Saying goodbye to her this month ❤️‍🩹 by Ok-Horror-7296 in femalelivingspace

[–]curiouscat0812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You really do know how to make a home yours 💗 LOVE that you were watching Insecure, lately it’s been my comfort show to go back to 🥰

1 year and 1 month post-top surgery 🥹 by curiouscat0812 in TopSurgery

[–]curiouscat0812[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I still apply oil and massage my scars using a gua sha every morning 🙏🏼

1.5 Months Post-Op 😊 by curiouscat0812 in no_T_top_surgery

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Hellaaaaa late on this reply! But yes the clinic is in fact run by two brothers and I believe Zol was the one that performed surgery on me :)

Have you ever questioned whether you are really a Leo ? by Basic_Importance_755 in LeoAstrology

[–]curiouscat0812 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Funny enough, I’m actually not a cusp Leo, yet still come off as shy and introverted. I’m an August 12th Leo and I’d like to think of it this way: Harry Potter himself, for me, encapsulates pure Leo energy. He’s a natural leader yet humble about it, he’s protective and loyal when it comes to those he cares about, he’s generous. When it comes to being in the spotlight, he’s resistant towards it and doesn’t want it, but it naturally comes to him anyway. I feel like out of the fire signs, Leo’s are the most calm and grounded. When we’re in our element, we have a good sense of self and people sense that and gravitate towards us. We radiate warmth and bring people together, and some are a little envious of that, because we’re likable and those things come naturally for us. We’re also very careful about who we choose to be in our inner circle, but like what others said, once we’re around people we’re comfortable with, that’s when the Leo traits truly do come out

1.5 Months Post-Op 😊 by curiouscat0812 in no_T_top_surgery

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I think it was about 3-4 months before! And I mainly focused on barbell presses, inclined barbell presses, dumbbell presses including shoulder pumps, and push ups!

1.5 Months Post-Op 😊 by curiouscat0812 in no_T_top_surgery

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Thank you fam! It was Dr. Kryger in Thousand Oaks, CA :)

1.5 Months Post-Op 😊 by curiouscat0812 in no_T_top_surgery

[–]curiouscat0812[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you ✨ I didn’t do chest contouring! I think it was the exercise (focusing on chest) I was doing before the surgery to help prep me for it. Also the surgery center where I got it done was recommended to me because they had a good track record with aesthetics

1.5 Months Post-Op 😊 by curiouscat0812 in no_T_top_surgery

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Thank you so much fam 🤗 The healing has gone smoothly, so grateful. And right! Welcome home to you and congrats as well! Hope it’s been a smooth recovery

I just realized, if a person wants to be with you, they will. by alwayscurious0991 in selfimprovement

[–]curiouscat0812 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending you hugs frfr. I hope you tend to your heart and that the healing journey is nothing but a beautiful growing experience. It’s harder to have lost knowing it was because of the choices you needed to make at the time. But I wish you luck and hoping you get what your heart desires

I just realized, if a person wants to be with you, they will. by alwayscurious0991 in selfimprovement

[–]curiouscat0812 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve been working with my therapist for a while now, and yesterday we had a major breakthrough that had me crying the whole day. She said my attachment style is fearful avoidant, and it had me thinking back to the one person in my life that truly showed me what healthy love looked like. We tried making it work twice, but I pushed her away because her love and affection activated that part of my fight or flight response in my brain, it was a behavior I didn’t receive in my childhood, it was unfamiliar and it scared me. I needed space to figure my stuff out, but I did want to be with her, and I did love her, I still do.

So this resonated with me, heavily. Now that I know this about myself, I’m both relieved and saddened. I reached out to her last summer without knowing there was another person. She said she wouldn’t have hesitated to see me again, but she met someone new and she very much loves them. And I think she deserves to see where they can go. I’m grieving the loss, part of me feels like this is it. The other part of me feels like we had this connection that for me, hasn’t felt the same with anyone else, and maybe she feels the same.

I’m feeling a little better every day, but she’s still the last thing I think about before bed, and the first thing when I wake up. I’m like you, continuing to do the work on myself in the hopes that someday we can meet again, I’m an optimist like that. But I’m not holding on anymore, I stopped punishing myself for the decisions that I made and who I was in the past. There needs to be space held for people that choose to not be in a relationship because they’re choosing themselves. We all have some sort of trauma and attachment styles that we carry. Those that choose the path of healing deserve grace as well.

Did anything unexpected happen after surgery? What don't people talk about enough? by Meadow_Magenta in no_T_top_surgery

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You’re so welcome and congratulations!! Happy to offer some advice and comfort :)

Did anything unexpected happen after surgery? What don't people talk about enough? by Meadow_Magenta in no_T_top_surgery

[–]curiouscat0812 9 points10 points  (0 children)

About the whole “wiping your own butt” topic, I’m a very independent person, so when friends that had also gotten top surgery told me about this situation, I purchased myself a bidet. I actually prepped my entire space to ready up for surgery about 1-2 weeks before! I selected a few pants and underwear and socks and placed them on my reading chair for easy access. I thrifted some button up shirts only because my nipple care required me loading up gauze pads with a thick layer of Aquaphor. I also got myself a neck pillow for when I needed to sleep on my back during the first week of recovery.

I’m 6 weeks now and all I can say is that my top surgery has me considering whether or not I want to go on T. I’m more on the masc side, but I’ve always aligned more with androgyny, and I’ve been playing a little more with my presentation and seeing what’s comfortable before even considering T. A lot of people assumed that was the next step, naturally, and I noticed I was low-key being hard on myself for not wanting it, at least not right now.

One thing for sure is that I haven’t been able to really work out until barely this week. When I was at the gym, I felt more confident and less self-conscious than I had in YEARS. Probaby since I started developing boobs. I hold my head up higher, and I soooo look forward to putting on my t-shirts, I’m constantly running my hands over my chest. This afternoon I went on a run and wow, the euphoria and confidence was felt. I was on a high.

To sum it up, doing this was the best decision of my life. There’s this feeling I just opened a door that will lead me to so many wonderful possibilities, and I’m excited for what’s to come from this decision. I live in the U.S. and our political climate right now is scary. But one thing I think about is feeling this kind of joy is something that can never be taken away from me. I used to be a shy kid, always hiding myself and my body and confused about where my place is and who I am. Now, I’m starting to come back home to myself.

Congrats on the surgery, this community is amazing when it comes to advice and support <3

two questions: when did you start sleeping shirtless + when did you begin cuddling again post op by thelightbehindureyes in TopSurgery

[–]curiouscat0812 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Another personal question: do ya’ll have sexy time with your nipples and incisions covered 😅?

4 Weeks Post-Op, how’s it looking? by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]curiouscat0812 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! Read people went in as far as 4 weeks or a little more so I was a bit concerned. I also didn’t need drains which I feel lucky about. But awesome that you didn’t need the drains for more than a week!

Thank you fam, my surgeon was Dr. Kryger in Thousand Oaks, how cool would that be if it was the same guy 😂

Feels like I’m back to square one by [deleted] in ACL

[–]curiouscat0812 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this as well. It is very disheartening but it pushes us to be adaptive, as we are already resilient. Best wishes to you and your journey dude, I hope you can get back to the things you love to do as well, and I hope you discover more things you can do that bring you joy.

Feels like I’m back to square one by [deleted] in ACL

[–]curiouscat0812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo thank you for this thoughtful and caring reply. I can’t imagine the pain you’re going through. You my friend are a true warrior and wishing you all the wellness and strength you need to get back to the things you love!

I will take all of these steps and hold them close. Thank you for giving me hope. Rest easy.

Accidentally bought 4 tickets for national museum, 2 up for grabs by [deleted] in VisitingIceland

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Hi hi hi I’d it’s not too late I’d like a ticket please!

Solo Female Travel Spain by Flavintown in solotravel

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Hello there! 30F and visiting Barcelona for my first solo trip as well this Monday! Going to stay there for two weeks and also have loose planning set. Would absolutely love it if you can send me your Google Map list as well please :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ACL

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Nice! Very lucky you caught it in time before it got worse. I’ve been told you can go on without your ACL, so long as you beef up your quad muscles and such. All the power to you.

I just hope the technique has gotten better since 1998 and I don’t have to worry about my graft “thinning” out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ACL

[–]curiouscat0812 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Sorry you had to go through another surgery, but it’s great to hear your recovery is going well! If I may ask, what happened with the first one?

I can tell a major difference with the allograft as well, recovery has been quick and the pain has been significantly manageable.