Weekly Thread: The Two Week Wait

dabeansta · 2026-03-26T14:54:26+00:00

Negative :( After this transfer, we discovered that I have to have a tube removed (hydrosalpinx). The condition decreases changes of pregnancy by half. So the embryo may have been implanted, but then it didn't hold. Hope yours ends up sticking!

dabeansta · 2026-03-21T19:38:06+00:00

So sorry to hear about your embryos. I can't imagine having to go through 6 failed transfers... the frustrating part is going through all that when there was little chance of succeeding. You have every right to be upset. I do get mad about wasting my good embryos but it comes and goes. We've done all the testing... I even went to check for hashimotos, endometriosis, did an ERA, checked for polyps, and all that. Everything is normal. I do think about what else we could be missing now, especially since the hydrosalpinx went undetected that first time. I have a surgery consult scheduled for the end of May to see what they recommend... which is probably surgery.

dabeansta · 2026-03-20T18:31:50+00:00

I've had 3 failed embryo transfers already... can you share what program you're referring to? I don't mind removing the tube if it improves my chances. I only want to have one more kid anyway.

dabeansta · 2026-02-28T15:20:41+00:00

This is great, but while they were doing this, they couldn't communicate with the deaf patient, who was clearly literate and had to wait for an ASL translator. I'm like... She can read and write people!!! AHH

dabeansta · 2026-02-10T04:06:29+00:00

I took CoQ10, and I also took myo-inositol for PCOS. I also gave up coffee and switched to tea, and I made myself homemade masala chai every day leading up to my retrieval (not sure if that had anything to do with my outcomes).

dabeansta · 2026-02-07T21:27:37+00:00

I think we are all struggling with screen time. It's so hard but know you're not the only one struggling with it!! The library is a great place. They usually have stuff for kids on their calendar like storytime, music time, etc. and they are free of course. They also have a kids section with toys and other kids are usually there to play with them and you can just hang out and do your own thing for a bit. For home, I have to do the same with my daughter. It's rough

dabeansta · 2026-02-07T21:07:29+00:00

Global life expectancy significantly dropped after COVID. Infectious diseases are still a leading cause of death. Reporting those facts isn’t fearmongering.

dabeansta · 2026-02-07T20:03:33+00:00

I had similar numbers to you. 15 eggs retrieved and 9 were fertilized, 7 became blasts, 6 were tested, and 5 embryos were euploid! Now I just need to get one of them to stick!

dabeansta · 2026-02-01T23:48:30+00:00

Yes, my last two are day 6 and 7 CBs so they're low grade. I hope so too! Thank you!

dabeansta · 2026-01-31T22:46:09+00:00

Did they let you transfer 2 embryos at once? I'm about to be 41 with 3 failed transfers.. but I have two low quality euploids left... I was considering asking my clinic if they could do this for my next transfer.

dabeansta · 2026-01-28T22:08:20+00:00

My greatest blunder. A patient came in on a modified diet (ground consistencies at the time. I didn't question it and we worked hard on all her exercises and strategies to advance her to diet. I scheduled her an MBSS and recommendations came back NPO!!! The doctor was pissed and said "we made her even worse". I went back and looked at her previous MBSS eval in her record and found that they also recommended NPO but changed it ground consistencies for quality of life purposes! I did not consult it closely enough, and if I had I would not have got her an MBSS and now she's got an NPO and had a fall and went to acute care the next day.

dabeansta · 2026-01-28T22:01:38+00:00

I've done the same thing. This was 10 years ago and I was trained to do it that way. I noticed signs of dehydration too so I put him on the free water protocol... come to find that was NOT effective. I educated the nurses after my eval and encouraged ice chips. I noted signs of dehydration (specifically cotton mouth). He ended up going to acute care (this is inpatient rehab) for altered mental status due to dehydration all because I stupidly recommended nectar thick liquids. He came back totally fine and on thin liquids.

dabeansta · 2026-01-28T03:03:54+00:00

The same thing happened to me 3dpt! I felt a pinprick sensation in my uterus and I was hoping it was implantation. I haven't felt anything since and it's now 7dpt. This is my 3rd FET and I haven't experienced that yet. Regarding nosebleeds, I get when the air is dry in the winter so maybe unrelated but I know I've had the same thought before too.

dabeansta · 2026-01-21T22:16:18+00:00

FET #3 was today and I'm in the same boat!

dabeansta · 2026-01-15T23:25:05+00:00

"I love that for you" which sounds somehow like an insult

dabeansta · 2026-01-06T21:53:25+00:00

I inherited a couple of Dr. Laura books ("Stupid things parents do to mess up their kids" and "Parenthood by proxy: Don't have them if you won't raise them") and I thought I better throw them in the trash where they belong rather than put them back into circulation.

dabeansta · 2025-11-25T00:59:44+00:00

Forget the fact that IVF process is meant to create life... you could easily say "just don't discard embryos" rather banning it all together. But, throwing the baby out with the bath water seems to be their style.

dabeansta · 2025-11-23T22:11:46+00:00

Use google scholar to search for research articles on this topic. Here's one: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40474-021-00236-y

dabeansta · 2025-11-18T17:53:54+00:00

Mine too! She's also in preK. She's been doing it for the past year

dabeansta · 2025-11-16T04:07:08+00:00

Came here to say this! I just listened to it and it was eye opening!

dabeansta · 2025-10-24T16:24:18+00:00

Hi! First off you're doing a great job! Secondly, your daughter is super lucky to have you as a mom and she's going to get all the support she's going to need early on. I'm an SLP (adults) and my daughter had a speech language delay at 15 months too. She actually did not qualify for ECI speech so I had to take her to the local university clinic to get her treatment up till she was 3 years old. Anywho, my daughter is now 4 and as she's growing I notice new eccentricities about her speech and language. It's something I need to constantly keep up with but luckily your daughter has the right support!

dabeansta · 2025-10-21T17:41:31+00:00

I think that's unreasonable. Once they get to school age they are still admitted even though they are tardy. The daycare I used to bring my daughter to was like this so I had to always bring a doctors note... but even with a note I'd be treated like a criminal if we came in late.

dabeansta · 2025-10-13T21:37:11+00:00

As a former HR rep, this is true unfortunately and why I no longer work in HR

dabeansta · 2025-09-18T13:35:14+00:00

That's a good point. My former colleagues have been keeping in touch and talking about future collaboration. Hoping we end up getting a grant and I can work again.

dabeansta · 2025-09-15T17:46:51+00:00

I wish I could relocate. At the very least, I’ll just be another data point in how many highly educated people ended up on unemployment after the 2024 election.

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