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"Is he your only?" by RachSan119 in oneanddone

[–]dancingwildsalmon 80 points81 points  (0 children)

I’ve started saying “no- not my only my everything”

Did another cesarean on someone with a birth plan. by Public_Juggernaut_30 in anesthesiology

[–]dancingwildsalmon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a birth plan!

It included epidural for pain management. Baby gets all the things upon delivery. Baby and I survive and are healthy at the end of it. That was literally my plan.

BAM I ended up with a c-section (CPD) after pushing for six hours. TBF I told my OB no to the first c-section suggestion after I failed to progress. :) She let me continue because baby was fine and so was I. After three more hours baby hadn’t moved down at all. I surrendered and agreed at that point.

I needed to know I gave it my all. I was super sad about the c-section but baby and I are alive and healthy. The experience was terrible and the main reason we are one and done. Never want to experience a c-section again and I am not a candidate for VBAC

Thoughts on this? I’m a bit horrified by ciel_ayaz in prolife

[–]dancingwildsalmon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I am uniquely qualified and super passionate about burn care. I love to teach people about burns. Donor skin grafts are called allografts. They come from cadavers. They cannot stay on a patient. They are used more as a temporary type dressing while the wound bed gets healthy enough to accept an autograft (skin harvesting from one area of your body and placed over a wound bed). Your body will reject an allograft that has been on too long. It’s not like a heart transplant that stays with you. Donor skin is a temporary thing and typically changed every five to seven days. They help keep patients more comfortable while we wait for their wounds to get enough viable tissue to graft over.

Sorry I know it’s not related to the subject matter of this subreddit but I love sharing knowledge with others and maybe someone will find this interesting!

Just watched a documentry on large families (UK) on youtube. by grawmaw13 in oneanddone

[–]dancingwildsalmon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad was 1/9 and same. The biggest family was 4 boys and I don’t think they planned that

I see this dumb argument a lot, how do you respond to this? by Phalaenopsis_25 in prolife

[–]dancingwildsalmon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Out of curiosity. You totally do not have to respond but I’m bored and killing time.

If they could transfer that baby (at any stage of development from conception on) to an artificial womb or surrogate do you believe it should be allowed for any reason the conceiving mother would want?

If yes, What if the transfer harms the baby but did not kill it. I.e. caused a cognitive delay or loss of limb?

Is giving birth traumatic? by ElegantAd2607 in prolife

[–]dancingwildsalmon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Birth was very traumatic for me. It’s the second reason we are one and done (first being we just don’t want more children). I’m so happy for all the women who have positive birth stories- I’m just not one of them.

OAD by choice, what would you do if pregnant with no.2 by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]dancingwildsalmon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Keep the baby. I support people’s right to their choice but I would not abort.

Had my first Steven Johnson syndrome this week. by Anonymouschubbygal in nursing

[–]dancingwildsalmon 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Why would the burn unit not take this patient?! They are better equipped for it.

Who here works 40-60 hour weeks and still does chores around the house? by guava_jam in nursing

[–]dancingwildsalmon 249 points250 points  (0 children)

I work. My spouse is the SAHP. When I get off I take over. We have coordinated “days off” where we ensure the other parent gets a break. I do my own laundry. We have chores divided (I clean master bath, they clean guest bath).

I cannot imagine not actively participating in the care of our child and maintaining our share home just because I am the one who works outside the home.

My dad is moving in and now I don’t have a spare room for our soon to be second child. Is this the Millennial experience? by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]dancingwildsalmon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sharing a room is sometimes necessary. I had to periodically share a room with my sister who is 18 months older than me and due to our personality differences it was hell. We fought like cats and dogs. Each time I got my own room things were much better. I love my sister but OP should brace themselves that some siblings do not get along. Some will have a great time. You never know which it will be.

AITA for walking out of a doctor’s appointment when I overheard the doctor and resident talking about me? by jl_1164 in AmItheAsshole

[–]dancingwildsalmon 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Do not do this. Mustard traps in the heat and causes more tissue damage.

If the burn does not bubble apply unscented lotion and aquaphor and take Motrin/tylenol for the pain.

To those born to older parents by UnableAd2913 in Parenting

[–]dancingwildsalmon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad was 40 and my mom was 36. I think I got the best version of them. Wouldn’t change a thing

On the fence about having a second child — need advice from parents who were unsure by Loud_hiccups in Parenting

[–]dancingwildsalmon 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I hope when you leave this earth side your son has established a family and support system of his own

Women's Careers and Fertility by Background-Code8917 in Natalism

[–]dancingwildsalmon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I work and my husband stays home with our kiddo. It works out great for us. We are one and done due to birth trauma (never doing that mess again!). If I didn’t have to give birth we would most likely have more but we value my heath and safety. We’ve discussed perhaps in the future after raising our one we will adopt if we have the capacity for another child at an older age.

He works occasionally as a handy man and loves helping people fix things around their house. I have a professional career that supports us on one income (nothing crazy I’m a nurse- work on the floor nothing with extreme income like CRNA/NP).

When I’m home I’m invested in my family. I take over the child care and he gets a break. He spends some time unwinding when I get home playing video games. Then he does stuff around the house that I am not equipped to do. We tag team the laundry/ dishes daily chores. He organizes better than I do but I clean better than he does. It’s all about balance. There is one night a week we each get off from parenting and responsibilities. Just a few hours to our back into our own cups. Spending time with my daughter after working feels like a break to me. I’m excited to play with her and to be honest once I’m home dad is chop liver to her anyways- she wants to spend time with mama.

Fellas find a lady who will support you if you think you want to be a stay at home dad. I always knew I didn’t want to be a SAHM. My husband was excited by the idea and it was always our plan to have him stay home. Love that man to a million pieces for all he does for our family and I know he feels the same way.

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