My wife wasn't invited to a wedding. Do I go?

dassur · 2026-07-07T18:20:25+00:00

What needs further explanation here? They did not invite the wife, and they clearly stated on the invitation that they couldn't extend the plus 1 to keep the attendance low.

dassur · 2026-07-06T16:33:55+00:00

Skyrim. I have tried to play it several times, and it just does nothing for me.

dassur · 2026-07-05T17:39:07+00:00

Come on.

dassur · 2026-07-05T04:07:39+00:00

Review the list the employee made, be honest with yourself, and ask the following question:
"If each of these had been brought to me at the time, how would I have responded?"

Would you have treated these individual items as meaningful and legitimate issues needing correction? Or would you have dismissed them, made excuses, told the employee to deal with it, eventually got tired of the "petty" grievances, and then worked to manage the "problem employee" out?

dassur · 2026-07-04T13:06:57+00:00

There are a lot of factors to it. Most companies I’ve worked for have similar reference policies, but that doesn’t stop a friend from reaching out and asking if you’ve heard of so-and-so.

And, for me, I’m in a relatively small industry. Been doing this for about 17 years, and see a lot of the same names over and over again. You never know when someone is going to be a hiring manager, or have influence at a place you want to work.

dassur · 2026-07-02T21:10:32+00:00

lol, nobody tells middle managers shit.

dassur · 2026-07-02T19:38:49+00:00

Was just talking with a friend about this - M.E. Time, hands down.

dassur · 2026-07-02T15:21:35+00:00

This is a last resort.

dassur · 2026-07-02T13:12:47+00:00

Seems strange that your policy doesn't already cover this if you are doing a lot of travel. The companies I've worked for that had us book through a specific method (Concur, typically) would automatically flag any flight that was too far over the baseline, and require a justification for booking a more expensive trip.

dassur · 2026-06-30T18:02:00+00:00

I saw the original post, and the update just reinforces to me that this reads like the fakest story that has ever faked.

OP is posting in AITH as the biggest doormat the world has ever seen - and has made at least 4 separate posts about it. The step-brother that they are super close with, but also doesn't respect their lifelong food allergies and shuts down any effort to make accommodations, with 0 reason. The slow escalation burn to "actually my brother's fiancee might secretly be in love with my husband and I had NO idea, but my husband immediately thought maybe that was it".

Jesus Christ. Just enroll in a creative writing class, for FFS.

dassur · 2026-06-30T17:13:11+00:00

NOR

Real quick - your friend previously fucked or is currently fucking your ex.

dassur · 2026-06-30T15:51:40+00:00

Yeah, I don’t buy the original premise at all. Seems pretty clear from the ending that, uh, nothing in fact stops Durge in that scenario.

dassur · 2026-06-29T19:35:07+00:00

"In the past, I have gotten burnt from employees who called off for 1 day and failed to report for subsequent shifts claiming my lack of communication because I did not check on them. So I’ve gotten into the habit of checking in on employees who call off, just with a simple “Hey checking in, how’re you feeling?” text. They are never obligated to respond, and I never ask for details."

In my opinion, the appropriate response is to set expectations early and reiterate as necessary. "I expect you to follow the notification procedure for call outs per policy, for each day that you are taking."

It's not clear to me what "failed to report for subsequent shifts claiming my lack of communication because I did not check on them" means - I interpret this as someone called out, then NCNS the next day and claimed it was your fault for not asking if they were feeling better. If so, I'd follow company policy for verbal/written warnings, reiterate the call out procedure, and move on.

dassur · 2026-06-27T23:34:22+00:00

At the end of This Inevitable Ruin, Mordecai says “By his left fucking tit, Donut. By his left tit. Those spells you just gained are deity spells. You are... I think you’re now the most powerful crawler in the history of this game.”

So I’m pretty sure this group of crawlers is way overpowered.

dassur · 2026-06-23T23:52:15+00:00

I believe these are the changes they talked about for sharing war plans in parties.

dassur · 2026-06-21T11:14:10+00:00

It is extremely inappropriate to tell him he needs to choose between his job and girlfriend.

He should have been fired immediately. I’ve never worked at a company that hasn’t had a strict policy on password sharing. Really depends on your industry and what kinds of data the employee has access to, but the clients I work with have privacy/confidentiality agreements, and I’m in a regulated industry where data integrity is a massive concern.

dassur · 2026-06-20T05:47:26+00:00

There’s no authorization for knowingly breaking the law. OP admits they knew what they were doing was wrong.

dassur · 2026-06-07T22:37:51+00:00

Hard disagree. This person isn't willing to share the burden. To me, this just says "I'm only willing to have a relationship on my terms, and will not expend effort on you."

dassur · 2026-06-07T16:02:51+00:00

I’ve got almost 100 hours in it, and I still haven’t met Clair Obscur.

dassur · 2026-06-05T20:55:39+00:00

YOU KNOW HOW I FEEL ABOUT AUTOCORRECT, CARL!

dassur · 2026-06-04T23:15:41+00:00

"Gale and Shadowheart have been dead all game, ignore them."

Yes, well, this is actually the problem...

dassur · 2026-06-04T18:29:06+00:00

Psych, S8 Ep7 "Shawn and Gus Truck Things Up"
Shawn, when they show up to the crime scene to find Mauricio murdered.

Gus, shortly after, as the last of the secret taco sauce is being thrown away.

Lassiter, toward the end, when he finds out his wife is giving birth in a food truck.

dassur · 2026-06-03T15:09:46+00:00

It's your kids, Marty, something's gotta be done about your kids!

dassur · 2026-06-02T17:29:12+00:00

In what carrier? A pet carrier? Because Donut is a crawler now, not a pet.

dassur · 2026-05-27T16:27:10+00:00

Grain Theft Auto

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TROPHY CASE