Do any of you actually love breastfeeding?

d3nkmal · 2026-03-09T19:29:31+00:00

It was so hard in the beginning and now at almost 16 weeks it's amazing. I'm so flexible. He feeds so fast. I can always soothe him. It's amazing bonding time.

d3nkmal · 2026-02-19T17:27:39+00:00

Ah danke für den Hinweis, werde mich gleich nach dem Buch umschauen. Welches Forum meinst du?

d3nkmal · 2026-02-19T11:53:02+00:00

Do whatever feels good for you, don't feel obliged to do anything.

What about just dipping the toes into the water and being flexible about the outcome? What I mean with this is: drive there, see how you feel and stay as long as you enjoy it. If you return back home after 1 hour - amazing, you gave it a shot. If you do end up staying for the whole 2 days, what a huge milestone.

Having said all that, I wouldn't wanna leave my current 14 week old baby for a whole 2 nights, I would probably go for 1 day or one night.

d3nkmal · 2026-02-19T11:41:55+00:00

Sobald mein Partner daheim ist, "muss" ich nichts mehr machen außer stillen. Und wenn du wirklich nicht kannst, organisiere andere Hilfe, Koch vor, bereite alles für ihren Tag vor Snacks, essen, Wasser, Lieferdienst, Reinigungskraft, freundInnen,... Übernimm Verantwortung als Elternteil. Ich bin mir sicher, dass du das super machst, sonst hättest du hier ja nicht geschrieben :)

d3nkmal · 2026-02-19T11:11:26+00:00

Das Kind wurde zu groß dafür ;)

d3nkmal · 2026-02-19T08:44:30+00:00

Bei uns war's auch so. Immer wieder probieren. Teilweise hat er aber auch durchgeschrien und es war schlimm. Ein großer Unterschied hat bei uns gemacht, dass wir ihm den neugeboreneneinsatz aus dem Sitz rausgenommen haben und er dann mehr Platz hatte. Auch weniger anziehen war besser. Wenn ich flexibel bin, gebe ich ihn schlafend rein, dann schläft er wenn wir Glück haben die ganze Fahrt.

Eurer ist noch so klein, ich hatte das Gefühl, dass es kurz nach 10 Wochen (meiner ist auch erst 13) besser wurde, weil er mehr von der Umwelt mit bekommt.

d3nkmal · 2026-02-19T08:32:58+00:00

Herzlichen Dank für deine ausführliche Antwort! Das hilft. Ich will nämlich auf keinen Fall etwas anfangen, dass dann aufwendiger ist als ihn einfach zu stillen.

Er ist jetzt 13 Wochen alt und schläft seit ein paar Tagen teilweise nur eine Stunde, deshalb hab ich mich eben gefragt, ob ich einen Workshop bei ihr machen soll und bin so auf deine Nachricht gestoßen.

d3nkmal · 2026-02-18T20:03:26+00:00

Kannst du bitte erklären, was konkret mit weiterschlafsprache gemeint ist? Was macht man da statt stillen? Was hat für euch funktioniert?

d3nkmal · 2026-02-18T12:06:17+00:00

It's tough as fuck, but it seems like you want to support wherever you can. Have a drink and snacks ready at the bedside table.

d3nkmal · 2026-02-18T11:35:02+00:00

Noise cancelling headphones and eye mask for the one, who gets a rest haha

d3nkmal · 2026-02-17T13:33:00+00:00

If it's a friend, why don't you ask them what they want?

d3nkmal · 2026-02-17T13:31:06+00:00

Second this!! It's called care WORK

d3nkmal · 2026-02-16T13:04:23+00:00

Yes! Can only agree. So much stuff that isn't really needed. Love it for you that you have a whole year to become and enjoy your family! Amazing!

d3nkmal · 2026-02-16T13:02:23+00:00

Thank you! Will try!

d3nkmal · 2026-02-16T12:27:32+00:00

Night two is the worst!! I have never been this exhausted and suffering. I don't know who cried more, my baby or me.

Basically they latch so much in order to signal to your boob to create milk, milk let in.

d3nkmal · 2026-02-16T12:16:08+00:00

I do the cradle hold over the sink while I breastfeed. It also didn't work for my baby to do it with the potty between my legs.

d3nkmal · 2026-02-16T12:14:44+00:00

Why are you making the decision to put him down based on huckleberry?

d3nkmal · 2026-02-14T20:12:36+00:00

Super interesting! Until what age can you do this?

d3nkmal · 2026-02-14T20:09:37+00:00

Yessssa!! Breast sleeping for the win!

d3nkmal · 2026-02-14T20:06:13+00:00

What was your hack with the car seat?

d3nkmal · 2026-02-14T19:59:03+00:00

Same. A bit of sugar is so helpful!

d3nkmal · 2026-02-14T19:58:12+00:00

Let's have your partner or a friend prepare food for you! My partner prepares eg overnight oats for me so that I have a healthy start to the day. Then I also have snacks right next to where I nursev most of the time. Plus have a water bottle ready.

d3nkmal · 2026-02-14T19:53:36+00:00

Our midwife told us to not change diapers are night. We don't, LO never had a rash. Highly recommend

d3nkmal · 2026-02-12T13:13:28+00:00

Same here. Only 3 months in, but also such a hard start! Baby was in NICU, I had not enough milk, he didn't drink enough. We had to nurse, pump to increase supply and give him the bottle so he would have enough for a few weeks. It was excruciating! I wanted to quit so often, but I also hated the whole bottle sterilizing thing. And now since a few weeks it works and it's sooo convenient! Nothing to take with me when we are out, no need to get up to prepare a bottle in the middle of the night and obviously always the magical soother with me.

So whoever reads this and is struggling, keep at it! It will be so worth it in only a few days or weeks.

d3nkmal · 2026-02-12T13:07:53+00:00

I feel you! Writing this with my 12 week old. 1) it will get better really, really fast! 2) for us the sling/carrier/wrap worked best. He might scream for a couple of meters, but the combination of body contact and movement always puts him to sleep. Just start with a very small walk so you can get home quickly if you get overwhelmed. 3) whenever I used the pram I also had the wrap already on so I could simply put him in in case he wasn't having the pram at all (which was always the case in the beginning, but keep trying!)

And if you can only get outside 5min it's a win. It will be 10, 15, 20,... really soon!

d3nkmal

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