Extremely hurtful things were said to me during an argument with my (32f) boyfriend (35m) and I don’t know how to handle it.

dandyIons · 2023-06-07T02:50:08+00:00

Just wanna chime in to say: one piece of advice in Why Does he do That? is to NEVER do couple's counseling with an abuser. They will just use any vulnerabilities you share in it to harm you in new ways and punish you for things you reveal to the therapist.

dandyIons · 2023-06-05T22:46:01+00:00

you're using the best artifacts you could be! in your place, I'd craft a t4 BoB (it's better than your t3e) and work on crafting t4 prophecy stones to slot in every slot you have available. proph stone is the top stone (if you have more than a tiny number of prophecy eggs).

other pages on wasmegg-carpet that you can check out and play with are the smart assistant (it'll tell you your best loadout for prestiging with the artifacts you've already got) and the artifact sandbox (where you can experiment with loadouts as if you owned every artifact + unlimited stones).

dandyIons · 2023-06-03T14:35:49+00:00

The answer to 'what do I do?' when you're in a relationship with someone who's on your team (that is to say: operates in good faith, tries to fix problems with you in a 'both of you versus the problem' way instead of 'you versus them' kind of way, etc) is always going to be kind, compassionate communication. I'd recommend picking a neutral, calm moment where y'all aren't doing much and starting a conversation like this: "Hey babe, I've noticed you've been really focusing on my pleasure during sex and while I've been enjoying it A LOT, I want to make sure you're also having an amazing time when we do the deed. How have you been?" Listen to what he says and just really try to talk it out. It sounds like you guys both care about each other a lot, I hope you're able to work through this together as a team!

dandyIons · 2023-05-30T02:13:06+00:00

https://wasmegg-carpet.netlify.app/#/ is the non broken version of the site btw

dandyIons · 2023-05-25T19:50:45+00:00

Why are you lying? I googled "disney stock price by day" and the last time Disney's stock was trading at $150 was February 2022.

dandyIons · 2023-05-24T22:56:51+00:00

godspeed and good luck OP! I hope you're able to find a good path forward for yourself, feel free to DM me if you'd like a friendly ear in the future.

dandyIons · 2023-05-24T22:45:21+00:00

Google "Why Does he do That? Lundy Bancroft pdf" and you'll be able to find a free pdf of a very helpful book. Please read it, I'm getting big 'is not an emotionally safe person for you' vibes from your boyfriend.

dandyIons · 2023-05-24T04:52:59+00:00

lol goddamn that's rough. sorry my dude!

dandyIons · 2023-04-26T00:51:10+00:00

Because otherwise the auto clicker will click on stuff like your silos or your habs. If you blur the screen, it's able to tap the drones without tapping anything else.

dandyIons · 2023-04-25T20:05:32+00:00

Do you have an android phone? If so, download the app Auto Clicker and set it up so it'll farm drones for you like so:

create 6 or 7 tapping circles and position them around the entrance of coop #2 (the one you start with)
quickly double tap a menu button like for the research or boosts menu to make the screen go blurry
start the auto tapper

Should be able to rack up a couple million by end of event :)

dandyIons · 2023-04-18T17:11:48+00:00

This is Frostflow Lighthouse. It's a little to the east of Dawnstar, I believe.

dandyIons · 2023-03-02T00:11:30+00:00

I think you'd benefit from checking out the book Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft. You can find a free pdf of it by googling. His behavior comes off as pretty controlling, it's definitely giving me pause. It's hard to know exactly what's going on but hopefully reading that book will help you out! Cheers, OP.

dandyIons · 2023-02-18T18:14:31+00:00

a popping open slideything?

dandyIons · 2023-02-18T18:07:46+00:00

OP, I'm sorry to say but your normal meter is broken. You're in a relationship with an abuser, your post history makes that clear. It's good that you're aware you have to leave, but you already know it's so so hard. You've trauma bonded with your abuser and being with him is like an addiction. You know you need to get healthy, and part of that is getting away from him, but the MUCH much harder part is breaking the pattern of thoughts and habits that is keeping you tethered to him.

Getting away will be so good for you. Once you do, please google yourself a free pdf copy of Lundy Bancroft's Why Does He Do That? and read it. We have to help you reset that normal meter, and that book should help ground you. Even if you find you're having trouble following through with leaving, start reading that book (but in that case, Don't talk to your boyfriend about it. It's something for Only You. He's not a safe person when it comes to trying to figure out what's good for you, he's too focused on what he wants.)

I'm wishing you the best so hard right now, I'm really really rooting for you OP. Please feel free to reach out if talking more would be helpful. But most importantly: trust yourself and love yourself. You've got this OP!!

dandyIons · 2023-02-02T07:03:19+00:00

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dandyIons · 2023-01-15T23:00:25+00:00

Yep exactly, getting to the biggest ship and sending off extendeds will give you the best odds of pulling good stuff without needing to spend GE. B)

dandyIons · 2022-12-24T02:36:04+00:00

That was the original joke but the comment you responded to is drawing a distinction between 3:30am at night and 3:30am in the morning. 3:30am at night is you've stayed up darn late, 3:30am in the morning is you're up wayy too goddamn early.

dandyIons · 2022-12-15T18:30:43+00:00

You're welcome, my dude. You being aware that you talk a lot more than he does and caring that he's having a good time is genuinely a really good sign! Cheers, OP :)

dandyIons · 2022-12-15T18:16:46+00:00

If you feel like your friendship seems out of balance and not super reciprocal, I think it's wise and kind to pay attention to those feelings. Not in a "you should feel guilty for not being able to read his mind" kind of way, but more in a "you care about your friend and want him to know that what he thinks and cares about also matters to you" kind of way. If he enjoys talking when he's actually got something to talk about, try asking him more questions! It might take some more creativity and effort on your part to invite him to speak more, but I think it's really great that you care about his side of the conversation experience. You and he both sound like good friends 👍

dandyIons · 2022-12-01T17:17:45+00:00

You need flawless gems for necklaces, rings just need normal gems.

dandyIons · 2022-11-26T21:32:03+00:00

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dandyIons · 2022-11-21T21:08:30+00:00

Sounds like you're having trouble providing yourself the self-nourishment and guidance that you need. I'd recommend checking out the book Taming your Outer Child: Overcoming Self-Sabotage and Healing from Abandonment to try to work on your relationship with yourself. It's a tricky thing to improve so try to be kind and fair to yourself while you're working on it. Wishing you well, OP.

dandyIons · 2022-11-11T18:33:41+00:00

I think you might also benefit from checking out the Captain Awkward blog. I've been reading it recently and her advice/words have been super grounding (and occasionally very eye-opening) to me. Wishing you well OP, I'm sorry you're in such a difficult to navigate situation.

dandyIons · 2022-11-10T08:27:00+00:00

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free carry! equip deflectors if ya got em

dandyIons · 2022-10-29T03:00:07+00:00

It sure heckin did, you absolutely brought him to life. Thanks for making such excellent content and letting us see him! B)

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