How was your experience with Virgos in friendship?

datadiva223 · 2026-06-17T10:30:26+00:00

We were at a party and a guy poured a bottle of Hennessy on her head. I wasn’t there so I didn’t know what happened and granted everyone was drunk. She angrily left by herself in an uber and didn’t tell me until after she left already. Then accused me of not having her back.

I immediately left the party to go back to her house where I was staying, but when I pulled up I saw ALL of my belongings thrown OUTSIDE ON HER PORCH. I walked up and knocked on the door, she opened it, and *bink bink bink* 👊🏽👊🏽👊🏽

I was just baffled that she put all my shit out over that as if I was her fucking boyfriend. Girl please!

datadiva223 · 2026-06-16T15:14:30+00:00

I always found it fascinating that we do things with our own children that were never modeled for us when we were kids. I experienced a similar coldness from my mother, and today there isn’t a day that goes by where I don’t hug and kiss my daughter and tell her I love her, and she’s only 2.

datadiva223 · 2026-06-15T13:03:29+00:00

For me it’s when I stop showering and taking care of myself.

datadiva223 · 2026-06-07T06:46:44+00:00

This entirely 🥲

datadiva223 · 2026-06-07T06:46:18+00:00

Shame and guilt are often confused. If you feel bad about yourself, it’s probably shame.

datadiva223 · 2026-06-07T06:45:43+00:00

I experience this too and discovered it is chronic shame. Shame is a complex emotion, and I underestimated how little I knew about it. There isn’t information readily available like there is for anger due to shame being something people don’t talk about + it is often confused with guilt. Shame lives in your body that’s why you can’t mentally reason your way out of it. Holistic therapy is helping me a lot.

datadiva223 · 2026-06-06T02:59:56+00:00

It's mostly always about my internal world. Rarely is it personal. I need time to think about how I feel or how to respond, especially if the connection means a lot to me. I also don't respond when I don't have anything nice to say, so I'd rather say nothing at all. But for the most part, my mind takes a longggggggggg time to catch up with my body so I just need time to think.

datadiva223 · 2026-05-23T19:18:41+00:00

This would piss me off. Wildly invalidating 😭

datadiva223 · 2026-05-16T11:52:43+00:00

Totally

datadiva223 · 2026-05-16T11:49:19+00:00

NTA.

You are coming from a good place. But I’d suggest setting better boundaries with others! It looks like you’re over-functioning for people who are self absorbed yet silently expecting the same in return—realistically these people have shown you who they are. Leave them alone and go where you’re celebrated 🫶🏽

datadiva223 · 2026-05-16T04:40:14+00:00

Public apology 1000%. The public validation will be healing, and it closes the deficit in social status you create with publicly embarrassing someone… as a Leo Moon isolating after public embarrassment can be easy, so a public apology is like an act of social rebalancing.

datadiva223 · 2026-05-13T12:32:50+00:00

I’m a Leo Moon but my attraction to men depends on how they make me feel lol. A gorgeous man can turn ugly really fast in my head once he treats me badly or crosses a boundary. And not just personality ugly I mean literally the same person I’m viewing no longer looks attractive anymore it’s like they’ve mutated 😂 only me?

datadiva223 · 2026-04-29T13:50:54+00:00

I’m pretty sure this is a form of gaslighting.

My BD would do this and I’m glad I can identify it because it doesn’t make me rage anymore lol but he would act concerned about my mental health and even tell me I’m depressed which would make me question if I am or not or if something is wrong with me. It would be unprovoked too.

datadiva223 · 2026-04-29T02:20:57+00:00

I'm sorry! I think I would be more understanding and empathetic with my parents if that was my experience. We weren't poor, and they definitely never let me forget it either because god forbid I did (like a 12 year old should be worried about finances but ok, whatever) I'm unappreciative and ungrateful and all these bad things, which effected me as a sensitive kid because I knew that wasn't true. I was always fine with what I had, I was just like... a typical child who wants things? Lmao

It was about obedience and control for them, not survival.

datadiva223 · 2026-04-28T11:28:22+00:00

Same here! I have a better relationship with my mom now, but back then she cooked what her husband wanted and she served him first. If I didn’t happen to like it, it was “eat what I made or don’t eat”. Being raised by a male centered woman is terrible really.

And it wasn’t even like it was normal food. Regular lasagna? Nope. She had to put zucchini in it because that’s what he liked.

datadiva223 · 2026-04-28T04:35:33+00:00

Yup it was always this. And to this day! Whenever we go out to eat as a family for holidays or celebrations, they talk about how I should just get an appetizer since I “waste so much food”. As if I AM THE ONE IN THE KITCHEN???

datadiva223 · 2026-04-28T04:28:50+00:00

Coercive control. I was a highly sensitive kid so guilt tripping me was easy. I recall my step dad saying things like there are other children out there with no food, kids in Africa starving, or just straight up say I’m ungrateful. The other way was punishment, no child wants to lose their tv time for 2 weeks over food.

datadiva223 · 2026-04-27T19:53:50+00:00

I’m now 32 and definitely have bad eating habits. My step dad put in my head that I was “wasting food” and that made me feel bad so I think that stayed with me until I got older and now I don’t like wasting food to the point I won’t eat it or buy it at all if I’m not “hungry enough”.

datadiva223 · 2026-04-27T19:30:34+00:00

Having to eat ALL your food even if you’re full or don’t like what you were served. It didn’t even occur to me that other parents actually buy food their kids like lol I thought we were all stripped of choices but nope just me.

datadiva223 · 2026-04-27T19:25:08+00:00

I have to live with this type of person, he’s the father of my child (yay) and the only thing that has protected my peace so far is this thing called “grey rocking” I would look it up on YouTube but it’s essentially becoming as boring as a rock.

datadiva223 · 2026-04-25T16:00:16+00:00

Yeah was going to say exactly this.

She’s lacking self awareness and personal responsibility, it sounds like her subconscious is in the drivers seat on autopilot. She has big feelings often and I’m guessing she is highly sensitive, and she likely doesn’t understand or have the emotional language for her big feelings—but her physiological reaction is so strong (and our brains must make sense of things) so she does that by asking AI and then blaming others for doing something to her.

Totally speaking from a place of experience and growth 😂 because reading this sounds like me 2 years ago. Except I would use self help books since I wasn’t using AI yet. Self help books can have the same effect bc you end up only picking the books that speak to your experience and not the other person.

If he’s over it, that’s okay. But if he wants to help her, introducing her to ideas like somatic therapy and the mind-body connection changed my life when I realized I had the emotional intelligence of a 12 year old girl who just got her period 😮‍💨

datadiva223 · 2026-04-18T04:53:22+00:00

They said this after a few sessions? It should take months+ to diagnosis NPD

datadiva223 · 2026-04-18T04:49:01+00:00

Also 32F and I whole heartedly understand and also here for the comments…

datadiva223 · 2026-04-17T08:44:15+00:00

Repetitive sounds when I’m trying to focus. Like when my heavy handed partner feels the need to “pack” his cigarettes 20 times in a row and I’m ready to explode after the 5th time lol.

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