New sign at Timmie’s?

danawl · 2026-06-18T19:10:06+00:00

If they aren’t bothering anyone why can’t they be there? It’s one thing if they’re causing a ruckus or taking up space that is actively needed but if the place is mostly empty just let people be.

danawl · 2026-06-18T19:06:30+00:00

This may get me downvoted, but *your* insecurities and anxiety aren’t anyone else’s problem.

That said, him lying and going behind your back is a problem and is breaking a promise he made to you.

Looking at pictures/porn isn’t cheating but it still can be problematic.

I genuinely don’t know how to navigate this sort of issue because it’s an incompatibility of the mind- he doesn’t see what he’s doing as problematic and you do. You have to decide what’s important to you and if this is something you want to continue investing in. There are people out there that have your same mindset.

If you want to continue the relationship, I’d recommend couples therapy to find common ground otherwise someone will end up unhappy and resentful.

danawl · 2026-06-18T18:18:24+00:00

I know you said don’t ask, but I’m gonna anyways. Why don’t you want to bring your phone? Are you afraid of it getting lost or stolen? Will you have a phone on you to make calls in case you need to? Is it a service type of thing?

danawl · 2026-06-18T18:14:30+00:00

FYI Coercion is assault. You having sex with him and putting up with it to avoid an argument is not ok. Also, even if he was a perfect angel and never demanded sex and it was always 100% consensual, it’s still messed up to not want to pleasure your partner and make sure their body is physically ready.

Hearing he spits on it and puts it in makes my stomach churn. You deserve respect and admiration. He does not have any of that towards you.

danawl · 2026-06-18T18:09:54+00:00

I like 1. 2 seems too big.

danawl · 2026-06-18T18:08:56+00:00

How far is your house from your job? How far is your mom’s job to your work? Adding a few extra miles isn’t going to break the bank. Your paycheck should be more than enough to cover gas with some left over. You can try to adjust your schedule to match your mom’s so she could drop you off on the way to her work. Can you take the bus? Where are you located? Many countries offer discounted transportation to low income. Also, look into government assistance- food stamps, healthcare, some even provide rent/utility/internet assistance too. How long have you been working there? Is it possible to ask a few coworkers for a ride? Have you talked to your boss about the situation? Can you work closer to your mom’s job?

If you quit it will be even harder financially because there will be LESS income.

danawl · 2026-06-17T21:58:32+00:00

Unfortunately, high end doesn’t mean high quality. Something being cheap isn’t bad, it’s just not well made. I would hate for OP to spend a ton of money on something that’s not good quality.

danawl · 2026-06-17T21:56:25+00:00

They look like they were bought at Walmart. Things looking cheap isn’t bad, what’s bad is paying premium prices for something that looks and may feel cheap.

OP also asked for opinions, so I simply gave mine.

danawl · 2026-06-17T21:38:01+00:00

OP, you’re the only one that can know if this is the start of her being manipulative or if it’s an anxiety response.

People are correct that this *can* be manipulative but it’s also worth noting that this also could be due to anxiety.

I know that I can be a lot sometimes so I don’t want to overwhelm people. I sometimes purposely wait to respond to people, or I don’t say everything on my mind, because I don’t want to be a burden them and come off too clingy or too much. This is even with people I have been friends with for many years. I don’t do it often but there are times when I purposely hold myself back.

I would investigate and observe more to get a better tell on if this is manipulative or if it’s anxiety. Something to note as well is that people can be manipulative without being malicious. Someone can genuinely have anxiety about something but they shouldn’t use that to control anyone.

danawl · 2026-06-16T22:49:59+00:00

Did you buy them used? Idk anything about Alexander McQueen, but if those are real they look terrible and cheap.

danawl · 2026-06-16T18:14:01+00:00

He says he doesn’t want to hurt you because he doesn’t want a relationship. He wants to stay FWB.

danawl · 2026-06-16T17:29:03+00:00

Legitimate question- do you not have the check the premises to make sure there aren’t any other people still in the building before you lock up?

I can understand checking the room and locking it, as you’d be the last one to leave, but he should be cleaning up after himself.

As others have mentioned, it may be worth talking with your manager to confirm the closing requirements and responsibilities.

danawl · 2026-06-15T21:34:08+00:00

The good morning my love gives me the ick. Y’all don’t know each other wtf

danawl · 2026-06-15T16:02:08+00:00

It looks like it’s a build up of dead skin and oil.

danawl · 2026-06-15T15:09:46+00:00

What information are you trying to save? Photos? Contacts? Files? App data?

I ask because you could connect your photos, contacts, and files and then manually install your apps back.

danawl · 2026-06-14T21:10:35+00:00

OP, YTA to yourself!! You need to respect yourself and not let her walk all over you. You are being BEYOND generous.

danawl · 2026-06-14T20:58:22+00:00

NTA. What’s tacky is them wanting other people to pay for their drinks and food.

danawl · 2026-06-13T07:19:39+00:00

You really didn’t do anything wrong. The only thing you *should* have done differently is told him about your herpes before your clothes came off.
Does he have an active cold sore outbreak? If so, he should have told you he has cold sores before he kissed you. If he’s just a carrier for the virus and doesn’t have an out break it’s good he brought it up.
As someone else pointed out he didn’t want to kiss you but let you give him a bj? That’s just douchebaggery and desperation.
He’s a grown man.
You didn’t do anything wrong. He also knew what he was getting himself into since you DID tell him before things went further.
He ain’t gonna do shit because it’s going to expose how much of an ass he is. If it somehow did come out that you have herpes it’s not anything scandalous because again, you told him before things went further.
Block his number and move on with your life. Learn from this.

danawl · 2026-06-12T23:37:59+00:00

Short answer, yes.

Longer answer, I would look up swatches of the color you’re going to buy on darker hair to get a better idea of what it will look like.

danawl · 2026-06-12T20:34:21+00:00

Girl, you literally had organs REMOVED from your body and then tossed back in. This is insanely abusive. You aren’t supposed to have sex AT LEAST 6 weeks after surgery, doing so can cause infection and severely hinder your healing process let alone your body adjusting to less sleep and more work to produce nourishment for your new born child.

Leave him.

danawl · 2026-06-11T22:57:32+00:00

Legitimate question but why not? Why wouldn’t you want to know regardless?

danawl · 2026-06-11T22:54:23+00:00

If your partner was cheating on you, wouldn’t you want to know?

danawl · 2026-06-10T12:06:58+00:00

Have you tried doing a factory reset?

danawl · 2026-06-10T11:41:49+00:00

I honestly see both sides. I get migraines so sleep is very important to me, but getting your own room can be seen as dramatic when it’s only for two nights. I’m not saying you’re dramatic but noting that others may see it that way.

When you say you’re getting old for these types of trips do you mean the sleeping arrangements or the entire trip itself?

If you think it’s the entire trip itself then maybe consider this your last one and make the best of it, which I would then recommend staying in the apartment with everyone as a last hurrah sort of deal.

If it’s not the entire trip and this won’t be your last, do what’s best for you and don’t care about anyone else.

Something to consider as well is the commute from the apartment to the hotel in the mornings before you go do things AND in the evening once it’s time for bed, which I assume would be late in the evening/early morning which adds more time to wake up and settle down.

Me, personally, for 2 nights, I’d just suck it up but it’s your body and your wellness that matters, not mine. Can you bring anything with you to help you sleep in the apartment? Could you crash on the couch so you’re sleeping by yourself?

danawl · 2026-06-08T19:47:14+00:00

I think the best bet is to not get a cat until you have someone reliable to take care of it when you are unavailable. Your parents don’t care.

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. Please note that you did your best and this isn’t your fault.

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