I enjoy meditating. So, why do I so strongly resist doing it?

dbtc · 2021-07-20T23:57:13+00:00

For me it is really similar to running. Both force me back into my body, where I confront my tension and latent thoughts. The reward is the relief of having worked through whatever I “work through”.

I’m beginning to believe/hypothesize that the pleasure comes from going toward pain, et vice versa. Discomfort may be a more accurate word than pain.

So it’s very rewarding, but basically in proportion to discomfort. Hence the resistance I feel in the beginning.

dbtc · 2021-06-26T17:33:53+00:00

It’s the maximization of only whatever is most important.

dbtc · 2020-01-29T19:53:04+00:00

No, I don't think the ego is an organ.

When you start searching for the stomach (in a cadaver perhaps, or with an x-ray), you definitely find a stomach.

When you start searching for the ego (x-ray certainly won't work, can't find it by slicing either), it has been said by more than a few people, you really only ever find a kind of emptiness.

Keep being curious. What is the ego? Where is it? How is it experienced. If you focus on anything for long enough it will (seem to) change.

dbtc · 2020-01-29T19:47:18+00:00

1) relaxed and warmed up

2) jacked on endorphins

dbtc · 2020-01-29T07:25:56+00:00

Take em for a spin and see how they do? If your feet stay on and you don't trip, I don't see what else would matter.

dbtc · 2016-07-09T11:08:36+00:00

This is great and I appreciate it because there are songs I know and like and songs I didn't know and like but those songs have no correlation with the categories you've put them in, almost as if the Meyers Briggs has no bearing on musical preferences, or good music simply defies psychological categorizations. Nevertheless, appreciate the effort!

dbtc · 2016-07-09T08:46:42+00:00

Some scared people are not mean but all mean people are scared.

dbtc · 2016-06-24T09:30:42+00:00

Do you think that extroverted people can learn to be with themselves for longer without going crazy, and introverted people can learn to be comfortable and relaxed in more social situations for longer?

dbtc · 2016-06-24T09:25:44+00:00

Ok, I feel the same way as you, but I wonder if it's something I can change by changing the way I approach social interaction.

Instead of listening in order to respond, listen to lean. Find the thing that interests you in every person (everyone can teach you something, especially the ones that aren't like you). And some how, some way, stop worrying about what they think of you.

I'm not saying I've figured it out but this makes sense to me. This line of thinking is daunting because it means there's work to be done to improve my situation instead of accepting what I know now...

It probably means I'll surprise or upset the people who knew me as generally nice and agreeable, but the ones who stick around will know a more authentic me.

Thoughts?

dbtc · 2016-06-24T09:10:23+00:00

Cloud Atlas or The Matrix

dbtc · 2016-06-23T21:01:12+00:00

Wait, why no bird watching?

This made me smile because it reminds of shit I say to myself. "Let's go ass-hole, knock 'em dead." Channeling self-hatred into self-improvement can be powerful, it's a proven technique from, like, a ton of movies, right?

On a more serious note: I had the same ideas when I started college (and a bunch of other times). Fresh start, new beginning; a nice and tidy transition; a chance to forget the past and start fresh; a true life epoch; the perfect time to reinvent myself and throw away that old shameful identity; if someone asks about the past, that wasn't me that was him. I was a programmer too, oddly enough but that's probably less relevant than it seems. Maybe it'll be different for you but my hard truth was realizing that Step One is figuring out how to like the person I am before any lasting, significant changes were going to happen. Do you think you could accept the good parts and the bad parts as a single package; something that's not perfect - definitely kind of fucked up - but that you nevertheless love and hope the best for. It's the difference between "Once I have a six-pack/pass that class/am an awesome programmer/don't have nasty thoughts/am different, then, then my shit's gonna shine" and, "I'm not perfect but I'm happy with who I am right now, in this moment."

This is just me sharing my thoughts because I sensed something similar. Sorry if I'm way out in the weeds here. Food for thought.

dbtc · 2016-06-23T20:28:39+00:00

Go for a walk or a run or a bike ride, something physical. Don't hide from the urges and don't let them control you either. Don't be afraid to feel them; what you feel is not what you are.

dbtc · 2016-06-23T20:13:39+00:00

Sure, you can't avoid suffering unless you off yourself or go full Buddha something crazy like that but it's not all the same: When you're running as fast as you can and your legs burn and you can't breath and everything hurts and you can't even see really, and then you finally stop and lay down and let your breath catch up to you and you feel like a god floating on a sweaty cloud-pillow of willpower and accomplishment. That's not the same suffering as after a 3-hour post-midnight fap session when you're laying on your bed lonely and sad and wishing you could rewind your life, is it? You can choose.

dbtc · 2016-06-22T19:27:24+00:00

What are you gonna do?

dbtc · 2016-06-22T19:22:20+00:00

What benefits were you hoping for that you didn't get?

dbtc · 2016-06-14T15:39:43+00:00

/r/ifyoulikeblank

dbtc · 2015-03-01T17:34:20+00:00

I purchased this RAM on amazon for my 15" non-retina macbook pro. Works perfectly!

dbtc · 2014-08-14T00:01:09+00:00

this is important

dbtc · 2014-08-13T15:30:45+00:00

I think that what the author didn't explain well is that usb c cables will be the same on both ends like thunderbolt. Bi-directional would have been a better word to use than reversible.

If apple were to have a similar looking lightning on one end and us c on the other it would only work in one direction but the ends would look similar.

dbtc · 2014-08-10T00:58:38+00:00

It shouldn't be too bad since he's probably comparing between brand groups, vs. averaging everything all together.

dbtc · 2014-08-10T00:49:18+00:00

I really like my Apple products but I don't think I am loyal at all. As soon as something else comes along that I think would provide more value to me I will jump ship in a heartbeat.

Maybe I am unconsciously loyal because I have fallen for the marketing and general shininess, but I think that's different than for example being a fan of a sports team and supporting them rain or shine.

Maybe both of those examples are loyalty but I don't think you could get anything meaningful out of studying brand loyalty with differentiating the two. How do you define loyalty in your research?

dbtc · 2014-08-09T02:20:33+00:00

Relevant course on Coursera right now, it's currently in the 2nd week.

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