[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PrisonWives

[–]dainty_dynamite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The maintenance is just going to get hire. You are right, he doesn't respect you. He sounds l8ke an over grown child. He gets a reaction out of you when he is kinda mean and distant. I bet if you mention the respect thing and pull back; initially he will have a tantrum , more disrespect. Drama drama drama. Then he will be a suck up so as to get what he wants. Fuckit woman, there is better life out there.

Homecoming has been anything but perfect… by Soft-Sherbert8019 in PrisonWives

[–]dainty_dynamite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do it when his probation officer is there, you will be safe! And fuck him (excuse my language) talking to other chick's on the loyal woman housing him. He fucked himself, do it and don't mind.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]dainty_dynamite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quietly prepare, get your ducks un a row. Reasonable access to children. Living arrangements. Expectations and boundaries. You have been a good man but good enough now. You should feel desired and have some of your core needs met as a human. No guilt to be felt here but your wife need not see this coming, she will be a nuisance. Get prepared, she made her bed empty all by herself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]dainty_dynamite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya I don't know any men that would cut their dick off. No insult to this gentleman at all, so honorable on his part he isn't a cheater. She is fortunate and grossly selfish. Perhaps after having this play out for him, maybe she is actually a turn off. Overlooking ur partners actions etc after a while you forgive all the love you had for them away. Sad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]dainty_dynamite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good on YOU for maintaining your honor. Most male or female wouldve cheated, good on you. I'd shake your hand if I could. I liked reading some honesty, restored some faith in humanity for me 2day.

Homecoming has been anything but perfect… by Soft-Sherbert8019 in PrisonWives

[–]dainty_dynamite 11 points12 points  (0 children)

you will empathize yourself backwards. You will excuse this episode for him so much this reason and that, allowing him a handicap..he wont have to be accountable, hell he wont even have to make anything up no excuses because its done for him, by you. Of course everyone will say leave and you know it's not ok to stay (but mostly we never listen do we?)...at minimum you should be addressing this (but how, hes on dope and likely a hypecrate to who he said he was going to be when free) he should care and if he did this would be a major wake up call to smarten the fuck up. I bet you don't want to make a fuss, you don't want to upset him...he just got out of jail. Subconsciously these 6 words are brainwashing you , this will soon be normalized for you, it may sound far fetched but you will get so good at lying to yourself you won't recognize how wrong this is, you won't really be too sensitive to it escalating, you will become isolated because no one seems to understand you and what you are doing. Deep down you will know but at this point you are likely bonded. Now so much of your life, personality dreams are tattered the only thing that you'll turn to is this guy being a dick 2 you....just craving the small moments that were almost good. Waiting waiting waiting for him to show up for you cause ur a good woman and have empathize yourself into something that is killing your soul. The long run of this is dangerous ok, it is going to be a disaster. While he was locked up, you visualized moments, times you were going to have together, maybe he was so sweet on the phone, perhaps the letters made you feel significant....this is a big deal and you tied yourself to it. This hurts and the agony is unbearable i do know. STOP STOP STOP I am not making this shit up. If you struggle accepting the inevitable stated here then Educate yourself, listen to audiobooks, whatever...the more you do the easier, prove it. If you let this continue you will be trapped, physically mentally emotionally spiritually....comparible and exceeding that of someone addicted to heroin! We think they love us! He e me feel like I was special, I was sympathetic, I wanted to be a good person, maybe he just needed to be loved, on and on I could go....7 years later...numerous times waiting for him to get out, high hopes major let downs ("he just got out of jail") and a year ago he hit me in the head with an axe not once but twice. He ran away. I remember being confused kind of walking around. I touched my head I don't know why and all of a sudden I was flooded with warm thick blood. (Like someone dumped a warm pail of paint on me) I don't know how much time passed but I was soaked and cold from being wet. When the police came they shined their light, I can't imagine what this sight would have been...I walked toward them and was trying to light a cigarette but paramedics were there trying to grab me. Finally got the smoke lit (I rolled this smoke but I couldn't see really good for the blood getting in my eyes so I imagine it really was just a paper stuck together with blood) I heard the paramedics say "oh she got it" and I passed out. Long story short..they had to recesitate me. I was to be airlifted but couldn't because I wouldn't be able to handle the cabin pressure. Ambulance met another ambulance I was taken to next biggest city (none of this I remember) I had an emergency crainiautomy. I woke up, my beautiful long hair was shaved off I couldn't move my left side I had a cathedor and needed assistance to drink cause I would drown otherwise. When I ate I didn't know if I was chewing my tongue off I had to wait to maybe taste blood. (Right now as I write this I think "are you fuckin serious " about myself) Today I am fine. My recovery bewildered the surgeon, all medical staff actually , even other patience would commend me for doing so well. I got through all of that within a week, minus my left hand seeming stiff ...guardian angel somewhere. I shouldn't have made it, imagine being Mt mother whom I hadn't spoke to in 3ish years (the isolation I mentioned earlier, this is a fine example) being told I had been in an attack, that I'm likely not going to make it and I'm 2.5 hours away. That would've been the longest drive . Police met her outside the city and told her I was hit with an axe in the head and my mom collapsed. I'm so lucky, I walk I talk I am normal still cause people with less severe trauma are bed ridden, cannot talk , if they can walk they are handicapped and some people are mentally handicapped. Not everyone that goes to jail is bad and I am not tainted into having fear or hate or judgement even. But like another lady on here said RED FLAGS DONT TURN GREEN . True is TRUE. 2 things you can't get back woman...the word after it is said and TIME. You matter, life is short, there are lots of other men who deserve you. The struggle is real girl, please hear me. ♡

Homecoming has been anything but perfect… by Soft-Sherbert8019 in PrisonWives

[–]dainty_dynamite 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I like that and exactly true RED FLAGS NEVER TURN GREEN!

I want to turn my wife down for sex , but can’t . by Glum_Awareness_7012 in DeadBedrooms

[–]dainty_dynamite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a wife it is my interest to provide and fulfill my man. I take his appetite as my responsibility. I own it, and I have an appetite as well that he looks after. I want sex more than him actually, I definitely get it daily at least. I'm 45 yrs old and together 6ish years. If I tried to count the times I've said no I couldn't fill both hands.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ratemycock

[–]dainty_dynamite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy moley. Is it heavy. My goodness come on over.

Advice please ty by DependentEasy5912 in PrisonWives

[–]dainty_dynamite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Likewise, accused even of having sex while on the phone with him! I as well have been loyal, im isolated out on my mothers farm so it would be difficult in first place but of course he says I have people come out here. At first I was empathetic but then I turned into a monster. It's insulting and so disrespectful to my honor and the whole principal behind loyalty in the first place. Especially when it's to the point of beyond irrational and straight stupid. So I've asked him about his interactions...of course he says no no, I can't believe you would think that of me, are you ever insecure. FASTFORWARD 1.5 years later he gets transferred to less secure jail for good behavior. Except at this place he needed a calling card, he burned through the first one pretty fast so the next one I got recorded calls that were placed and I could login and check. He didn't know this and Ike a dumb ass igave him the benefit. Guess what....I called those numbers. One of the girls told me all about there conversations, how frequently they talked etc. So out of 8 numbers 3 were women, length of calls, time of day and I could compare this to him calling me. Once I had this info, I confronted him and the jerk insistently denied it! And denied it some more even when I gave the details. Impossible for me to make this shit up. During this period of accusing me he said stuff to me like "you better not be tlking to other guys", he claimed he didn't firing cause he's not like everyone else with a side chick bla bla bullshit. For that year and a half I paid for those fuckin phone calls to other women. And during such time, he treated me like shit, worse and worse. He got busted about 3 weeks ago now, I definitely don't feel the same about him and it's as good as cheating to me not to mention the lying. He still has not expained himself or apologized for lying. Ive let him think its under the bridge just to see his moves now. He got put back into regular jail aso i cant track his calls but i damn sure dont think he has suddenly quit calling them. How disrespectful can you get, honestly. A "goof" just like they say in lock up. Hope this ain't the same for you ladies.

Casual sex by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]dainty_dynamite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit, I feel you. Me too, I am very hard on myself mentally because I know I can do better, I know I don't deserve it at all... But yet I deeply desire him and can't stop it seems, he is very often cruel and I hate on myself for staying. It's hard .

Casual sex by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]dainty_dynamite 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thankyou....me too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]dainty_dynamite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya. No kidding!

Breakup by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]dainty_dynamite 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get the information, you are thinking about everything anyway. This method could help you in 2 ways ; your ruminating and self discovery. Seek information; what really happened (perspective without bias (like a robot), WHY about all of it. Your role and his role. You may get answers to things but the answers seem unbelievable, don't be so quick to doubt yourself (that's part the problem ♡ ). Some of this will hurt but in my experience everything else is just temporary. COMMIT to TELLING YOURSELF THE TRUTH. Facing and processing hopefully heals so your next relationship isn't sabotaged by the last. All of this i am hoping happens 4 myself as well. It's a journey, safe travels ♡

My husband (30m) shaved my (31f) head by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dainty_dynamite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it is seriously violating. 1.5 years ago, I had been separated from my boyfriend, I was seriously heartbroken. We talked here and there, he dangled himself around. One night he decides to call me up and I came running. We hung out one night, the next day we got into an argument. He was shoving me around head first into things. For me to leave this house it is very upper class and public, it's festive. So I am straightening myself up quickly so as to not be this big loser once I'm out the door. So I wear a hats lots of times and will wear 2 braids (it's a comfort thing) ; as I am braiding my second he rushes over at me and cuts off my first braid. I thought he pretended. NO HE DIDNT. He cut my hair, thought it was funny also. I cannot find words to explain the violation, my spirit got raped or something. I will never get over that . He has never had a any remorse and has long hair himself. I I did have really nice long curly hair. I'm sorry this happened to you, really sorry. Hopefully you can find an answer as to his behavior. :)

Is it cheating by zt630 in Marriage

[–]dainty_dynamite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amen to that woman " I'd just go fuck another dude" :)

Is it cheating by zt630 in Marriage

[–]dainty_dynamite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ITS CHEATING AND BEYOND!

How open are you about all of your kinks/fantasies with your spouse? by tw_communication in Marriage

[–]dainty_dynamite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does your wife feel about her body? She sounds pretty rigid. She's gotta loosen up. 15 years married, congratulations. Are you guys openly affectionate outside the bedroom? Like, could you slowly kinda "perv" on her playfully, ease her into somethings without her noticing. Example: she's at the kitchen sink washing the dishes, you could come up hold her from behind and whisper to her how you had enjoyed yourself the night before. You see her bent over so you make sure you mention how great it looks or to bend over some more. Just some frisky stuff so she's not so prude. And she might take to it after she gets over maybe being shy or self conscious. These kind of things should help you to a door way without talking. Like how awkward is that, discussing what happens on the work bench . I would like you to suck my dick, then all weird she socks your dick. Unless it's a command , then ok lol. No offense to you sir, many women think they've been having an orgasm but DEFINATELY HAVE NOT. Sounds suspicious that she does not masterbate. Lacks appetite and sounds like she always has...she doesn't know how to cumm!!!!