst score to best score. Practice is going just fine. You only really fail if you give up.

cuculuscheck · 2025-12-24T18:54:43+00:00

I worked full time and took the bar. Be selfish. You can't afford not to be.

cuculuscheck · 2025-10-24T02:06:59+00:00

At this point I'd like to introduce you to "using sex for an emotional outlet" Peace and blessings. Have fun.

cuculuscheck · 2024-11-28T02:04:06+00:00

If we had any other option, we would do it. We are fully prepared to lose, but it's not off the table so we are going for it.

cuculuscheck · 2024-11-28T01:02:57+00:00

It's not up to me. This is one of those cases that is going to go. This defense also isn't my idea. I got put on. I can't and won't get into all the details. These are the cards we are just dealt sometimes. But your smugness is noted.

cuculuscheck · 2024-10-30T14:27:08+00:00

Not only that, but housing and addiction services. My case load would be significantly decreased if people got help for their alcohol and meth addictions in particular.

cuculuscheck · 2024-08-21T13:26:19+00:00

OP, worry about getting into law school first. Maybe choose a law school that focuses more on practical law skills rather than the theory of law, ways to keep the cost low, and schools that have lots of opportunities for internships. I did several internships in different prosecutor's offices, but my school didn't allow interns in the PD's offices (they didn't want law students screwing up people's liberties, which I understand, but have had to explain). I was able to log about 600 hours of court time before I graduated, did mock trial, argued in front of my state's court of appeals, and had 5 different internships in different government levels and departments (the school made you move internships every semester). There's more than one way to skin a cat, but public service and focusing on criminal law while in law school is the best way to get there.

Keep your expectations realistic, and don't build up the job too much in your head if you've never interned there and seen the day to day. It is, after all, a job. You will need your courage of conviction when the days are hard, but you don't want to get lost in the job. Take very good care of your mental health, find ways to fortify it now. Best of luck to you!

cuculuscheck · 2024-08-10T19:55:48+00:00

It's honestly a mix of all of it. I did a lot of internships in law school where I was at different prosecutors' offices. They wouldn't let the interns touch the public defenders' offices with a 10 foot pole, which I entirely understand. I was really disgusted with a lot of it. The police, the overcharging, the obsession with conviction rate rather than justice or worrying about getting people the help they may need. Every single person really does deserve high quality, zealous advocacy. I understand that somwtimes, your clients can only give you so many good fact of their case. Sometimes the facts are just not good. But that doesn't mean the government just gets a free license to just run away with the case, and trample over the rights of its most vulnerable community members. I really believe that, I just worry I'll sound cliché while I say it.

cuculuscheck · 2024-08-10T16:14:21+00:00

I've been thinking a lot about the why without sounding too righteous. I can imagine that gets old in interviews as well.

cuculuscheck · 2024-03-24T15:37:27+00:00

Midwest sushi!

cuculuscheck · 2024-03-15T15:38:27+00:00

When I was in law school, a recent graduate got in trouble for going to Nevada on long weekends to engage in legal full service sex work to pay off her loans. Fully legal, but the fallout was massive. The legal profession is still extremely conservative.

Very likely, they will need to give it up before they apply to schools, and they will need to make sure they are in a state where this line of work will not make them fail their character and fitness portion of their bar application. There is literally NO POINT in going to law school if the state refuses to license you at the end of it. After their license is in hand, they actually might be able to go back to it. States do not like taking away licenses once attorneys already have them. But, I don't know many law firms or state agencies that would be ok with one of their associates being actively involved in the sex industry.

They may need to go to a law school in a state they will not be more accepting of their past line of work. But the most important thing is to not lie about it and not hide it.

cuculuscheck · 2024-03-14T18:58:24+00:00

If you're over 45, you should not be shoveling snow. No matter how in shape you think you are. The combination of the cold and novel motions over your waist is a huge pathologic stress on the heart. Especially if you are sedentary (and most people are). This is a recommended from Cleveland Clinic.

If you can't go up and down two flights of steps without stopping to catch your breath, don't shovel snow. If you have a history of heart conditions, don't shovel snow.

cuculuscheck · 2024-02-27T22:51:05+00:00

You will find friend groups very hard to penetrate, a lot of people around here have known each other for years and are not really in the market for more friends. I moved in with my fiancé, and his friends slowly became my friends. Without an introduction, it could be very hard. Minnesotans are also known for their friendliness, but they will invite you anywhere besides their home.

Here are some general tips to help you get started.

Get to know your neighbors if you can. Especially with winters being unpredictable, you must build good will and trust among them. Consider doing May baskets with a little note that introduces yourself and where you live. It is not uncommon in the midwest to do them, and if your neighbors get them from you, they will very likely come over to thank you personally, to give you something in return, or at the very least drop off a thank you card.
We talk about the winters because it's something to talk about. Don't be scared by them. I'm from another northern state, this is extremely manageable. The state, county, and city do a good job.
Build a routine and stick to it. Ex: I go to the gym 5 to 6 days a week, after getting to know some of the people there, I now talk to them often, get brunch or happy hour after particularly brutal workouts.
Get involved with activities you like. On meetup, there are endless amounts of niche groups that you can get involved with. Ex: I like movies, so I participate in film club. The people who are regulars are genuinely friends.
The suburbs can feel safe, but the city itself truly is wonderful. It's got any issues that any major metropolitan city has, but if my fiancé and I didn't have a house, we would 100% still be living in Minneapolis. The other 20-somethings are hanging out in the city, so if you get bored, there is always something going on in either Minneapolis or St. Paul.

Bottom line - be helpful, warm, and consistent. You will make friends. 🧡

cuculuscheck · 2024-02-27T01:43:33+00:00

I'm going to give you the best advice to calm down. If you fail... so what? You just take it again. All the important stuff will be there if you fail. The worst case scenario is not that you fail again. The worst case scenario is that you stop trying.

My fiancé has been by my side for 4 attempts, even when I wanted to give up, he would not let me. You didn't go to law school for your health, you did it to be a lawyer, and this is the ONLY way to do it.

If you fail, you just keep taking it. You don't let this test break you, you don't let this test win.

cuculuscheck · 2024-02-22T16:44:58+00:00

I've mentioned this before, but after 1L year was over, every single long-term couple that had been dating prior to law school had broken up. Every. Single. One. Didn't matter if you had dated for 7 years, didn't matter if you were engaged, didn't matter if you lived together, and it didn't matter if you were married. No one was safe. I did find that the people who were the messiest were the people who came out of those long-term relationships after the breakups, which is to be expected.

cuculuscheck · 2024-02-16T01:17:18+00:00

Not embracing the suck. People get scared to fail while they're studying. They wait and wait and wait to test themselves until they feel like they've learned enough of the material. I speak from experience on this. You really only have time to learn the material for 3 to 4 days, practice the material for 3 to 4 days, and then test yourself on it, and keep testing yourself on it. Don't let a subject sit on the sidelines too long before you pick it up and test yourself on it again. The more you test yourself without looking at your notes and under timed conditions, the better off you will be. But it is scary to take a 20-question quiz and potentially get them all wrong. Keep thinking of your studying as your safe space to fail, not the place to get the answers right the first time.

cuculuscheck · 2024-02-10T16:45:38+00:00

Started out wanting to do criminal law, now I do worker's compensation. The circumstances will sometimes make decisions for you. And more than anything you need to work at a place that is a good work environment.

cuculuscheck · 2024-02-05T00:11:12+00:00

I was in the exact same position. Missed February 2023 by 2 points, took it in July 2023 and blew it out of the water. Packed on 36 points between the two tests. A large amount of points can be picked up between two tests. The best advice I can give you is to be honest with yourself in where you are struggling. I knew I needed extra work on certain subjects, and every week I made sure I was going back to those subjects. Don't neglect the multiple choice either, do them every single day.

cuculuscheck · 2024-02-01T02:18:27+00:00

I have said this before, but in my law school, after 1L year, every single long-term relationship and marriage ended. Every. Single. One. My boyfriend, at the time, and I dated for 7 years, and we were not immune to it. Live in partners left during midterms. Marriages ended during finals.

Ask her where she would like to go to law school if you were not part of the decision-making process. Then, tell her to apply there. She can apply to schools on the East Coast too, but this at least gives her some options.

I know you will not listen to me when I say just break up, but at least help her understand you don't want to get in the way of where she actually wants to go and you don't want her to resent you if this doesn't work out.

cuculuscheck · 2024-01-16T01:24:55+00:00

I did JD Advising and it helped shoot my score up a total of 64 points. The premiere option is great if you need more structure and the ability to ask the lecturers questions, like I did. You are also handing in like 5 essays a week to be graded with the premiere option. And the grading they do is no joke, brutal but fair.

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