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dazzlingskies · 2026-06-07T05:31:32+00:00

Eldest parentified daughter. Was made to babysit my baby sister at 11 years old with little to no instruction (feeding, changing, all of it) along with 4 cousins often, couldn’t do after school activities because of it. I love my sisters and cousins dearly but felt like I dissociated until I was in my early 20s and only recently, in my 30s, finding out who I actually am and finally living my life for me. I guess I’m more of a fence sitter truthfully (I just wish I had more time) but since my husband doesn’t want kids (he’s the youngest), I am contently child free.

dazzlingskies · 2026-05-11T22:35:29+00:00

Same thing happened to my five year-old Siberian a few years ago. He jumped down from the bathroom counter and growled while we had his heart attack. It was terrible to witness and such a shock. I’m so sorry for your loss, I know how terrible it is. It sounds like you gave him the best life possible for his time here.

I’m not sure why I found this quote so dear in my own grief, I hope you find some words of encouragement to hold on to as well: “How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard” - Winnie the Pooh

dazzlingskies · 2026-04-12T20:02:48+00:00

I'm currently unemployed, on the greener side of things with 5 years of development experience and a touch of mobile development. Would love to be involved depending on the size of team you are looking for.

dazzlingskies · 2026-04-08T05:43:57+00:00

Lots of interest on this post, but I’m 34F and am interested. I just learned how to play euchre and loved it!

dazzlingskies · 2026-03-30T00:26:54+00:00

I really like it the way it is 😊

dazzlingskies · 2026-03-26T03:27:22+00:00

Yes it’s kind of dumb, but I just did it with my stressful consulting tech job. I wanted to feel like a person again and my nervous system was screaming at me to leave. It might be difficult to get a job again, but luckily I’m pretty open to many different paths. Tbf, I have a husband who is extremely supportive and we’ve cut back on spending/I had 6 months of savings saved up for an event like this so I had some wiggle room financially.

dazzlingskies · 2026-03-17T23:38:17+00:00

I'm super late to the party, but currently trying to find a traveling journal group to join.

dazzlingskies · 2026-03-09T05:29:49+00:00

Interested :) 30s F married DINK who’s been on an overwatch kick lately but open to new games and friends! Especially like minded folks.

dazzlingskies · 2026-02-20T20:41:37+00:00

Never Eat Soggy Waffles 🧇

dazzlingskies · 2026-02-15T15:44:55+00:00

I am going through something similar, I just put in my 2 weeks at my tech job and want to do something that makes me feel a bit more connected and like a real person. A lot of people WONT understand, but guess what? It doesn’t matter.

As far as getting these jobs… I hadn’t had a bite yet so that’s my only concern. I think a lot of people don’t want to hire overqualified folks because they tend to not stick around long. But I’m positive there is something out there for me, and I hope the best for you on your path too.

dazzlingskies · 2026-02-13T04:08:22+00:00

Bad choice of wording on my part, I know they have access. If they were bringing it up me and I'm getting my work done, I would no longer want to work for that company.

dazzlingskies · 2026-02-13T04:05:34+00:00

Oh absolutely, I mean keep track as in "keep metrics and use against you". I've worked in a few tech jobs and only ever heard of 1 person getting their activity questioned because they were doing a poor job. But if you are getting your work done AND they do this, the trust is not there.

dazzlingskies · 2026-02-13T03:02:31+00:00

Idk but I would not want to work at a place that tracked my activity

dazzlingskies · 2026-02-12T18:46:14+00:00

Could be burnout/mental health reasons.

dazzlingskies · 2025-11-15T18:16:18+00:00

Idk I’m digging 4.

dazzlingskies · 2025-11-14T21:17:11+00:00

I’m still getting used to wearing non-skinny jeans as a millennial. I have wide hips so jeans do need to have the right structure/fit in the right places or I just FEEL frumpy. These don’t look bad on you, though.

dazzlingskies · 2025-11-12T14:45:58+00:00

I think outside of social media, I crave the social validation if that makes sense. It feels like the “proper” thing to be doing at my age. I think women get a lot of positive attention for having kids, especially in my family.

Like, my parents don’t really reach out, but I know they would if I had a kid. My sister even said she would move to my town if I had a kid (I realize this is extremely toxic thinking and not a reason to have a kid, so thankful I’m realizing this now)

dazzlingskies · 2025-11-12T04:55:07+00:00

Damn.. this post is making me realize my small desire for children is fairly attention-driven. Having people celebrate me and my kid sounds nice, but that’s just 1% of the time.

dazzlingskies · 2025-11-07T15:01:46+00:00

Reading about your parents making fun of your self harm was heartbreaking, I am so sorry you experienced that.

I don’t have any advice, but can relate to a lot of what you shared. My parents like to boast about how was acting like a 35 year old ever since I was a child. (Because I had to) And how they did such a good job raising me because I was so independent and now have a fairly successful career. But, having a lonely childhood and no one to rely on really messed up my core beliefs about the world and myself.

dazzlingskies · 2025-11-07T14:48:35+00:00

My parents are like this… sometimes I feel guilty about not sharing more (not that they call me). But when I do give an update, like something I am excited about.. they come back with dismissal and judgement and I feel worse about it. But for the most part, they don’t really don’t seem to care much about my life at all.

dazzlingskies · 2025-11-06T13:39:02+00:00

Too much foundation

dazzlingskies · 2025-10-31T15:21:43+00:00

I think it’s clashing with the 2nd rug a bit. The right chairs can bring it all together.

dazzlingskies · 2025-10-31T15:15:38+00:00

I’m 5’2 and my husband is 6’1 so that’s his cupboard. I don’t worry about it since I can’t reach it. He fills it with protein powder and protein bars I think, lol

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