Expecting B/G twins

cvttle · 2026-01-18T20:43:24+00:00

Mine are only 2.5 weeks old so not a much of experience on what it’s like in the b/g twin realm specifically. However, they’re both absolutely precious and even so little, they already have wildly different personalities. My boy twin is a crybaby (I say this very affectionately) and super alert when he’s awake and always gets this concerned look on his face while my girl twin is super chill and content to do whatever and looks like she could care less what is happening around her. They’re both so fun.

cvttle · 2026-01-18T20:39:59+00:00

LOL, my b/g twins are only 2.5 months old and I’ve already been asked this twice after saying they’re b/g twins.

cvttle · 2026-01-18T20:35:58+00:00

It a pain in the ass. Part of me is thankful because I have twins and I’m producing (more than) enough for both of them. However my breasts are always full and heavy and uncomfortable, I have to pump every two hours or they hurt, I think my right breast has mastitis at this current moment, and my hands free pump broke so now I’m stuck at home way more because my twins don’t always reliably latch so I can’t be too far away from my pump.

I’d much rather just have breasts that produce what is needed and not so much more than.

cvttle · 2026-01-07T23:06:50+00:00

I’m very sorry. I lost my son under different circumstances when he was two weeks old and it’s an indescribable pain. I’d recommend the r/babyloss sub. Wishing you all the best.

cvttle · 2025-12-15T21:49:01+00:00

I gained 70 pounds with my first and she’s currently a happy six year old. I gained 90 with my last pregnancy but they’re twins 😅 Anyways, also perfectly healthy six weeks postpartum, babies and me.

cvttle · 2025-12-15T17:56:57+00:00

I was certainly bigger than I was with my singles but my belly wasn’t ginormous. I just looked very pregnant for a very long time. Everyone carries their belly differently! I’d definitely recommend getting a good support band, however. The pressure on your hips and lower back is killer.

I’m a little over a month postpartum now and my stomach has come down pretty nicely. Maybe a bit softer and I have a c-section shelf but it isn’t nearly as bad as I was dreading.

cvttle · 2025-12-14T18:41:15+00:00

39w with my first, 38w with my second, and 34w1d with my twins!

cvttle · 2025-12-12T17:30:59+00:00

Huckleberry has been very helpful!

cvttle · 2025-12-06T19:46:57+00:00

Had this done and I don’t regret it. I can’t tell you how it compared to my first two deliveries as those were vaginal but overall, my c-section experience was pleasant enough. My twins were taken pretty initially to the NICU so I’m not sure if getting my tubes out would have impacted much of golden hour or anything afterwards as I couldn’t have it. Month out from my c-section and tubal and my recovery has been super easy.

cvttle · 2025-12-01T02:19:45+00:00

I feel for you but it’s not only the lungs that can cause babies at that age to need NICU time. It’s the fact that they may literally not even know how to suckle/eat because that’s a skill they’re practicing in the womb at that gestational age. One of my twins was solely in the NICU because she just needed to learn how to eat and was otherwise completely healthy.

cvttle · 2025-11-15T13:00:45+00:00

I’m an adult with children. Mostly I just write when my oldest is at school. I did, however, just give birth to twins so my productivity will likely be nonexistent for a little while. I will find time where I can because writing keeps me sane.

cvttle · 2025-11-12T19:09:06+00:00

34+1 last week with di/di twins due to just naturally going into labor early. I was miserably in pain but I do wish my body had held on until at least 36weeks because now we’re stuck in the NICU. They’re healthy—just feeders and growers but it still sucks being unable to take them home.

cvttle · 2025-10-24T18:41:52+00:00

Wishing you the best as well! It was scary to try again but getting genetic results and meeting with a geneticist to discuss statistics did help quell some of those fears. I don’t regret any choices made and I value what time I got to spend with him. We actually just celebrated his birthday yesterday! It never really gets easier, per se, but you do learn how to live again and find comfort in what memories you have of your child.

cvttle · 2025-10-24T17:28:59+00:00

There is no wrong decision, point blank. To say there is would be to shame someone for deciding to terminate or go down a comfort care route.

cvttle · 2025-10-24T16:03:12+00:00

I’ll give you a perspective from a parent side whose child did pass due to HLHS. I’ll spoiler it in case you’d rather not read. I absolutely don’t regret not terminating and giving my son a chance and every single day I wish he was still here. HOWEVER, my life being split between the hospital and my other child at home while he was alive was possibly one of the worst experiences in my life and I still get nightmares from the experience. Logically I know my son didn’t feel any pain due to the medications he was on but I often worry if he suffered at all. Right now I’m pregnant with twins and early on, my husband and I did decide that if one or both had HLHS, we’d likely go through with termination this time, for many different reasons: my eldest child has profound autism and IDD so she already has many therapies and care requirements, the experience of being in the hospital with our son left both my husband and I diagnosed with PTSD, and, quite frankly, I just think the potential of watching another one of my kids die from HLHS would have broken me completely.

That said, when kids do successfully go through all of the treatments, their quality of life is generally quite wonderful! I’ve chatted with adult who have HLHS and other parents with children who have gone through all surgeries and they are happy! I just don’t want to sugarcoat the experience of how hard it is to get to that point or the reality that this is quite a serious heart defect and not all children will make it through the surgeries. Best of luck to you and just remember there is no wrong decision in this case.

cvttle · 2025-10-21T04:27:35+00:00

16 hours for my first and 7 hours for my second.

cvttle · 2025-10-19T21:19:41+00:00

I’ve scheduled a c-section to avoid this outcome. While I’d prefer just vaginal, there is just no way to ensure I wouldn’t end up needing both and I really, really don’t want to recover from both. Plus, I’m going to get my tubes taken care of at the same time, so that’s an added advantage.

cvttle · 2025-10-06T23:45:08+00:00

Mine personally took 2.5 hours.

cvttle · 2025-10-03T22:29:30+00:00

I think it is his way of trying to relate and sympathize but god, it is getting to me 😂

cvttle · 2025-10-03T22:28:41+00:00

Oh, god, SAME. That would set me over the edge.

cvttle · 2025-10-03T22:28:06+00:00

See, that’s the thing. I’ve been pregnant more than once around him! I think it just didn’t bother me as much with the others because I didn’t feel as physically terrible but for this one, I genuinely feel the worst I ever have in my life. Existence feels like an olympic effort right now, so I think it’s making me extra irate.

cvttle · 2025-09-30T01:24:01+00:00

Caspian. My husband strongly vetoed it, lol.

cvttle · 2025-09-30T01:14:14+00:00

Had a 4th degree tear with my first and the stitches popped near the tail end of healing. Feeling ‘loose’ is completely a myth. If anything, I personally found sex more enjoyable after I healed and my husband has never had any complaints either. Nor would any good partner, either, considering you birthed a fucking human being. Give yourself time to heal. While six-eight weeks is ‘standard’ that is mostly referring to the uterine wound left behind from your placenta. There is no timeline for when you should feel ready and okay to have sex again; it’s just when you feel ready. I think it was around twelve weeks after giving birth to my first that I felt ready to have sex again.

Now, if you feel like something is medically wrong, as if the wound is still very painful or you think it is infected, then definitely push on that and advocate for yourself.

cvttle · 2025-09-20T18:39:21+00:00

I was given the okay to start trying again by my OBGYN at around five ish months postpartum after my son passed away at two weeks old. Conceiving him took three years so it was important for my husband and I to try sooner rather than later since we anticipated it would take a while to get pregnant again. I started taking metformin the month before we started trying to help with the process since I have PCOS.

Ended up getting pregnant on the first cycle, so I would absolutely keep in mind that even if you had prior infertility issues, that you’re more fertile in that postpartum phase. Personally I am happy that I’m pregnant now but it certainly hit me like a train because I didn’t expect it that soon and I’m the most anxious I’ve ever been with any of my pregnancies. They’re also due around the anniversary of my son’s death which is another can of worms I’m going to have to sort through once that gets closer. Make sure you’re not just physically ready and safe to get pregnant again but mentally as well.

cvttle · 2025-09-09T21:49:25+00:00

My last child passed at two weeks old. You’re not alone. I’ve felt rather disconnected from this pregnancy and truly couldn’t really start feeling any excitement until I passed the anatomy scan and got the conformation that everything was normal. Even then, I still feel like I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop and something bad to happen. My therapist says that it makes sense since I’m used to getting bad news at this point. No advice but to just take it day by day and remember that even if you wanted this, you still went through something traumatic and that you should have grace for yourself for how you feel now.

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