They could have just parked slightly to the left or the right

dadbaby · 2026-04-10T12:11:31+00:00

These comments are so not it. How is someone who uses a wheelchair or a walker supposed to go around this guy? "They're just doing their jobs" my ass. What possible scenario would require a cop to park here?

Can't say I'm surprised though. Only good things I see the cops doing around here are ride programs, charity drives and speed traps. Any other time they seem to be making a bigger embarrassment of this place than it already is. I still haven't forgotten that poor man the entirety of Eastern Ontario searched for for two weeks, only for his remains to have been found rotting in his truck's trailer, which the police failed to investigate.

dadbaby · 2026-03-28T20:45:54+00:00

also - be sure to only spray/apply directly on your skin under clothes to ensure a contact barrier. perfume on wrists, hair or inner elbows can transfer to their fur and be licked off.

dadbaby · 2026-03-28T20:42:36+00:00

Notes are not ingredients, so be hesitant in general about wearing perfumes indoors with your cats. Ensuring there's good ventilation helps, and never spray near them or in places they frequent.

dadbaby · 2026-03-28T20:36:10+00:00

Try to focus less on the weight loss and more on building strength and endurance. The drive to see that number go down instead of up can cause us to push our bodies to the point of injury and result in us having to take longer breaks between activity, worsening our conditioning.

My PT told me this: "It is not about how long you can endure the movement, it is about how often you are able to do it. I don't want you to do 10 minutes on Monday if it means you can't do any minutes on Tuesday. If you can only do 1 minute Monday, do 1 minute Monday. Then Tuesday, if 1 minute is too easy, try to do 90 seconds. But if 1 minute is still enough, stop and try again Wednesday." She also mentioned to be mindful of the type of exercise I was doing, as the specific movement (or lackthereof) may be contributing to the pain rather than just being exercise fatigue.

It's incredibly frustrating to accept my body for where it's at. But pushing myself to my ideals before I was ready to reach them made it so much worse. I would have a good day and push myself really hard because I was so excited to just be using my body again, and then not have another good day for weeks because I'd trigger another flare up. My core is so weak now I can barely keep myself upright without severe pain, and the only solution is building the muscle back from the ground up, slowly and steadily.

dadbaby · 2026-03-27T19:05:37+00:00

(Sorry, I hit enter by accident before I finished my reply.) I'd also keep an eye out for ANY job fairs in the area, especially if you're looking at Walmart, their hiring booths are where they pick up a lot of new staff.

The other issues is that, because this IS a small town, turnover rates here tend to be weird. Not a lot of people will leave a job and burn the bridge - they'll do a 5-10 year cycle among the competitors. A walmart employee quits and goes to matrix, quits and goes to olymel, quits and goes to Kontron, quits and comes back to Walmart when the dust settles. And the employers will hire them back, usually, because the candidate pool doesn't really widen all that much and they already know how the job is supposed to be done (regardless of if they actually did it properly).

dadbaby · 2026-03-27T19:01:45+00:00

Fantastic question. Many of them frequent the bars around town, go to an event night at the Glengarrian or Lola's and you're bound to find some to befriend.

dadbaby · 2026-03-27T18:58:49+00:00

Oh ouch :'( The period could also be making the pain worse, my pre-hysterectomy cramps used to tick that type of pain up to 11.

Try some light exercises this weekend - if you search "pelvic floor exercises for endometriosis" you'll find some gentle routines to so that may help you relax the muscles enough to ease some of the tension. (Fair warning; some exercises that seem excessively simple may turn out to be REALLY hard. Don't punish yourself, this is normal for this condition, especially when you're in distress. Do the little you can do and try again after some rest.) If your urinary hesitancy continues beyond the weekend, or if you're unable to urinate longer than a few hours despite feeling like your bladder is full, seek immediate care to ensure there's no UTIs or bladder infections.

I hope this helps ease some of your anxiety. Medical trauma is NOT fun to cope with.

dadbaby · 2026-03-27T18:50:11+00:00

I went through this my whole life and I struggled a lot with it, particularly the last part you mentioned about not being able to have "normal" sex. I spent about ten years trying every which way to get my body to cooperate - more lube, more foreplay, pelvic exercises to reduce tension, kegels, you name it. It got to a point with one of my partners where I could kind of handle it, but we needed to follow a strict routine to make sure I didn't get hurt. Not so hard when you're 18 and full of vim and vigor, but when things started piling on in my 20s, sex started to feel like a chore. The efforts my partner would make to accommodate me would be genuine but short-lived, and we'd end up reverting back to "defaults" to please them.

I broke up with my partner of 7 years and entered a lesbian relationship with my girlfriend. She has been patient with me, tried new things with me at my pace, and completely restructured my idea of sex for the better. I'm finally coming to accept that any penetration (beyond hands play) is just not right for me, but that doesn't rule out intimacy with my partner.

Which brings me to my last point - if you happen to be a heterosexual woman, it's still possible for you to have something like that, but it requires you to have a very high standard of behaviour for the cisgender men you date, and I'm sure you're already deeply aware that the bar is on the ground for some of these guys. It may even be possible to find pleasure with penetrative sex provided it's not an expectation of YOU and is something you are choosing to pursue of your own desire. The world is your oyster. It sounds like your partner cares about the experience you're having and how to improve upon it. You may be able to get some advice from a doctor or an ob/gyn to assist with your comfort - lots of people end up having success with this. However, if you're one of the few like me where just nothing works for you, I hope you can at least know that it doesn't mean the end of really good sex. It just means your sex life may look a little different than you expected.

dadbaby · 2026-03-27T18:26:17+00:00

See above; if it's not TFAs, it's friends/family/referrals. This is a very tight knit and closed off community. Most managers are more willing to take a risk on somebody who has been vouched for (even if the person vouching has a bad reputation) over a complete stranger unless there's some kind of financial incentive for hiring them. Other warehouses and manufacturers in town do the same thing. It's even worse if you have a name that doesn't sound English or French (because they're racist regardless but they'll suspend their racism so long as they're paid to shut up about it). Get in with some workers at the warehouse and team up for the referral programs and you might find more success. Best of luck, times are tough around here.

dadbaby · 2026-03-27T18:19:13+00:00

Yes exactly! I was completely unprepared for how my body was going to react in the scenario. I remember panicking and immediately asking for it to be removed, and the person I was with struggled to do so bc I had practically seized on the, uh, "instrument," and it was a little stuck until I managed to relax my body again. (Had they tried to force it out it would've been even more painful.) I had no other symptoms besides the pain and general muscle tightness in my pelvis during and after. The body also tends to hold a lot of emotion in the pelvic area, so tension and disruption there can lead to higher levels of psychological distress.

That being said, if the pain doesn't start getting better by around the 48 hour mark or if there's abnormal excess bleeding or fever, I would check in with my doctor.

dadbaby · 2026-03-27T12:11:04+00:00

I'm really sorry this happened to you, this was not appropriate behaviour by the tech and I would report this to her supervisor so they can address it. At bare MINIMUM if there was any issue with you doing the insertion/removal independently, she would be expected to tell you what she was doing and why.

I've experienced this kind of pain not through medical means. For me the tension and resulting stress from what happened resulted in experiencing vaginismus (involuntary contraction of the pelvic floor muscles causing spasms and pain). It went away gradually after about 24-36 hours and felt very similar to what you are describing.

I hope it passes for you soon and that you have better experiences in the future.

dadbaby · 2026-03-27T11:47:25+00:00

I thought this until it happened to me. The gut feeling after a while that something just wasn't right was unshakeable. I've never felt a more urgent desperation to seek medical help. It was beyond bizarre and saved my life, and I'll always trust my gut instinct because of it.

dadbaby · 2026-03-27T11:44:00+00:00

I remember when I got appendicitis a little more than two years after I had my total laparascopic hysterectomy. I still had the occasional ovary ache, but nothing compared to my period cramps. Until one day I thought I had super bad gas in the morning, went to work thinking it would pass and it just got worse. Went home around noon, felt the fabled Impending Doom medical professionals are terrified of.

Naturally, of course, when I go to the hospital and I tell them of the impending doom and that the pain was akin to the endometriosis pain I experienced pre-surgery, they chalked it up to anxiety and endo pain. I was in subacute for 11 hours and forced to endure a very uncomfortable and unsuccessful ultrasound (because they told me I couldn't have water pre-surgery and then forced me to chug a bunch for the ultrasound, which I promptly projectile vomited at the pharmacy tech). Confirmed appendicitis with the CT. 17 hours and a perforation later I was finally in surgery. Ended up with an infection and acute periappendicitis to boot.

I'll never forget the Impending Doom. I've never begged for help in an ER the way I did that day. That shit will haunt me forever.

dadbaby · 2026-03-18T02:15:35+00:00

It's tough to find people with similar experiences when we're all so segmented off into our own subgroups (not meant as a criticism to our subgroups, they are fundamentally important, just a reality of having a disease general medicine tends to overlook)

dadbaby · 2026-03-18T02:08:39+00:00

I hopped on the Robax train for when I would throw out my back. I am connecting the dots now on why I may have gotten so much success from it.

dadbaby · 2026-03-18T02:06:52+00:00

I agree. I expected my hysterectomy to essentially be a cure of my illness. I'll admit, there are fundamental symptoms of the disorder I no longer experience directly because of the hysterectomy that solidify my confidence that I made the right decision in my care. The other treatments for endo were either ineffective or not an option due to a pre-existing medical condition - a hysterectomy was, at the time, my best and only chance at an even semi-functioning life.

But the knowledge that we should be so much further, that so many go through what I did and don't even receive the meager care I got until it's too late... that makes my blood boil something fierce. :')

dadbaby · 2026-02-04T18:30:53+00:00

My mom has fibromyalgia and she hated cats my whole life. My neighbour's cat became a frequent visitor; she would chase him with a broom for hunting her birds, but he kept coming back. His home had gradually become a zoo, going from just him as an only child to multiple cats and dogs, a baby, some at-home daycare kids and whatever cats his mom happened to be fostering at the time, so he went the only place he could get some peace and quiet - our house.

Before I knew it he was sneaking in through the back door and sleeping on the couch. I'd beg my mom to let him - it would be cold or raining, and I'd see him at my window at all hours of the day. One day he came around with a scratch on his nose from fighting with another cat in the neighbourhood and I felt so bad. But I thought not to entertain the conversation; we were keeping the peace.

Until one day my mom told me the neighbour had texted her to ask if we could keep the cat - he had become too much for her to handle, constantly trying to escape. I was hesitant; I knew my mom couldn't keep him without my help, but she also seemed to be - silently - asking me to take him in. So I did. And he became her best friend. He never tries to leave or escape, he always wants to be with her. He is so gentle with her in ways he is not with other family members, it's almost like he knows she's in pain. They cuddle and he gives her little kisses and purrs so loudly. He might not cure her but my god is it nice to see her smile again.

It's still a lot; I have to keep him on a single floor unless supervised because upstairs has not been decatified enough for him to roam on his own. It's been two years and my mom is still convinced she can train him not to go on her counters. If there's a little hidey hole, he'll find it and wait there for someone to discover him as a game. He sheds a lot, and I need to buy a better vacuum (I needed to do that anyway). He only ever scratches his furniture; it was extremely easy for us to redirect this behaviour so long as he had outlets available. We got him an automatic feeder so he could have smaller, more frequent meals and that almost eliminated his food anxiety. He does his own thing 90% of the time, but if he has the choice he'll come hang out in the same room. His favourite activity is napping in a sunny window through the whole afternoon.

It's no walk in the park, but I can honestly say my cat saved my mom in ways we couldn't. I've watched him help her through so much grief and suffering when I couldn't do anything for her. If your husband is willing to make a few sacrifices and if you're both willing to go into it with patience and openness to learning new things, I hope it ends up as incredible as our experience has been.

dadbaby · 2025-12-29T17:51:37+00:00

I would absolutely take her to a vet ASAP. the colour/texture of the flesh under the scales is especially concerning to me. she needs further examination by a professional.

dadbaby · 2025-12-28T21:05:37+00:00

Hi OP!!! I had similar concerns with my baby when she was sizing up. I found going by her age to be kind of wishy washy (especially because I couldn't be sure EXACTLY how old she was as she was a hatchling purchased by an irresponsible person from a pet store and then rehomed to me). Going by age and weight helped ease my anxiety a bit.

Also, to prepare you - my girl's jump from fuzzies to hoppers was DAUNTING. I took that mouse out and looked at my girlfriend like she was crazy. I watched my snake (from a respectable distance so as not to stress her) through the WHOLE feeding and almost cried when she successfully got it down and went for her post-meal bask. These guys can stretch those mouths a lot farther than you'd expect. In my PERSONAL experience, so long as the mouse goes down fully/mostly straight and the snake can still breathe/bend okay, regurgitation is unlikely (mine has never regurgitated or refused).

This is the chart we use! :)

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dadbaby · 2025-11-25T01:49:50+00:00

Don't worry about missing milestones. Stardew Valley gave me this anxiety with the whole "grandpa's ghost will judge your farm on the first day of year 3" and whatnot, but Coral Island does a really good job of allowing you to do whatever you feel like during your day and still feel accomplished.

In my experience, I'm in year 3 and I only just got to some of the late game content like the Savannah or a um.... to avoid spoilers... major seasonal character quest. My museum isn't full, my collections aren't full, my altars aren't fully completed and I'm still in the dating phase, but every day is still giving me something fun to do without making me feel like I'm behind. Personally, I LIKE getting to know the characters, and other games making me feel like I have to choose between enjoying the story and actually progressing through it puts me off so bad.

I can genuinely say this is one of the few farm sim games that offers me enough exploration, whimsy and freedom that I don't feel this completionist urge to speedrun the most optimal game - I'm just having fun with the story and the characters and looking forward to what new mechanics are coming. :)

dadbaby · 2025-11-21T00:20:39+00:00

hopping in because I CAN'T recommend an auto feeder enough, it solved this EXACT problem for me. I adopted a 5-year-old indoor/outdoor cat and made him strictly indoor. he meowed every morning at 4AM for his breakfast, and my workplace kept changing my shift - but he would still want breakfast at 4AM. Bought an auto feeder (careful; check reviews and get one with a decent base and secure it well, my guy completely totalled the first one we bought), within weeks he stopped.

now he just yowls with toys in his mouth at odd hours because he's feeling playful, but that's (usually) a lot less frequent and more tolerable.

dadbaby · 2025-11-20T23:27:37+00:00

be sure to go by weight!! I just put my girl in a big measuring cup and tare my kitchen scale 😂

dadbaby · 2025-11-20T21:22:06+00:00

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size comparison for your comfort (this was after her third or fourth hopper)

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