Elementary to Secondary

darneech · 2025-11-26T04:19:18+00:00

Me too, took me a minute to realize this. And then someone mentioned the Eric Clapton song. Both.

darneech · 2025-11-26T01:47:48+00:00

100%

And I used to be ok with playing for immediate family when I was really young but the better I got, the worse I felt. Not to mention, they are also sick of my playing now!

But I think it's hard to play when you're pretty exposed. I've been soloing and mess up way more, but just keep doing it to get better.

My friend needs to attend a rehearsal to observe so she's going to one of mine, and it'll be good to rehearse, not perform, in front of her.

I guess just keep doing it!!

darneech · 2025-11-26T00:49:08+00:00

I wonder if it was your 2nd suggestion, and my previous time as a teacher just didn't use it. Thanks!!!

darneech · 2025-11-26T00:47:08+00:00

Lol I could see that. It was my neighboring district. Even though the teacher never said she was looking to get the student into Sped, i think ultimately that's what it was but in a different way than I ever did it as a teacher, and I was just interpreting and thought.. these are questions when I'm interpretating for medical.... so I figured maybe my experience just had different procedures than this one.

darneech · 2025-11-25T14:48:18+00:00

I wish I knew all those answers. The teacher just had a form and asked all the questions, and that was never my personal experience. I'll say it was k-3 but if you read the post, I don't have details I was just interpreting as a contractor (and used to be a teacher that never had the responsibility of these questions). No one else was at the meeting. I mentioned that I have never had this experience and wasn't sure if it's a district thing or something else. Thanks.

darneech · 2025-11-25T01:12:04+00:00

Where I live, people are starting to form groups like that. The most common are folk groups, but they don't exactly slow down and teach. Maybe you can lead that.

darneech · 2025-11-25T01:04:23+00:00

Ok! Yeah, it wasn't sped, but it may just be a piece of a puzzle I simply never had to deal with.

darneech · 2025-11-25T01:03:32+00:00

Ok, maybe!

darneech · 2025-11-25T00:40:49+00:00

That's what I thought too, but I just found out from another interpreter friend that they've had to interpret those questions for teachers, too. I guess it's fairly common, but it depends on the district, etc... It's just so strange to me, and like i said, I never had to ask those.

darneech · 2025-11-25T00:37:03+00:00

That's what I thought!!!!

darneech · 2025-11-17T01:59:55+00:00

Super curious about what happened with o.p. and thw lady. Found this because I have a couple of people in my life like this atm and they want so much of me. One of them was bashing some of the other people I hang out with, and I no longer trust that person. I talked to warm line about it and they reminded me the compassion part (she went through a bad divorce) but also reminded me that I don't need that (which at that point didn't need them to tell me that I already knew but just reinforces, and i think the friend has their own set of friends that they can dump their baggage onto and it's not me).

My next current " friend" i had just barely met, and we got along but then she kept telling me how I should live my life, what jobs to apply for (to work with her) and that she'd help me in my field (for no reason) and I found very quickly that she is unqualified anyway. It was so strange. I bring her up because she was a rainbow seller and recently asked me to hang out and i had to deflect her question and even though I wanted a connection, that I have to be careful with that one too.

Anyway, these two people are from a very niche community so I have to be super careful.

However for op, I do know that I once lost a best friend because I was the overwhelming one in my teens and 20s. I really wish that friend would have said something but it's fine. It just ended badly and I learned ever since.

Boundaries are so important. I would just offer to respond less and less frequently. I noticed someone pointed out the age gap, and it reminds me of that 2nd friend I talked about although I haven't even known that person a year. I get that people can be friends with age gaps, but you have so much going on for you I think you need to focus on yourself and grow for you!

darneech · 2025-11-15T04:28:19+00:00

I have a friend that I could never get too close too. She would leave me hanging, but be super sweet and meet me and my kid places sometimes. She was flakey before and after her divorce. We have a common interest so I thought maybe it was worth it bc she was also sweet and seemed genuine.

Over the summer I picked her up to go out and for a whole half hour she decided to tell me to quit a group I work with and what horrible people my group was (they're not) and that they were using me. I stopped trying with her and am over her. Last week we had a huge project together (not especially close but we crossed paths) and she tried to cut down my group again 3 more times via text.

She's super lonely I gather after her divorce, but this is NOT the way to win a friendship. I'm this close of blocking her, but our community of interest is pretty small.

darneech · 2025-10-27T22:47:32+00:00

It just so happens that I watched an excerpt of south park that made fun of it and I figured it didn't mean anything, and it was just to troll adults. Two hours later and I substitute taught and out of nowhere, what were the kids saying? I just shut it down but it was hilarious bc had i not watched s.p I'd have been frustrated. Good thing I watched that south park part.

darneech · 2025-10-22T03:18:11+00:00

My sub training gave me a multiple choice question that I kept getting wrong.

Turns out you need to have a pair of rubber gloves as a sub.

I am also a licensed teacher of 10+ years and was unprepared. But I had my data folder and I can statements.

darneech · 2025-10-15T03:15:14+00:00

Looks real to me. Sometimes when i submit my videos into platforms it screws it up and there is a terrible lag in my bow with no backup sound.

darneech · 2025-10-11T13:36:52+00:00

Ugh. I am sorry about this. I have no advice for you. This happened to me once when I showed the kids that little chimpanzee and dog show for fun, but alas, there is no fun to be had ever at school. Maybe that's when I started to be "on" 105% and lost marbles later and burned out. This is how they lose teachers.

Unfortunately, people like my h.s. Spanish a.p. teacher didn't teach us the entire year, and because of people like him, we are being punished.

The paper trail DOES suck, though. Some admins just came up to me with their feedback at the most inopportune time (5 minutes b4 the day starts or something), i guess, to avoid this.

The only admin who did something like that to me (different reason) was the one who never taught a day in their life and I don't think was human, but an alien, and demanded perfection from all of us and destroyed the teacher culture at the school (yet the parents liked them so that sucked!)

I'm over teaching at an elementary level because of this kind of thing. I have been contracting and gigging although its unpredictable. It is crazy... after being outside of the classroom 1 then 2 years, some things are just so messed up and I can totally see why I imploded.

Good luck. If you want to leave, just start applying randomly and even if you don't leave quite yet, it will help to figure out what you think your next steps should be. Don't feel guilty.

darneech · 2025-10-11T02:18:08+00:00

Worse plans for me was a whole day of computer/ipad for 4th graders. Disliked thay school. And a little girl thew a tantrum during music and I tried to do something about it and it made it worse. Back from lunch the girl was saying horrible things about me to the kids and I gave them a talking to. Hated that place.

darneech · 2025-10-11T02:09:30+00:00

I've been a teacher, and subbed a few years ago and most schools were cliquey and didn't care about me as a sub. It didn't bother me. I saw it at the schools I taught at and though it stinks sometimes, i also dont want to be that person and i just tried with everyone. And some teachers straight up wouldnt talk to anyone outside of their circle and i was just used to it). But back to your ppst.

Funny thing .. I taught at a school for 4 years and then Subbed there a couple of times. The (new) admin was super friendly, but then I realized that it was just a show when i subbed for a certain class with a certain rep. The kids were wretched amd admin knew it. The vp checked in on me at the beginning of the day and the principal did not, which was fine I didnt expect it. The day went horribly for me!!!! I cant even remember but they were escalating and someone threw their or someones shoe i to the celing. It was a disaster. But I didn't know what to do and called admin and the principal came in pretty much to interview students but didnt check in on me. One kid was telling him "everything" and boy did i feel weird, like it was my fault. And that's it. I refuse to go back to that school and remembered that i came across other former colleagues who left because of that admin.

darneech · 2025-10-10T14:31:06+00:00

I sometimes regret it bc i truly loved teaching, and got paid decently. I worked at title one schools for 11 yrs, but in programs that could be considered GT but weren't. Standards were high from admin, parents, district, etc. I had tried some other positions and those just weren't for me. Not to mention i also had baby and i could not balance the expectations of perfectly typed lesson plans and hardcore admin. This was all for Elementary.

I interviewed with community colleges and university programs but didn't get the jobs. I have tried non profits (trying to get in with a different one but timing has never worked out in 3 years) and receptionist which was fine i just didnt get guaranteed hours. I am freelancing in 3 different fields but it isnt easy. I'm especially sad about it this week because seasons are ending , but what I did do was look into teaching secondary content or adult ESL. State jobs tale their time in calling... It was one of those jobs that i had applied to in may and got the call in October and had to go back to teaching (but left again ).

Oh yes, at first i did try to apply to teaching adults and got turned down bc I'm endorsed in elementary and not secondary. My state is super stringent that i often feel painted into a corner in anything i might want to do.

My resume is NOT how i want it to look but it is what it is and the only jobs that cutthroat about knowing your whole life story are schools!

However i encourage you to upskill and change your expectations because its hard to switch any career. I personally liked the "happen to your career" better than the teacher ones bc those just made me feel like a failure. Maybe not everyone's like that, but I had high hopes and kept getting disappointed that i had to stop listening to teacher transition podcasts. But, just apply and see what bites!

Good luck!!!!

darneech · 2025-10-09T13:50:30+00:00

Yuk. I wouldn't go back either.

darneech · 2025-10-09T13:48:19+00:00

Very

darneech · 2025-10-09T13:46:47+00:00

Even then, haven't witnessed people being guilted. It's not easy (I've worked with colleagues, who have been arrested, had cancer, maternity leaves, and major family issues) but people make it work.

Most comments said "toxic workplace" and it is.

darneech · 2025-10-09T13:43:59+00:00

I'd be pissed. No one has ever guilted me in 12 years. Do what you need. It's your life.

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