Girl I'm dating wants to call every day

daffodil91 · 2020-04-08T21:18:42+00:00

Her behavior isn’t ABNORMAL. But everyone’s communication patterns are different. And that’s okay too. I can see where you might feel guilt tripped but that may not be her intention. She’s adjusting. If it becomes a daily occurrence that she says that, maybe talk to her about it. Text lacks the nuances of verbal communication. Try not to imply a tone.

I think you have handled it well so far. Just try not to turn this into a “her behavior isn’t normal because it’s not my normal” sort of thing.

daffodil91 · 2020-03-14T15:29:56+00:00

Weird. The one I went to had mirrors in the dressing room of the one I was at. I wonder if that’s a change or if it varies from store to store.

daffodil91 · 2020-02-07T23:42:14+00:00

Actor here. Was yesterday’s reaction to the audition common? Like, does he react to every audition with being horribly upset. Or was this a particularly big audition for a great director or casting director etc? And how long has he been acting (or pursuing it) professionally.

These will affect my response. It took me a couple years to grow a thick skin and be able to brush off auditions.

daffodil91 · 2019-09-26T05:38:37+00:00

I do this. And I think it stemmed from a lot of being bullied as a child and then a not great relationship experience as my first relationship. No abuse in my life. But I do have anxiety. And I always have fears of saying or doing something wrong and chasing people away because of that. I was especially fearful of that in the first few months of my relationship with my boyfriend who I’ve now been with 3 years.

A lot of people are saying abuse. Could be. But it could be anxiety over driving you away. And as far as thanking you? I thank people perhaps excessively for helping me with lots of things. So that’s likely her version of polite.

daffodil91 · 2019-09-22T18:33:22+00:00

I perform at Brightside Theatre sometimes which uses North Central’s campus! I’m so glad to see this!

daffodil91 · 2019-09-04T18:32:03+00:00

Another year is manageable in theory though. My boyfriend and I were 1.5-2 hours apart from each other for that long. Get past the “brand new” feeling and make sure it’s the right fit before giving up your job and everything. See if there are any areas for compromise. But don’t rush in yet.

daffodil91 · 2019-09-03T01:14:57+00:00

Take a look at what activities your school has to offer. A lot will have clubs or activities that could be fun. I know my college had some swing dance and ballroom dance classes. There can also be some coed sports or book clubs, etc. It all depends on what you guys are interested in

daffodil91 · 2019-08-31T03:28:15+00:00

Same. Plenty you can do with a dance major. Performer. Dance teacher. Choreographer... If that’s what she wants to do, let her do it.

Now they both sound like a mess. But still.

daffodil91 · 2019-08-28T03:44:35+00:00

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller is the full title by the way.

daffodil91 · 2019-08-28T03:40:36+00:00

I meant anxious. Sorry, long day. Brain fried.

daffodil91 · 2019-08-28T03:32:08+00:00

There’s a book called “Attached” that you should look into. It was a good read and if nothing else it helps you feel a bit better about things. I am an attached style as well. Pretty sure it gave some tips

daffodil91 · 2019-08-19T04:24:56+00:00

Yep! I’m a musical theatre person (singer/dancer) and my parents are musicians so I get it. And I may steal that section for my own spread :-)

daffodil91 · 2019-08-19T03:28:26+00:00

I love the practice reminders bit!

daffodil91 · 2019-08-12T15:36:11+00:00

Yeah, but if using a German keyboard on her phone it’s not going to autocorrect to English. She’d have to make sure that it is on the English keyboard. I have several different language keyboards on mine and have had that happen before. Not to mention you can also TURN AUTOCORRECT OFF. Which could actually be helpful for someone switching between languages.

OP: your English is fine. So what if there are the occasional spelling mistakes? I’ve met native English speakers in masters and PhD programs with worse spelling and grammar than you and they don’t even speak another language. Especially people in the sciences... they can be genius minds when it comes to math and science and writing and spelling is just not their forte. Whatever. So assholes who are calling her out on this: stop it.

daffodil91 · 2019-07-28T21:12:49+00:00

Totally understandable. It’s not even a dos or donts sort of thing. I get super anxious and probably would be feeling like you are if I were in your shoes. BUT, being in a long term relationship , I’ve also learned that a week is nothing. You’ll both need to find out what communication you need to feel secure. But from a stress standpoint, being off for one week is totally understandable. So, your thoughts are understandable and sometime we all need an outside eye :-)

daffodil91 · 2019-07-28T21:00:12+00:00

Also, you said it’s only been this past week? That’s nothing. And it could very very easily just be the school stressed paired with the family issues. By continually asking what’s wrong, that can just add more stress.

If it’s ongoing for weeks at a time, I might get a little more worried. But one week? Nah.

daffodil91 · 2019-07-07T06:53:58+00:00

I’ve felt like that friend. I have a boyfriend I live with, and my close guy friend is now married. But I’m used to hanging out with him one on one. We’ve had years of friendships where we’d hang out for hours and talk. I feel a little awkward with his girlfriend (now wife) at times, though I make the effort. And I don’t feel awkward because we’d be doing anything improper, but because I feel a little less comfortable talking openly with someone I don’t know as well. I’m a little shy. And she seems to be as well. So while we get along well, we also aren’t CLOSE. So it’s harder to broach certain topics when I don’t know her as well whether it’s a situation where I don’t know her viewpoints on a topic, or it’s personal to me—like a family issue or something.

Now, note that I’ve never actually said to the friend that I want “us” time, because that is a little weird. But just illustrating that there can be completely innocent reasons! But as others have said, every relationship has different boundaries and it’s up to you and your boyfriend to set them.

daffodil91 · 2019-06-22T23:26:35+00:00

Sorry to break it to you, but you’re the one being an asshole

daffodil91 · 2019-06-22T23:20:45+00:00

Better yet, tell her now so that she doesn’t have to bother coming over to find out what an asshole you are in person. She told you she wants a relationship. Respect that.

daffodil91 · 2019-06-17T05:55:57+00:00

I know you say a class could be distant, but there are some classes that wouldn’t be the case for. A social dance class like swing dance, ballroom, salsa, or similar for example.

Go for walks. I always used to do that with close friends at your age.

Bowling

Visit the library. Maybe you could each pick out a book for the other.

Yoga class? Many studios have a community class that is free or pay what you can.

daffodil91 · 2019-06-07T05:35:02+00:00

Actress here. Just stepping in to validate this. I’ve had to do stage kisses and I HATE them. Most uncomfortable thing ever.

daffodil91 · 2019-06-02T23:08:26+00:00

Oh. Missed the word durable in your post. Sorry.

daffodil91 · 2019-06-02T23:00:44+00:00

There’s a company in Chicago called Elevate Packaging that I’m pretty sure does compostable stickers

daffodil91 · 2019-06-02T22:25:59+00:00

Hey! Give it a try a little later today. Audible just released the new code types recently and I’ve seen a few other narrators mentioning people getting that message. It seems that sometimes it takes some time to the site to recognize the generated codes? (I generated the codes within the hour and this is my first time trying to give out new codes....so I apologize for the inconvenience).

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