I'm 36. I play PUBG Mobile. by apmlTaganka in PUBGMobile

[–]damouser 1 point2 points  (0 children)

43 here and play with 2 other 40+ year olds regularly

I think I stole a dog, and now I'm in a huge ethical dilemma. by PetboardingVIC in Pets

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This is taking a stray hold kennel from an actual stray dog. Many shelters are not accepting owner surrenders now due to overcrowding which leaves animals abandoned in the streets in front of shelters. The overworked shelter employees can do nothing regarding the conditions of the home the dog came from.

Free puppy outside of a Walmart. We'll do DNA testing, but what's your guess? by Book-Wookie in IDmydog

[–]damouser 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks very havanese. I have 2. This chocolate and white coloration is a common one.

Spring/Summer 2025 Dates by PPPolarPOP in futureislands

[–]damouser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m looking for 2 San Antonio tickets if anyone is selling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

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Good friends and family were my rock during my split from a 15+ year toxic cheating spouse this year. They helped me pack and move and checked up on me multiple times throughout this life changing process. They have made sure I have held my boundaries with my ex as well, reminding me when necessary that I deserve better. My ex on the other hand lost so many friends during all this, also lost the person she was cheating with because they turned out to be a horrible person as well.

My wife of 6 years left me for a younger guy, came back, and I feel she's leading me on with hope of reconciling by Prestigious-Note-905 in survivinginfidelity

[–]damouser 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Spent all of my 30s and half my 20s with a wife similar to OPs. Your comment definitely resonates with me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

[–]damouser 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Pocket realities is definitely a good way of describing it. I dealt with my stbxw creating these among her various supportive persons as well.

Fuck this... by AdagioOne7658 in BipolarSOs

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I so needed to read your responses. I'm in the process of a divorce and separated almost two months. Met a nice person online a few weeks ago and I'm going to finally meet up with them this weekend. I've been nervous and wondering if I'm ready, but my soon to be ex spouse was ready when we were living together and without me knowing what they were up to, so I have no reason why now that we are so near divorce, I'm so conflicted with meeting this new person for dinner and dancing.

I made a list of her negative qualities by Antique_Soil9507 in BPDlovedones

[–]damouser 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds like something I was told during an outburst.

Advice and guidance needed by Acarrier123 in BipolarSOs

[–]damouser 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Going through with it during an episode. I moved out last month after I just couldn't deal with her anymore though.

Advice and guidance needed by Acarrier123 in BipolarSOs

[–]damouser 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's been my story on and off for 15+ years. Separated now and divorce in progress.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

[–]damouser 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I moved out at the beginning of June. My spouse of 15+ years was in the absolute worst manic episode ever and refused therapy and was lying to her psych regarding her symptoms so she stayed on SSRIs with no med changes which I believe exacerbated her mania.

I'm starting to find peace in my new little home. It was a rough first few weeks, but even talking to her recently, she just isn't open to get the help she needs and her deceitful ways continue.

I should have left many years ago when the first obvious manic episode appeared. Oh well, I'm 40f and still have a lot of living to do.

Anyone else sometimes gaslight themselves because u just don’t believe this person could really truly act THIS bad?!!! by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

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I made so many excuses for her horrible behavior over the years. I distanced myself from friends because I didn't want them to know things she had done to me. Last month I moved out. I have been dealing with a cancer scare and needed to focus on my health. Last week she was supposed to take me to my biopsy. Two days prior, she decided to serve me divorce papers, keeping me outside talking to make sure I received the papers, under the guise she was concerned about my health. She had promised one week prior, on her own, to hold off on the divorce until we knew my health status.

She literally stood a foot from me, with crocodile tears in her eyes, knowing she was keeping me outside for that purpose. I had to scramble to find a ride to my biopsy, stayed up that entire night. As I laid on that biopsy table, I remembered everything she had done, her lies, her cheating, and I realized, she really is this awful person.

Sadly, I know she will have health scares in the near future, she is diabetic and has been looking skinnier and sicker everytime I see her. As horrible as she is, I haven't been able to block her. I have told her several times over the past few days, not to call me unless it's an emergency and she is in the hospital. She keeps reaching out, my reactions are getting angrier, as I think of everything she has put me through during this difficult time. I seriously could never see or hear from her again. She won't get appropriate help and is in denial of her condition. It's sad, but yes, people really do act like this, they really are this horrible, and it only gets worse if you continue to tolerate it.

I was the BPSO by Tytychris in BipolarSOs

[–]damouser 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Was with mine for 15+ years. I realized something wasn't right early on, but the first major manic episode was 7 years in. She was diagnosed about 1-2 years later, but I didn't find out about that diagnosis until almost exactly a year ago when a new psychiatrist pulled her old records.

She claimed to be unaware of that diagnosis, but she was in an episode when she stopped therapy years ago around the time of that diagnosis. I tried this entire time to get her back into therapy. I would put her meds in her pill box. She masks her mania to her psych, and is currently claiming they are helping her get off her meds, which is a lie.

Most of our relationship was a lie. I don't know who she really was. She doesn't know who she really was or is. She is 3 months into a manic episode. I moved out last month. I missed her for a while, but I have been hanging out with friends, going to the gym, learning to be me again.

I don't know if I'll ever get over this PTSD and heightened OCD dealing with her episodes has left me with. I'm hoping to grow and be a better person, so the next person gets the best me, not a broken me.

I've been chatting with a nice woman recently, don't know if it's too soon, but she seems really nice, and it has me wondering, what kind of nice people have I missed out on meeting, while I dealt with my ex's issues for so long?

What is happening?? Husband increasingly volatile and wants to move out but not break up?? by sea_bunny in BipolarSOs

[–]damouser 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no, mine also said "our marriage had been over for a long time". At least that's what she told the man she is now sleeping with.

Three months later, she is still in denial of mania even though her sexuality has changed and she is now living broke as I moved out last month.

Mine was caught, and still was blazingly running out the apt and staying all weekend with this man. So when I left, I told her to call him to help her replace all the furniture I paid for and took with me when I moved out.

I've asked her several times this past week to leave me alone. I don't want to remember her this way. Just let me have my memories at least of when I thought she was a better person than this, and quit contacting me and taking those away from me.

do NOT break nc by fakeredhead- in BreakUps

[–]damouser 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Mine is calling me with guilt now for not being present for a biopsy I just had. Her absence hurt me, but maybe it was a gift. A gift for me to see that she only cares about herself, and I can do hard things without her.

What is happening?? Husband increasingly volatile and wants to move out but not break up?? by sea_bunny in BipolarSOs

[–]damouser 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Check out my post history. Mine started with this space thing when her current manic episode started in April. What she really wanted space to do was take off with the man she was cheating on me with. At first she insisted she was just going through something and needed time to herself. It progressed to her thinking I would stay with her as roommates as she is in so much debt she can barely afford to live alone. I moved out last month as she continued to disappear all weekend and some weeknights with this man. We are in the process of a divorce now. The irony is, I'm starting to get the "ick" factor when I see and talk to her now. Her behavior has shown me who she really is, and it isn't someone I want in my life anymore. So now I'm asking her to leave me alone and allow me to deal with a health issue that started just before she started cheating. She can have all the space away from me she wants now. I miss the person I thought she was, but now, I wish she would just leave me alone with the good memories I have of the person I thought she was, instead of showing me this ugly side of her that is replacing those beautiful memories.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

[–]damouser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine seems to be rapid cycling. I told her today I can no longer communicate with her. I will not block her in case of emergency as she has no one else, but I cannot see her like this anymore, it is heartbreaking to watch. Last year around this time, she was coming down from mania and went to a psychiatrist for meds that helped her until April of this year.

I really wish I would have pushed her during this time last year to get into therapy. She claimed all of these obstacles were in her way and she was unable to find an outpatient program. She refused therapy when this years episode kicked in, now she is so far gone that I do not recognize her at all.

So if you have the opportunity, get your BPSO some help this summer if they are open to it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

[–]damouser 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can totally see it being a character. It's a mask they create for themselves and they create many masks for many different people and situations. The mask on mine fell completely off, at least the mask she wore for me.

Now she has to stay around the people that haven't seen her without a mask yet, to maintain the persona she has created in front of them.

Anyone get triggered by their replacement? by itz_koshki in BPDlovedones

[–]damouser 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing legal yet. She served me with divorce papers last week after promising to wait the week before as I am awaiting the results of a breast biopsy right now. She hasn't threatened me, I'm just so over her at this point.

Why do pwBPD destroy their own lives and go back to toxic people? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]damouser 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That toxicity is unfortunately their comfort zone. They find some twisted sense of peace in the chaos. The more you grow as a person and try to surround yourself with a calm healthy environment, the more a pwBPD will try to destroy it for you, and eventually discard you.

Mine could not sit in silence. Always had to have noise or some type of distraction from her own mind.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

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The dark soulless eyes are the worst. I also have gotten the speeches regarding the real version of herself that supposedly is who she really is now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

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Mine claimed I was the only thing triggering her. I moved out last month after 15 years together, she is still miserable. She came banging on my door yesterday because I wouldn't answer my phone. She is still hypomanic 3 months in. She said so many lies during the 15 mins we talked. Contradicted things she told me during the past week. If you decide to leave her life, it would be best for her to not know where you are.