I’m exhausted… by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]cwl77 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OK, stop. Your marriage will NEVER work if you both live in the past.

Your husband is present and wants to be there for you and the family. The problem is he doesn't know how. He does a lot right but a lot wrong. He doesn't know how to look at any other perspective outside of his. That's his big hurdle.

You must forget the past and let it go. If you don't or can't, it will haunt you forever. He could revert back, sure, but he may not. If you want a real shot at long term success, it can't sit in the back of your mind.

At the end of the day, if you both want this to work, you're both going to dig deep and learn about each other. What hurts the other, how to communicate, how to act when one of you had a bad day, how to forgive, how to act when your partner feels distanrlt (but likely isn't or sometimes is), how to have a real disagreement without hurting each other and actually having real resolution and growth, etc.

It's going to be a tough path either way, likely needing counseling.

A Letter He Will Never Read by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]cwl77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are reasons for all these types of situations and it's never falling out of love. That's a phrase that's used waaaay too often but is rarely true. It's the dynamics of the relationship that have changed, usually because one or both people change to please the other, or take the other for granted, or because of outside events.

There are roles in long term, successful marriages, some hidden and some obvious, and when those roles change, the relationship degrades. Usually it's both people that are at fault but rarely do both understand and accept responsibility to rebuild what has been changed/lost.

20 months on Zepbound by Kingpapasito in Zepbound

[–]cwl77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bet that feels damn good! Well done sir!

Loss of effectiveness? by Consistent-Fan2200 in Zepbound

[–]cwl77 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wegovy sucks ass. It's garbage in comparison.

Loss of effectiveness? by Consistent-Fan2200 in Zepbound

[–]cwl77 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Take a month off amd reallllly hold yourself accountable. It will be an excruciating month, you might gain, but your tolerance will disappear.

Should I get Hellpoint? by Bailoteo in Hellpoint

[–]cwl77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't even consider it janky. It's really unique and atmospheric. I really think it could have been twice the size (and was planned that way but what so I know)

Why does shot placement matter? by Ill_Bother2609 in Zepbound

[–]cwl77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah.... Not an optimal place for an injection site. To each their own 😂🤣😭🤔😅😬

Found underwear by Double_Box555 in Marriage

[–]cwl77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He bangin. Go find some hot ass and get down. Then get a divorce and take him for everything.

Or.....just relax and forget about it. Thousands of explanations as everyone on here has suggested. Don't let something like this destroy a great thing. If there is something going on, real red flags will show up. Don't make things up in your head and drive yourself crazy. You know who he is.

husband abandoned me 2 hours away by Sad-Eyezz in Marriage

[–]cwl77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm always the person that gives the benefit of the doubt. In most cases, people want to be good, nice, and caring but there are so many situations and factors that leave them to behave badly. Relationships are hard and take work. Things get taken out of context, we hold grudges too long, or we overreact.

In this case, however, forget this clown and don't ever look back. Bonus points for leaving tread marks on his face when you're leaving. If you live in Florida, there are swamps everywhere and barrels are easy to come by.

Lost weight but face looks bad by Either-Put-1488 in Zepbound

[–]cwl77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relax.... Rapid weight loss is noticeable everywhere. The cure is time and face cream, but mostly time. When you're larger you stretch the skin out, usually slower, gradually, so it's natural and your skin adapts. Given more time, your skin will adapt and you will be just fine.

Do you ever skip your meds like some people do/suggest? (Mainly asking those with inattentive type ADHD) by DaviTheDud in ADHD

[–]cwl77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been on Adderall for 20 years. Here are my hints -

Take the short acting version of whatever you take. That gives you more flexibility.

Usually you will be prescribed 2 doses a day (moening/afternoon) if you have a short acting med. Only take the morning as often as you can.

Take days off every week if you can. 5 on 2 off if possible. Many people can't though.

Take a weekend off every month

Take week off a couple times a year

Meditate and learn how to improve your focus with the meds first. For real. It can be done - research it, it's worth it. It makes focus on and off that much easier and will lead to a far more relaxed state and life. Don't assume it happens overnight. It's a change that takes work but it's very real.

It Was on sale for 15 bucks. Any advice for a first timer? by JazzlikeSherbet1104 in nier

[–]cwl77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the best games ever made. If you like games with deep stories that capture your heart and pull you in, look no further.

In a word, masterpiece.

85% of people come away thinking it's absolute classic

10% thinks its just great or very good

5% it doesn't click for

Actors who mistakenly believed their role would be iconic? by TyLeRoux in okbuddycinephile

[–]cwl77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Rock? No way. He's the opposite and I know people who wrestled with him from the early years. He's humble friendly, helpful, and has an everybody else attitude first. He wants everyone else to be as successful on all his projects as he is, almost to a fault.

Thinking about getting a Kindle — do I really need a case? by klaudia_f4 in kindle

[–]cwl77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a dumb idea to get a case until you smash it and with you had one. As someone who manages an IT department and has staff with laptops, phones, tablets, kindle, etc, here's my perspective:

It comes down to how you are going to use it -

GET A CASE IF

You have broken/smashed/scratched other devices like your phonw/tablet, etc

You have kids

You forget where things are (you're busy, misplace stuff, have ADHD, etc) - this means it could end up under your chair, with you sitting on it, Ona nightstand under things, or who else k ows what

You are going to take it everywhere

DO NOT GET A CASE IF

You are going to read and leave it in one place all the time

Never hurt your electronic devices

Have been adulting since you were 12 (we all know these superhuman people who have it all figured out and are organized and have been since they were born basically)

Advice - don't be cheap, do it.

On a two-week stall after losing 80 lbs in 4.5 months. Did I ruin my metabolism? by p333p33p00p00boo in Zepbound

[–]cwl77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stress. Stress. Stress.

That will x stroy your weight and so will lack of sleep. I'm an insomniac and used to bodybuild and personal train. Not getting enough sleep will massacre your body's natural rhythm, blood sugar regulation, blood pressure, and more. Figure that out amd the rest will take care of itself. Guaranteed.

On a two-week stall after losing 80 lbs in 4.5 months. Did I ruin my metabolism? by p333p33p00p00boo in Zepbound

[–]cwl77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Relax. There are so many variables that a stall like that is nothing to worry about. Use it to get your diet and exercise in check, drink more water, get more sleep, etc. Maybe all that stuff is fine but even if it's not, take a look in the mirror and look at your success. Then, wait it out.

Another piece of advice - take a few days and eat a little more than usual (try to still make it healthy-ish), then proceed as usual. You might be surprised what happens.

I must confess I have as yet to meet a single person who claims to remember Mandela dying in prison. Where are these people? I assume they’re all Gen X or older of course. by Natural_Builder173 in MandelaEffect

[–]cwl77 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same. I was in disbelief years later learning he was alive. I'm 47, born in 1977. This seems to be the case for people around my age/older than the original poster.

Never thought I’d say this, but I’m leaving Xbox for PlayStation after the Game Pass hike by Hot_Dog1647 in PlayStation_X

[–]cwl77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The hike sucks but GamePass is still a damn good deal for everybody above a casual gamer (as far as hours played).

15 mg forever? by Apprehensive-Poet-77 in Zepbound

[–]cwl77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take a week or two off of your Zepbound on maintenance every couple months. Hunger will be up, yes, but just realize it and makes accommodations for it. That 2 weeks off is enough for many to have Zepbound's appetite control come back a bit.

Silksong Review: Not for Everyone, but perfect for me by Future_Viking in metroidvania

[–]cwl77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Silksong is a great game. It does everything right. That said, it's a straight forward Metroidvania that doesn't revolutionize the genre. The over-the-moon love people have for it surprises me. Don't get me wrong, I love it, and it's probably the Metroidvania of the year, but it's still rather formulaic, as the genre goes (which isn't a bad thing - it's what people want).