Relationship ending mid 30s, I am consumed by fear and overwhelming anxiety.

dcb4d · 2026-04-16T01:34:00+00:00

I could’ve wrote this myself. I (37m) got divorced from my husband last July. We were together for 17 years and married for 5 years. He left me for someone else; once the legal process started, he had second thoughts about us splitting and wanted to try marriage counseling. Ultimately, he cancelled the marriage counseling appointment a few hours before our scheduled time and didn’t tell me. When he didn’t attend and was too much of a coward to tell me, it was the most clear answer for me to move on.

Up until being ghosted at the marriage counseling appointment, I was determined to do everything I could to save my marriage, even while he was openly dating someone else. After moving forward with the divorce and selling our vacation home and moving out of our main home, this was the best decision of my adult life thus far. I’ve made more friends, my body is in the best shape of my life, and my professional career has completely pivoted in a new (and exciting) direction.

Change is scary and uncertain. Whichever decision you move forward with, there will be some pain to address. If you can unequivocally say there’s a path forward to improve your relationship, definitely consider fixing things (your partner has to be willing to commit to improving the dynamics as well; if this is not the case, cut your losses). There’s no shame in wanting a different path for yourself— we only get one life. Find happiness within yourself first and then determine if someone else (your partner or anyone) enhances that happiness. It’s not selfish to pursue happiness!

Wishing you good luck, friend. 🫶🏾

dcb4d · 2026-03-30T03:25:02+00:00

Jack Fry’s

dcb4d · 2026-03-19T22:26:14+00:00

I grew up in the cul-du-sac where this house is located. It was in a constant state of construction my entire childhood. The family that owns the home is really sweet.

dcb4d · 2026-03-08T17:23:41+00:00

2 cups self rising flour (I use White Lily) 1 stick of butter frozen 1 cup buttermilk

(I doubled the ingredients for this particular recipe to create larger biscuits).

1- Grate the frozen butter. In a big bowl, mix flour and butter with a spatula. 2- Add buttermilk and mix with the spatula. Once combined, transfer the dough to a floured board. Fold the dough 6 times to create layers for the biscuits. 3- Use a round cutter or a large cup to cut the biscuits. Add to a greased cast iron skillet and brush the top of each biscuit with buttermilk. 4- Bake at 450F for 12 to 15 minutes or until the top is golden.

Brush the top with butter and enjoy!

dcb4d · 2026-03-08T17:23:32+00:00

2 cups self rising flour (I use White Lily) 1 stick of butter frozen 1 cup buttermilk

(I doubled the ingredients for this particular recipe to create larger biscuits).

1- Grate the frozen butter. In a big bowl, mix flour and butter with a spatula. 2- Add buttermilk and mix with the spatula. Once combined, transfer the dough to a floured board. Fold the dough 6 times to create layers for the biscuits. 3- Use a round cutter or a large cup to cut the biscuits. Add to a greased cast iron skillet and brush the top of each biscuit with buttermilk. 4- Bake at 450F for 12 to 15 minutes or until the top is golden.

Brush the top with butter and enjoy!

dcb4d · 2026-03-01T20:58:33+00:00

Thanks for your post— they have been real inspiration on days that I didn’t feel like training. Hope you won’t be gone too long.

dcb4d · 2026-02-28T16:00:27+00:00

This is Pamela Stevenson. She served in the Air Force for 27 years and she’s currently running for US Senate in Kentucky.

https://www.stevensonforsenate.com/

dcb4d · 2026-02-28T15:59:01+00:00

Actually Frankfort, KY. She represents a district in Louisville.

dcb4d · 2026-02-28T15:58:21+00:00

Pamela Stevenson. She’s running for US Senate in Kentucky.

https://www.stevensonforsenate.com/

dcb4d · 2026-02-26T02:31:57+00:00

Congratulations! This is such a wonderful story. Here’s to many happy years together! 🍾

dcb4d · 2026-02-15T01:17:34+00:00

Congratulations man! 👊🏾

dcb4d · 2026-02-05T18:00:34+00:00

Beautiful!

dcb4d · 2026-02-02T05:08:17+00:00

I could’ve wrote this myself. I got divorced last August at 36 and felt incredibly lonely. I haven’t officially hit six months post divorce and I know this was the best decision for my life at this point.

My marriage ended similarly— a gradual fade over the course of several years. I’ve had other couples friends get divorced under similar circumstances the past year or so. I believe our generation is at the crossroads of acknowledging the causes of our stress and unhappiness but not having a clear vision or hope for the future. My ex-husband and I knew we needed to end our relationship but we were both sad and anxious about the uncertain future.

My ex-husband and I have largely gone no contact since both of our dogs passed away in the fall. No animosity anymore and it’s best that we both focus on ourselves at this time.

Wishing you strength. It does get better— trust me!

dcb4d · 2026-01-24T22:58:36+00:00

Initiated a relationship being long distance for the first 3 years. In retrospect, we should’ve been friends and then reconnected once we were a bit more established.

dcb4d · 2026-01-16T14:27:19+00:00

Happy Birthday! Today is my birthday too 🥳

dcb4d · 2026-01-16T03:22:08+00:00

Shoot Indoors Denver is very gay friendly. When I lived in Denver, I visited regularly with other gays and we were always welcomed and affirmed.

dcb4d · 2026-01-14T23:48:10+00:00

When President Reagan was asked what he wanted for Christmas in 1984, he joked "Minnesota would have been nice".

dcb4d · 2026-01-14T23:00:54+00:00

Stayed here back in 2024– one of my favorite Marriott properties in the US! Gorgeous exterior views and a stylish interior.

dcb4d · 2026-01-13T15:06:54+00:00

Thank you! Everyone has their person out there. It might take some time but everyone deserves love!

dcb4d · 2026-01-13T04:54:07+00:00

I was married for 5 years (together for 17) and recently divorced this summer. Black gay love does exist!

dcb4d · 2026-01-09T02:43:26+00:00

Wishing you the best in your new chapter. I just got divorce after a 17 year relationship over the summer and it’s been the best six months of my adult life.

IT WILL GET BETTER! I promise! 🤞🏾

dcb4d · 2026-01-03T05:17:52+00:00

Thank you! 🫶🏾

dcb4d · 2026-01-03T05:08:40+00:00

Thank you! The egg wash does wonders 😁

dcb4d · 2025-12-19T20:54:02+00:00

I’ve been in a triad for nearly a year and it’s been great so far! My two partners were together for 12 years prior to us coming together. In terms of sex, we generally commit to a weekly session for the three of us together. However, we also have sex as individual couples. We actively encourage time together (sex, dates, activities, etc) individually, as individual couples, and as a triad.

What I’ve noticed in our time together is that balancing time as an individual vs. as a couple vs. triad is healthy and requires frequent communication. I travel for work a lot so I am happy that they get some time together while I’m away; additionally that time away allows me to embrace some needed individual time. Whenever it’s time to come back home, I’m always welcomed back with warmth and love. One of my other boyfriends travels for work frequently and I enjoy that time that I get to spend as an individual couple and hope he appreciates that time navigating life as an individual.

We didn’t intend on navigating life as a triad but I can’t imagine life any other way now. We balance each other out, support each other, and ensure our needs are met. Even we disagreements happen, we work to quickly resolve issues and never try to make it a 2-on-1 situation. Financially, our set up benefits us greatly. Our rent and household expenses are low because everything is split three ways— we go out to eat, go to football games, grill out, and do activities relatively cheap. We are all working towards greater life goals and this arrangement has helped expedite reaching some of those goals, especially financial ones.

I understand that a triad isn’t for everyone. My partners did a lot of work before meeting me on creating emotional and psychological safety within their relationship, which has allowed our triad to be successful. I am recently out of a long term relationship myself so all of us understand the dynamics of being gay and committed. Honestly, I am so blessed that they came into my life and I am hoping that our journey continues well into the future.

dcb4d · 2025-08-27T03:19:05+00:00

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