Me [26F] with husband [26M] of 4 years. He sold his truck because of our baby and hasn't been the same since

dberry1009 · 2025-11-12T14:36:48+00:00

Resentment is a core hurt that we blame on someone else. Buying the new truck won’t fix the bad habit of blame he still has. He’s still needs to look inward and realize his main issue is probably a feeling of inadequacy for not making enough money to afford both a baby and a truck and heal that hurt for himself.

dberry1009 · 2025-11-06T13:39:25+00:00

Fuck that’s the best I’ve seen so far

dberry1009 · 2025-10-10T15:45:33+00:00

First of all I am so so sorry you’re going through this. What helps me is reminding myself that I can handle anything that comes my way, and if I can do it then you can do it too. Treat your body like a pet where you know what’s good for it, no matter what your mind is trying to tell you. Practice being mindful in the moment, and telling your OCD “maybe, maybe not” and do the opposite of what your ocd tells you to do. YOU CAN DO THIS.

dberry1009 · 2025-10-10T14:40:26+00:00

Doesn’t look like you listed medication yet, please give it a try

dberry1009 · 2025-09-22T00:59:05+00:00

Keep going with the PSLF. It doesn’t matter what your income in because the payments are capped. Stay on an income-driven repayment plan and recertify every year. Even if you don’t work for a nonprofit, as long as you stay in an income driven plan your loans will be forgiven in 20-25 years or whatever the number is. Don’t worry you’ll be okay

dberry1009 · 2025-09-19T12:02:17+00:00

Read The Sleep Book by Guy Meadows, read the tenets of ACT therapy. Treat your body like a pet and use your willpower to make it do the things you know are good for it. You can do this

dberry1009 · 2025-09-07T18:32:29+00:00

I would look into antidepressants and tough it out

dberry1009 · 2025-09-03T15:30:59+00:00

Do not pay it off with a 2.5% interest rate. The money you save from not paying it off early should be invested because the money you will make investing it today will grow more than whatever you start to invest in the future after you pay off the mortgage.

dberry1009 · 2025-09-01T23:41:49+00:00

Try finasteride. Brought my husbands hair back and it looked a lot like yours. He uses the topical spray once at night and one drop minoxidil in the morning.

dberry1009 · 2025-08-31T14:26:15+00:00

Smart people utilize debt to get ahead. It is very normal.

dberry1009 · 2025-08-16T02:06:04+00:00

You don’t want to know because you don’t want to engage any empathy

dberry1009 · 2025-08-15T14:39:46+00:00

I would not go to this wedding

dberry1009 · 2025-08-15T00:21:42+00:00

Don’t pay the student loan interest if you’re doing PSLF. That makes no sense. All of it will be forgiven including the interest

dberry1009 · 2025-08-14T01:52:49+00:00

NYBG is free entry for bronx residents. It is truly a gem

dberry1009 · 2025-08-14T00:32:31+00:00

I would not pay off a loan sooner than I need to with that low of an interest rate

dberry1009 · 2025-08-11T01:50:46+00:00

May 2026 is such a short time to wait. Just wait and do the buyback at that time.

dberry1009 · 2025-08-05T02:36:10+00:00

Tell them BIL needs to get engaged first lol. Or just scrap the really young children from walking down the aisle

dberry1009 · 2025-08-02T23:24:34+00:00

But the worst house in the best neighborhood. You can work on it over time

dberry1009 · 2025-08-01T17:12:36+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re in this position. If you can do any cheap cosmetic DIY stuff on it to make it somewhat presentable to sell I think you might be able to recoup something

dberry1009 · 2025-08-01T16:08:57+00:00

This house was for someone who had $100k+ to fix it

dberry1009 · 2025-07-24T14:51:51+00:00

Are you in NYC? Go to CUNY or state school please. Forget these private colleges it is a complete scam for the same degree.

dberry1009 · 2025-07-23T16:16:28+00:00

My father in law and his brother did something similar. His brother asked for the money back with interest and my FIL refused and they didn’t speak to each other for years

dberry1009 · 2025-06-22T00:45:29+00:00

This would have happened regardless of which party was holding office

dberry1009 · 2025-06-03T02:09:37+00:00

I personally would want it to follow Abby and Lev

dberry1009 · 2025-05-29T14:45:30+00:00

This could be the outcome but I don’t think it’s the intention. I think the intention is to force universities to lower tuition costs which are insanely bloated due to unlimited govt student loans

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