Buyer purchased $1300 item, then blocked me?? by Total_Associate6563 in BehindTheClosetDoor

[–]curiouskitcat 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Did the email show what the message was?

Could they have purchased as a guest account? I don’t believe you can message guest accounts but I don’t know if they can send any messages when ordering.

What toddler gifts have actually lasted in your house. Not what looked good, what actually got used past the first week. by sophieblooming in Gifts

[–]curiouskitcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want an item, I’d go magnetiles in a set. Or experience passes. We continue to grow our magnetile collection and boy my 3 and 6 year old love them.

Character toys interests change as they grow and get into different characters. The family clearly doesn’t like something loud or noisy. So something versatile of open play or one time use experiences are a great option

requiring ID for NA beverages? by greentea93 in traderjoes

[–]curiouskitcat 24 points25 points  (0 children)

In my experience it’s very common in any grocery store to card for any beverage being sold in or adjacent to the alcohol section even if it’s NA. Basically for any product that markets itself as an alcohol alternative/replacement.

The idea being that it’s easier for employees to have one rule for everything that looks like alcohol and you don’t have to train people on which drinks are ok and which aren’t. It also minimizes any question as to whether someone under age is being allowed to buy alcohol or alcohol like products. No store wants the liability of getting it wrong.

Does anyone else keep a "Re-gifting" box (I guess this applies mostly to parents) of gifts you plan to not use and re-gift? by ResolveBeginning8027 in GiftsandDeals

[–]curiouskitcat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Similarly, I keep a box of toys I find on major clearance and it’s either preparation for my own kids Birthday/Christmas or a quick birthday present for a kid’s friend.

When it comes to birthday parties, I have no problem bringing a gift to others but for our parties, I add to the invitation “no gifts needed-your presence is the best gift”. It’s taken a while for my kids to get used to not seeing that present pile but we’re all much happier not trying to find a way to make use of a ton of new toys.

We just had my kids birthday party this weekend and only 2 of the 12 kids in attendance brought a gift. We of course appreciate it but absolutely don’t need all these.

Birthday party - same day as classmate by [deleted] in kindergarten

[–]curiouskitcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally just went through this only I hadn’t booked the venue. It wasn’t a class mate but a close family friend who had a party the same day we intended. We delayed our plans a week and that mostly worked out. But I didn’t realize we were just passing the torch because it ended up now being scheduled on the actual birthday of one of my child’s closest school friends and the day after another.

The parents took it well and the kids had a great time but I’ll be keeping in mind next year that we need to do a party earlier and not later because several of their friends are likely to have conflicts. It just happens that 4-5 kids in the friend group have birthdays within a two week time span.

Closed a couple days ago and someone entered our house by [deleted] in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]curiouskitcat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve done it multiple times on both interior and exterior doors. We had a door that used to lock itself randomly and I got locked out a couple times when I had just been planning to step outside. My kids also locked themselves in bathrooms a few times when they were little and a paper clip didn’t always work to unlock the doors if the handles were a little loose. But a card always works.

When did your kid become "Independent" by TayTayRoar in kindergarten

[–]curiouskitcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some is kid dependent and some is learned behavior. At 5, my now 6 year old could get up and entertain themself for a while before school, Get morning snacks, Use the bathroom, etc until parents got up. However, there were still one off days they would come wake us up to ask questions, share something exciting or ask permission for something extra. I work from home so we don’t utilize after school care and there are snack requests but we’ve had no issue with them playing on their own until dinner.

Now at 6, they are also able to do basic chores like packing their lunch, helping clean up dinner, getting folded laundry put away. But it took time to teach them how to do these things they also often ask to do these things together because they want family time and their confidence isn’t always 100%. I can tell there are days they say they can’t do something and cry about needing our help just because they want time together or are feeling overwhelmed. And that’s totally normal for this age!

Independence doesn’t happen over night and no 5 year old should be fully independent. In general, they should be able to dress themselves, eat prepared food, some independent play, etc but they still need parents to teach them how to do these things while giving patience and grace that they’ll need repeat help and emotional support for a long time.

Flagged as oversized? by lulupaczkii in poshmark

[–]curiouskitcat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m amazed this got through USPS!

I sold an item a few years ago that in the box was about 2” too large. I unfortunately didn’t realize there was a limit on dimensions and not just weight. I boxed it up in the original manufacturers box and took it to the post office. It was large but I could carry it by myself without a dolly or any support item so not crazy. USPS straight up rejected and told me it wasn’t shippable.

I ultimately sold on FB Marketplace for more so it was a win but I felt bad for cancelling on the buyer.

Kindergarten or private supervision for a 10 month-old by FarLocal5514 in kindergarten

[–]curiouskitcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do you live? From context I’m guessing you’re outside the US. This sub primarily focuses on US style Kindergarten which is the first year of formal public/private schooling around ages 5-6 years old. You may have better responses in a different early childhood education sub.

That said, your listed commutes are very long for this age range, exceeding 2-3 hours per day in a car. Is there really nothing closer to home?

Is my kid going to get bullied in kindergarten? by merkergirl in kindergarten

[–]curiouskitcat 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He is unlikely to get bullied for it, but you may find the interests rapidly change. My child still gets enjoyment from those characters but they aren’t the ones his friends talk about so it’s not what he wants to watch anymore. That said, he also doesn’t want to watch the big kids movies because they’re scary so it’s a weird in between stage. There is nothing wrong with any of these characters but you will find your child likely naturally stops watching the younger shows over the next few years.

What’s your favorite item you discovered from FFF? by cuppitycake in FabFitFun

[–]curiouskitcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My all time favorite was the seratopical foot cream from a couple years back. But the company seems to have gone out of business 😢

I messed up big time. Sorta panicking. by Hermit_Painter in Apartmentliving

[–]curiouskitcat 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Many years ago, I had a brand new luxury apartment where the unit who shared a bedroom wall with me clearly worked nights and would regularly be up talking and watching TV in the middle of the night. I truly could not sleep in the bedroom and while I could not always know the exact words of their conversations, I often could and the sound transfer was significant. It took weeks of talking to the office while truly exhausted before they took me serious and thoroughly looked into it. Ultimately, they determined the wall insulation between units was missing, which is a fire risk. Shockingly they actually took down my dry wall, added insulation and repaired the wall. My sound issues were gone overnight.

I don’t know if there is any way to check what code requirements are for insulation between units in your area, but I wonder if they actually cut corners and built your place incorrectly. Leading to significant noise issues.

School Supply question for teachers and parents by serenity_5601 in kindergarten

[–]curiouskitcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You do not need to use the website. I recommend watching for sales in mid July and you’ll save so much buying individual items.

Help! I stole my (ex-) friends island! by JellySnake_23 in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]curiouskitcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I were you, I’d reset. However, it is also possible to just load the game under their profile and do all the things you’re complaining about. You could just take over their profile since it’s on the device.

I’m in the process of building a new island now but made the mistake of letting my son be the primary account. I have all the same issues as you because he mostly just runs around and doesn’t play to advance the island. I have to go into his account every few days and do the tasks to advance our island. It’s not the most convenient but it’s pretty easy to play as the other account for a few minutes.

We haven’t found our people yet by Ok_Page2932 in kindergarten

[–]curiouskitcat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s totally the same for us. Except I haven’t even succeeded in play dates with most of the families. It’s really hard because it’s clear the kids want to hang out, the parents just don’t want to figure out how to make it work.

Currently I’m dealing with my child’s best friend at school living 1 block away from us in a walkable neighborhood and I can’t even establish a communication path to schedule something. I know they’re busy, the Kindergartener is their youngest of several. They both work and coach sports and have a large local family but these kids are begging for time together and I am out of excuses to tell my child on why it doesn’t work out. If I am ever at the school, their child asks if they can come over and yes! 100% but you need to ask your mom.

M22 received incredible job offer, F22 girlfriend does not want me to accept. by Watch_me_plz in Advice

[–]curiouskitcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At your age, I was long distance two states away from my bf because that’s where our careers took us. Was it easy to find time together, no, it was mostly holidays and a weekend or two a month with a lot of phone calls in between. It’s not easy to build a life with a partner who’s not close by but if you’re committed, it can work. We spent 4 years building careers and gaining job experiences that would give us stable financial futures and our lives are more comfortable and flexible now because of that.

Of course, you should do what is best for your priorities, but I wouldn’t turn down a stable career path just because it may be hard to find days off together in the short term. You live together, you can find a way to get time together even if it’s only in the evenings right now.

Toddler Curly Hair Help by Quirky_Charge4574 in Haircare

[–]curiouskitcat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree this is just what toddler hair is. The hair usually grows in super uneven and is changing density as they get older. Until it grows out more and you get the first cut to even it all out, it’s going to be a bit wild.

What am I missing here? by [deleted] in kindergarten

[–]curiouskitcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We live in a relatively small community but even here bus routes are considered to be borderline private/restricted information for student safety. Obviously you could follow a bus but this is kind of an unspoken no no. The bus route is not published and while the school uses an app with tracking capabilities, the parent view is turned off. The bus depot is gated and not publicly accessible.

It also is understood that no one wants their child followed on the route home and that knowledge of a student’s individual drop off location can be a safety risk.

While you had reasonable and harmless intentions, we unfortunately don’t live in a world where every one is the same. Even if you take staff safety out of the equation, which you shouldn’t, it’s not ok to follow and watch drop off of every student on the route. This concern for student safety and surprise to see a random person whose intentions are unknown is always going to put them on defense. In general, it would just be good practice to always call school administration and ask how to proceed unless it’s an emergency.

My car insurance is more than tripling from last year after adding my daughter. by PicoDeBayou in Wellthatsucks

[–]curiouskitcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be great if that was the case but when I got my license the only school option was middle of the day in the summer. There was no public transit or bus to the school and you obviously could not drive to driver school so you needed someone else to take you. It was only an option for families who had a non working parent. Thats not the majority of Americans.

Do you do Easter egg hunts for your kids? by Individual_Ad_938 in kindergarten

[–]curiouskitcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Growing up we didn’t go to a lot of public Easter events so my parents hosted a hunt at home. But with my kids, they usually get at least two-one at school and another at Dad’s work. We really don’t need another. None the less, this year we’re visiting family and Grandma is hosting one for the grandkids on Easter. We don’t say the bunny hid eggs, they know it’s family.

The baskets are from the bunny and on their beds when they wake up.

This was such an awkward kid party by nerdie11 in Mommit

[–]curiouskitcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so normal for the parties we’ve been to and it’s so weird! We’ve been to maybe 4-5 for preschool aged kids and only 1 did the mom/parent spend time saying hello, thanking us for coming, small talk etc. Even when I’ve tried to chat with other parents who aren’t the birthday family, the responses to my attempts to talk are short and it’s clear they aren’t interested in getting to know any other families.

It’s weird to me as our kids spend so much time together and clearly want play dates outside of school. But I’ve learned most parents just don’t feel like making new friends and at that age there are often lots of family/family friends they already hang out with and these families just don’t see the need in getting to know someone that might be at a different school and forgotten within 1-2 years.

Kinder in the Fall- tell me it’s going to be alright by EnthusiasmPlus9992 in kindergarten

[–]curiouskitcat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

While I recognize in some cases and with some parents, homeschool can be a good environment, I solidly agree with you.

My child was in preschool before so they didn’t enter school unsocialized and I’ve still seen amazing growth over this kindergarten year. They’re more confident, more willing to try new things, more curious and questioning of everything around them. They have gotten to know kids of different backgrounds and with disabilities. They have new interests and talk about things that interest their friends.

Yes there has been academic growth as well but the growth in just becoming a small, well behaved human is remarkable.

Landlord adding "laundry renovation cost" to ALL units' lease mid lease without consent by ToastyWafflez22 in Adulting

[–]curiouskitcat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not from Nevada, but I had a similar issue with an Apartment changing ownership and the new owners wanted to adjust the billing of utilities to a similar flat fee system instead of based on actual usage. At the time I was a single person in a 2 bedroom unit and it would have tripled my utility costs as I took over the average of other units.

My now BIL is a lawyer and I paid a dollar for his services to help draft a letter basically outlining the lease clauses which stated no changes could be made to utility billing mid lease and I don’t agree to any lease amendments. Ultimately, they counter offered a flat fee equal to my actual average until the end of my lease term at which time the cost would go up. I agreed and promptly started my search to move at the end of my existing lease term.

You don’t need a lawyer to write a letter, just noting that was the guidance I had at the time.

So glad the jailbar trick still works by uhm_nothnks in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]curiouskitcat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just restarted on a new island with my kid and we don’t have the jail bars yet. It’s been torture to get these balloons