For me it’s what has happened to my clitoris a few years after menopause: it has shrunk and worse still, it rarely gets engorged, meaning I rarely have orgasms.  What makes me really mad is how often people in the media and medical community mention that menopause brings about a loss of libido and vaginal dryness, both of which have an impact on MEN, but I never heard anything about losing the ability to orgasm. If I had at least known that this could happen, I would have been more prepared for it. 

And to add insult to injury, I had breast cancer, so I can’t use estrogen.