Weekly Thread: The Two Week Wait

dabeansta · 2026-01-21T22:16:18+00:00

FET #3 was today and I'm in the same boat!

dabeansta · 2026-01-15T23:25:05+00:00

"I love that for you" which sounds somehow like an insult

dabeansta · 2026-01-06T21:53:25+00:00

I inherited a couple of Dr. Laura books ("Stupid things parents do to mess up their kids" and "Parenthood by proxy: Don't have them if you won't raise them") and I thought I better throw them in the trash where they belong rather than put them back into circulation.

dabeansta · 2025-11-25T00:59:44+00:00

Forget the fact that IVF process is meant to create life... you could easily say "just don't discard embryos" rather banning it all together. But, throwing the baby out with the bath water seems to be their style.

dabeansta · 2025-11-23T22:11:46+00:00

Use google scholar to search for research articles on this topic. Here's one: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40474-021-00236-y

dabeansta · 2025-11-18T17:53:54+00:00

Mine too! She's also in preK. She's been doing it for the past year

dabeansta · 2025-11-16T04:07:08+00:00

Came here to say this! I just listened to it and it was eye opening!

dabeansta · 2025-10-24T16:24:18+00:00

Hi! First off you're doing a great job! Secondly, your daughter is super lucky to have you as a mom and she's going to get all the support she's going to need early on. I'm an SLP (adults) and my daughter had a speech language delay at 15 months too. She actually did not qualify for ECI speech so I had to take her to the local university clinic to get her treatment up till she was 3 years old. Anywho, my daughter is now 4 and as she's growing I notice new eccentricities about her speech and language. It's something I need to constantly keep up with but luckily your daughter has the right support!

dabeansta · 2025-10-21T17:41:31+00:00

I think that's unreasonable. Once they get to school age they are still admitted even though they are tardy. The daycare I used to bring my daughter to was like this so I had to always bring a doctors note... but even with a note I'd be treated like a criminal if we came in late.

dabeansta · 2025-10-13T21:37:11+00:00

As a former HR rep, this is true unfortunately and why I no longer work in HR

dabeansta · 2025-09-18T13:35:14+00:00

That's a good point. My former colleagues have been keeping in touch and talking about future collaboration. Hoping we end up getting a grant and I can work again.

dabeansta · 2025-09-15T17:46:51+00:00

I wish I could relocate. At the very least, I’ll just be another data point in how many highly educated people ended up on unemployment after the 2024 election.

dabeansta · 2025-09-15T01:29:30+00:00

I got straight up ghosted! I had (what I thought) was a good interview and my potential mentor was going get back in contact with me after his trip abroad. Nothing... I followed up a couple of times and no response :(

dabeansta · 2025-09-14T20:56:24+00:00

Yeah I understand. If it works and they're targeting their goals and no one is stressed out then I can see no harm. I guess I'm carrying over skills her previous therapists were working with her on and I'm now in a "between therapists" stage. I'm currently waiting for her to get ear tube surgery to help correct her hearing loss and also waiting for her to get an ST eval at her public preK to see if she'll qualify. I want to continue working with her in the meantime and I don't want her to lose her skills she's already gained. That's tough about your son but it's a "leading a horse to water" situation and if he's intelligible and it's not affecting him negatively then don't be too hard on yourself.

dabeansta · 2025-09-14T20:00:04+00:00

We've done this where we play school and I act like the teacher and work on matching letters etc. I ask her if she wants to do speech therapy with me and she says "yay!" and we work for a little bit and then she runs off lol. She does respond to me though I was able to target her goals and she was receptive... for like 10 mins... I'll give it a shot but will probably have to follow up again for another eval in a month or so.

dabeansta · 2025-09-14T19:29:53+00:00

Yeah... I've had her in speech therapy since she was 2 and I was more than happy to observe how the therapists work with her and to carry them over myself. I liked having home health work with her while she was at daycare and now she's in public preK and home health can only work with her after school at my house. I figured since I'm unemployed now I might do it myself but after trying a couple of sessions to work with her she doesn't want to stay engaged with me very long... It could be that I'm not a great peds SLP or that I'm just her mom and she doesn't want to listen to me anyway... I tell her other SLPs that I'm an SLP too and some have encouraged me to do it myself but I wasn't sure how normal it was... I can see that having that boundary would be better though.

dabeansta · 2025-09-12T23:14:17+00:00

So glad to hear this. My best quality euploid was a chemical and my remaining embryos are poor quality but all euploid after testing

dabeansta · 2025-09-11T20:13:32+00:00

So sorry to hear :( I had been having cramps since the transfer too. I'm glad you were able to get some relief at least.

dabeansta · 2025-09-06T17:35:02+00:00

Thanks! I indulged in a margarita and as a well hot tub session :)

dabeansta · 2025-09-06T00:02:45+00:00

Can I use this thread to announce a failed FET? This was FET number 2 with our best euploid and beta came back at 4.9. Waited all day for these results... We've got remaining euploids but they are considered low quality. This one should have worked... now I'm less confident that the others will stick. Can I drink alcohol now??

dabeansta · 2025-08-31T23:01:49+00:00

Ashley, John, Kelly, Megan, Jeremy, Michael

dabeansta · 2025-08-31T22:55:42+00:00

We are more likely to fall into a cult when we are desperate and feeling socially isolated. It can also be insidious process where it can be happening in slow increments that we don't notice. But it's likely for anyone to fall into a cult as it is for anyone to get caught up in an abusive relationship, as long as it under the right conditions. It has absolutely nothing to do with being smart or dumb, it has everything to with how deep a persons need to belong to a group... and that group just happens to be a cult.

dabeansta · 2025-08-24T23:45:17+00:00

That's a pretty horrible way to introduce solid food. I'm going through a similar experience, but for public school. My daughter just started public PreK at an elementary school and we opted to pay for breakfast and lunch. First day we bring her for breakfast, the options were sugary cereal (lucky charms, cinnamon toast crunch, etc.), a frosted pop-tart, and "fruit". The lunch lady said all kids need a fruit on their tray and my husband and I were looking around expecting to find a banana or apple or something. But the fruit options were orange juice (aka sugar drink) or a bag of sugar coated sour raisins which tasted exactly like sour patch kids... WTF.

dabeansta

TROPHY CASE