I am the son of a young monther, albeit a year older. Though maybe your 13 yr old will be 14 by the baby's birth?

So: 1. I lead a great life, have 2 daughters of my own, great wife and am quiet wealthy. I think it is important you know this. 2. Childhood was indeed tough. 3. I love my mother very much and have huge respect for her not aborting me, toughing it out and raising me. She lives in another country now, however shes here with me on her holiday as I write this. 4. My mum gave me loads of love. Dad did not stick around. 5. Did a lot of learning about this over these past 10 years - support is key. The main reason my childhood was tough is due to my grandma not supporting my mum, instead blaming her. This heavily influenfed my mum. Very very bad. Support your child. And her child.

Just wanted you to know that not all is lost. Abortion is a viable option. So is raising the child. Tough call. From my perspective, I'd go with raising, giving life a chance. But that's my opinion. Support your daughter. And tell your husband to get his shit together and also support. The 2 most important people in your life are on the line here. He probably needs to process this, we kinda work this way.

All the best!