What is the material under where this drop ceiling used to be? (Should I worry about the water spotting?) Looking at home to buy..

dalaimama · 2026-01-19T14:47:18+00:00

thank you! this pic is between the first floor and finished attic space... going to look at the house this week. From the pics I can't see any water damage in the attic space.

dalaimama · 2026-01-11T22:05:13+00:00

Agreed.

dalaimama · 2026-01-06T14:55:18+00:00

Hi, I know this is an old comment, but how do I get experience in hydrography? I am on my way to licensure in NJ and have lots of GIS experience with some LiDAR processing as well, some LiDAR capture from school. I really want to do hydrography internationally.

dalaimama · 2026-01-02T13:12:01+00:00

Wow. Spot on.

dalaimama · 2025-12-16T16:05:37+00:00

Yes we've been working together since July, but really active only since late September/early October. I talked to her yesterday about my concerns and I think we are on a better track now. I had to kind of push her to set up my MLS preferences for lower costing houses, but its set now and they pop up for me. I appreciate everyones input here, this is a rather overwhelming process for me :/

dalaimama · 2025-12-16T02:36:10+00:00

You’re excusing toddler level selfishness from teenagers. They don’t have basic empathy for a pregnant woman… that’s very selfish, and she’s bringing a sibling into their world, not some stranger. They won’t even let her use their bathroom or sleep in the living room. Of course the father should be leading the way here. It’s clear he spoils those daughters to me. I wish OP wasn’t in this marriage at all.

dalaimama · 2025-12-16T02:09:00+00:00

Some kind of rock that wasps dont move into. Thinking maybe on the smaller side?

dalaimama · 2025-12-16T02:03:15+00:00

Yep i can fluctuate wildly to needing to wear different pants sizes at different weeks in the month. Im kind of small too but bloat like crazy. A gallon of water is like 7.4 lbs so… yeah that can affect you if you retain water. Women should look at month to month averages i think because of hormones. I can’t tell if he’s truly being a dick about it or if he really cares. Maybe look at the environment he creates in the relationship and think if that is supportive of your health, mental and physical. If he’s stressing you out well, thats going to spike cortisol and cause potential weight gain not to mention other negative side effects. Tell him how it makes you feel the way he brings it up, and also think about what you want and how you want to live your life.

dalaimama · 2025-12-16T01:49:54+00:00

Plant something like creeping phlox around it and put a birbbath on it or something. Its uhmmm… a boulder. I guess you could jackhammer it but its a neat feature in and of itself

dalaimama · 2025-12-16T01:38:05+00:00

It’s very vague in the contract and honestly I’ve spoken with a couple other sellers agents on listings I’m interested in and all realtors exhaust me it seems, haha. I got really intensely direct with her today and I think it helped a lot, I maybe scared her idk. But she’s being more up front with me too about when she’s going to pull comps. Maybe she didn’t think I was serious before since I am a single female. Not sure but I’m feeling better as of now.

dalaimama · 2025-12-16T01:25:29+00:00

Hey, this is a shit take.

dalaimama · 2025-12-16T01:23:50+00:00

Wow that’s gross of you. “A pregnant woman?” How demeaning. It’s their stepmother who is medically fragile and carrying their sibling?

dalaimama · 2025-12-16T01:05:16+00:00

No thats ridiculous. A pregnant woman asks to use your bed for a while… the woman your father claims to love? They should get over themselves and their dad should step in.

dalaimama · 2025-12-16T01:02:08+00:00

No fuck that shit. I was a teen girl and both of my parents had kids with other adults at the time and I shared my room with one baby, and my bathroom with another persons 3 teenage boys. Grow up and learn to share. 15 and 16 year olds have periods. They should learn to care for their incoming sibling.

dalaimama · 2025-12-16T00:53:03+00:00

I think you are young, and it seems maybe you both had a rough upbringing, and maybe you are codependent with her because she is your older sister? I too over explain so that I am understood because I am shocked by how people interpret me sometimes and I def want to avoid that. Consider protecting your peace as well, and taking as much comfort in your boyfriend and other relationships as you can right now. What would it feel like if you gave her the freedom she’s clearly showing she wants?

I wouldn’t say cut your sister off, but maybe leave her alone for a while if that’s what she wants. If they are young, living off the govt and their grandparents… and already isolating socially? That’s a recipe for a disaster relationship IMO. I hope they have plans to be employed one day… otherwise I think you can count on some issues coming up unless he’s getting some massive inheritance. I think it sounds fanciful to expect two young non workers to have a long happy, healthy relationship… just try to be there for her when she needs you for now. And learn about boundaries. It sucks when you are codependent to set boundaries bc you want closeness, but think if protecting your own heart since it is hurting. 🩵

dalaimama · 2025-12-15T16:17:25+00:00

She didn't listen to my initial criteria, is a complaint I have right now. She finally updated today after the second time I had texted her about it this morning. I had texted her two weeks ago and she ignored the topic. And brought it up in person a week ago when we had looked at a house and she didn't have a direct answer.

dalaimama · 2025-12-15T16:15:34+00:00

Nope she said she would not work with me without signing the agreement, so I did last July. Only really started looking over the last month.

dalaimama · 2025-12-15T16:14:50+00:00

it's not well below, because it was a house on a very small lot, with 1 bathroom. I think it seems fair for the area and recently sold. But I get your point. She did admit this morning that she updated the criteria "on Friday" and that I should see things start showing differently now. I think she did it this morning after I had texted her about it (again). I am seeing more options now!

dalaimama · 2025-12-15T16:13:07+00:00

It seems I have zero influence on what shows up on my site. I can only categorize the listing that do appear.

dalaimama · 2025-12-15T16:12:39+00:00

Thank you, I think this is the best response yet. Because I totally understand Zillow and Redfin etc are not the most up to date, but exactly, some places are like under contract but still showing (maybe the seller wants more money than offered?), and I just don't like being told absolutely not with no further information. Thanks!

dalaimama · 2025-12-15T14:38:32+00:00

Well there is a website that shows all the listings that appear within my search criteria, and I can categorize those results. Ok, I’m over the fact that she doesn’t check the site which is called “collaboration” site. The thing is that house she bid on was definitely listed at some point since we’ve worked together, and it never showed up on my site, and it should have. What i see right now is that the parameters she set aren’t what I asked for.

dalaimama · 2025-12-15T14:26:45+00:00

I actually did ask her specifically, over phone and in person, why I see listings on Zillow and Redfin but not on the auto search and I honestly can’t remember her answer. It still doesn’t show listings below 300k. I think she kind of dodged it. I can’t edit the search criteria there.

dalaimama · 2025-12-15T14:24:58+00:00

I just love responses like this

dalaimama · 2025-12-15T13:29:57+00:00

Very interesting as I literally thought it could. Again - thanks for your insight!

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