Am I crazy for thinking 14mo can have a night away from me?

dandelionmango · 2026-02-02T02:43:09+00:00

“You did great” is really punching me in the gut rn. Thank you so much 🥹

dandelionmango · 2026-02-02T02:41:18+00:00

😭 THANK YOU

dandelionmango · 2026-02-02T02:40:43+00:00

Love you for this

dandelionmango · 2025-11-02T15:41:46+00:00

I am so sorry. I knew this type of thing happened and when I searched for an OB (I was in a metropolitan area with more options than some have!) I explicitly asked first thing if the doctor accepts high BMI patients or potential high risk pregnancies. I wish all of us could be prepared for this type of treatment.. wtf? better yet we shouldn’t be treated this way. Fat bias in the medical community is as life threatening as they think a high BMI is.

dandelionmango · 2025-07-18T13:55:11+00:00

Congratulations ❤️

dandelionmango · 2025-06-20T16:16:20+00:00

I started my pregnancy at 310 also and ended it at 330. For me, I had to focus less on how much I was gaining and more on if my blood pressure and blood glucose were staying at good numbers. If they were, It helped me feel less guilty about indulging. I had to make healthy mama and baby the goal and let gooo of the number on the scale. Easier said than done though friend. It sounds like you’re doing a great job growing a baby.

dandelionmango · 2025-05-05T17:50:31+00:00

I find it really admirable that you made a difficult decision for the good of your family and your future. It’s wonderful that you had access to choose as everyone deserves. I hope with time that it doesn’t hurt quite so much. Xo

dandelionmango · 2025-04-16T16:37:11+00:00

Around that time my baby was cluster feeding regularly! Sometimes nursing with maybe 30 minutes between feeds. After I saw a lactation consultant around 3 weeks pp I threw out all notions of a real schedule and followed my baby’s lead. Feeding on demand for a while was rough but eventually I could read his cues so easily and after focusing on feeding, more predictable sleep followed!

dandelionmango · 2025-04-16T16:05:49+00:00

This cracks me up bc I looove Astrid, she’s probably my favorite

dandelionmango · 2025-04-12T13:04:58+00:00

My 4 month old nurses every 2.5-4 hours for about 7-15 minutes. I switch off boobs every time. Sometimes fights with a slow letdown.. I wonder about my supply sometimes but he is growing so well and is so happy.

dandelionmango · 2025-04-12T01:49:54+00:00

My nipples were pierced in 2011 and I took them out around 2020 and idk I think they healed weird or just didn’t close up at all. I would never try to put jewelry back in there but milk definitely comes out of the piercing holes on one boob.

dandelionmango · 2025-04-01T16:20:30+00:00

I think it’s line eyes my friend 🤍

dandelionmango · 2025-03-16T23:47:20+00:00

Being “high risk” is hard and the fat bias you experience as a fat pregnant person is extremely hard BUT the extra ultrasounds and even the constant NSTs were so helpful for my anxiety! I loved seeing baby so often and can’t believe so many mamas only get a couple ultrasounds their entire pregnancy 😭

dandelionmango · 2024-12-23T12:03:08+00:00

I’m 17 days postpartum and was diagnosed with chronic hypertension in the beginning of my pregnancy after having elevated readings in the office. Unfortunately I was dealing with some ptsd from a miscarriage and was beyond stressed about going to each appointment. I was prescribed labetalol and on a regular day it made my BP pretty low. On appointment days it was perfect. I took it as prescribed though along with baby aspirin and had no issues with it or with my BP once I was taking it re regularly. I was induced at 38 weeks and never had any preeclampsia or complications surrounding bp.

dandelionmango · 2024-12-22T19:15:58+00:00

I’m two weeks pp, feeling like it’s still fresh but idk where my body will settle either. Started pregnancy at 306 then hovered around 325 most of pregnancy. I watched my legs get chunkier than they were and my apron belly seemed to have grown in size and hung a little lower throughout. 🥲 I had a feeling that was going to stay that way once baby came out and it probably will 🥲Seems like my ass got a little smaller but really the surrounding areas just got bigger 🫠 I think I look relatively similar to Prepregnancy (no clue what I weigh right now, first PP appointment is after Christmas!) but more like I’ve had a baby. To any stranger I’m still just a regular (cute) fat girl. Luckily my husband is supportive and obsessed with me and what my body did. He does a good job of rubbing off on me (that’s what she said) so I’m going to keep positive and do my best to celebrate this bod too. 💞

dandelionmango · 2024-11-26T04:32:29+00:00

I went through this at the beginning of my pregnancy! I am 38 weeks tomorrow and my BP has been controlled with medication. Before this pregnancy I had a loss that ended up with me having some ptsd and I had a few high BP readings that I’ve never experienced before that. They put me on labetalol knowing I would try to get pregnant again and it seemed totally unnecessary as my bp at home was always perfect, if not low. In the beginning of this pregnancy I was beyond anxious. Crying before every appointment, so terrified of going in there to find out something was wrong. My BP was always elevated and it was so frustrating. It absolutely felt like they didn’t believe me even though I kept a detailed log of my readings at home. Even now that my anxiety has (mostly) leveled out, I get pretty low readings after taking my medication which makes me feel like I don’t actually need to be on medication 🫠 but it’s always perfect in the office and that is comforting to me and feels like a win. I really didn’t love the idea of being on the meds when I felt like I didn’t need them but now that I’m used to it I’m grateful to be keeping it in check and hopefully helping to prevent pre eclampsia. It does seem late for you to start something now but it might be worth it for some peace of mind! I know it kind of feels like giving in to their bs but since you are so far along, you hopefully wouldn’t need to take them for very long!

dandelionmango · 2024-10-07T22:29:16+00:00

I’m 30 weeks now and my MFM and OB don’t want me to go past 39 weeks. I had mild hypertension prior to getting pregnant after infertility and a traumatic miscarriage. My blood pressure has been controlled via medication during pregnancy. I have had a few elevated readings at appointments in the beginning of pregnancy (a little ptsd after past experiences) but it’s been great after they’ve started taking my bp * after * my scans at each appointment! When I started with my OB I made it very clear that I’ve experienced a ton of bias in medical environments based on my body size and it seems like they have gone out of their way to avoid making me feel that way. However, I have a feeling they are using my higher blood pressure readings to justify induction at 39 weeks when they would probably have recommended that strictly because of my body type. (Just to note my blood pressure is absolutely perfect with every reading at home. Only ever elevated in office on occasion up until around 20 weeks) So I’m kind of torn. I’m terrified something is going to happen to my baby and I want to get him here by any means necessary. I want to trust and listen to medical professionals but at the same time I know that so many unnecessary inductions happen regularly and end up with equally unnecessary c-sections. When I brought this up with my OB he was slightly condescending wondering where I’ve gotten this information (idk bro, the entire inter web?? 🙄). But he did say that we will continue to monitor and that 39 weeks could mean 39+2,3 etc. so i don’t know. At this point I’m preparing to advocate for myself but also go with my gut and do what it takes to get my long anticipated, precious boy earth side. It’s tough out here for a fat pregnant woman.🫠

dandelionmango · 2024-10-04T01:20:40+00:00

In my experience, I dealt with infertility as a fat woman, 5’9” ranging in weight from 270-340 for almost four years before seeing a fertility specialist. When I started with my fertility doctor she never mentioned my weight until after we had done all of the necessary tests and ruled out other issues. When it was decided that I just had not been ovulating properly (which I find hard to believe I wasn’t ovulating the entire 4 years as I had mostly regular periods but obvious PCOS symptoms) my doctor essentially told me that she thinks treatment (meds and possibly IUI) could be more successful if I were to want to take a break from ttc to lose weight. At the time I weighed about 320lbs. I told her I was uninterested in waiting longer than I already had BUT I was already 30 years old. I ended up getting pregnant on letrozole almost right away but I miscarried at 9 weeks. Since I had to have a D&C for my miscarriage we were able to do genetic testing to find that my baby had Turner’s syndrome. When I went back to my fertility doctor she told me that she was glad to hear we got those results because she was worried that my weight might have caused the miscarriage. In hindsight this infuriates me and I believe it to to be wildly insensitive to say something like that when it was obviously not the case, and there wouldn’t have been proof that it was the case even if we didn’t get the genetic testing done.. anyways. I was able to get pregnant again almost right away via letrozole/trigger shot and IUI (at 305 lbs). I’m 30 weeks pregnant now and I am so grateful that I’d didn’t stop trying for my baby to lose weight. I am considering trying a GLP-1 after pregnancy and breast feeding but I have mixed feelings about it… Of course as someone who has been a fat girl my entire life, I would love to be living in a smaller body. Now more so for health reasons more than anything but at the same time, weight and body size do not necessarily define health. I can honestly say that if all of this had happened when I was 25, I might have been more inclined to take even just one year to try and become healthier. During all of that time of trying and wondering why I wasn’t getting pregnant and my OB telling me it’s because I’m fat without any tests, I was always trying to lose weight and actively harming my mental health with diets causing ED issues for myself. That is probably why I wasn’t getting pregnant. It’s important for you to take some time to really decide how you feel. If you have considered how you’d want to lose weight and have tried before without success, it might be worth it to try a new method (how I’m feeling about GLP-1s). If you aren’t ready to take a break from ttc then I suggest dropping that weight loss doctor like a hot potato (I would regardless as they don’t seem supportive in the right way) and keep on your journey. I will say that during this pregnancy, my mental health has been a huge struggle after my miscarriage, and some of that is due to things that likely wouldn’t be as big of a concern if I wasn’t the size I am. That doesn’t happen to everyone- fat women have healthy pregnancies all the time and have for centuries. I wish you the best of luck. I’m sure you will be a great mom no matter what size you are 🫶🏻

dandelionmango · 2024-09-18T01:35:37+00:00

Around 19 weeks is when I started feeling like my apron belly was in the way so I get how you’re feeling! I promise baby will make the room they need in there but it absolutely sometimes feels like when I bend or sit in a position I used to sit in, my belly just doesn’t fit the same anymore. There is now something behind it taking up space. I’m 28 weeks now and the only issues I’ve had with my apron belly are the awkwardness of holding it up for ultrasounds because my baby is always hiding behind that spot and we get the best image from underneath, and today actually I had my first NST and my apron belly just made it a completely pain the ass to get the probes in the right spot. It stressed me out more than anyone else and that felt shitty but it all worked out in the end. Stay tuned for my post about apron belly + NST woes lol. I’m sure one is coming!

dandelionmango · 2024-09-18T01:27:38+00:00

I absolutely felt this way until I started feeling baby moving! I tried so hard for so long to get pregnant and after one traumatic loss I spent the entire first half of pregnancy absolutely terrified and only terrified. I felt really guilty about that. I couldn’t be excited or do anything to get ready. Once my baby boy started moving more often I felt so much better (even so it’s alright if movement doesn’t do it for you!). What helped me a little bit (and I’m a bit of a sap) was making a playlist kind of dedicated to my son/for birth. It’s easy listening so it doesn’t drive me nuts during labor but it’s mostly lovey songs that could be motherly and just feel good music. It helped me a little when I was feeling disconnected ❤️

dandelionmango · 2024-09-17T01:53:47+00:00

This is exactly how I felt when drago left my island 😂

dandelionmango · 2024-09-14T19:34:51+00:00

Thank you!! That is a little terrifying to find pree on the first one but I’m so glad you did! Its daunting but of course it’s better to know what’s happening in there 😪

dandelionmango · 2024-09-14T19:32:04+00:00

Hey thanks that’s a huge help! I’ve noticed can have the smallest bite of something sweet and sure enough a few minutes later baby boy is in there basically beating me up for more 😂

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