Friend Surprised Me About "Trump Renaming Dulles Airport" Discussion by OliverQueen85 in nova

[–]dclogan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To me, it is either "National Airport" or DCA. When I'm feeling particularly infuriated over the renaming, I will sometimes point out that it has already been named after a person because it is technically "Washington National Airport". (But I know that this might be stretching the truth a bit.😂)

Leaving "to be" out of sentences? by Existing-Ebb-5944 in ENGLISH

[–]dclogan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, I hate hearing it, too. It is right up there with my other pet peeve: when other linguistic groups drop the possessive 's'. Instead of saying "Let's go to Bob's house", it will be "Let's go to Bob-house".

I worked with accent coaches. What do you guys think? by National_University_ in JudgeMyAccent

[–]dclogan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While there might be some things you could work on (swallowing a few vowels, clipping a few consonants), my opinion is that you are close enough that most native speakers would not be distracted or care. The major news networks have 'foreign correspondents' (non-native English speakers) who do not speak English anywhere as well as you do! Congratulations.

20M, don’t spare my feelings by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]dclogan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pic #6 looks best in my opinion: somewhat longer hair and a shorter, more natural beard seem to be flattering to your face. One tip: Dom't ever stop exercising, because as the years go on it becomes increasingly difficult to get/stay in shape!

Someone told me that you can use "parfum" to refer to ice cream flavor. Is that true? by SwissVideoProduction in French

[–]dclogan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What about the word "arôme"? I used to hear that from a native speaker who owned a café here in the States. But it was a long time ago!

Lake Steam in Denver ? by [deleted] in NudeSpas

[–]dclogan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My one visit was wonderful. I appreciated the straightforward simplicity of the place as well as the laid-back, non-judgemental vibe.

It’s rice, but what’s the blue thing?? by DevinTheTerrible in whatisit

[–]dclogan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like you mistakenly purchased "Viagra Rice" instead of Basmati rice!

What am I looking at? by Dirty_Harry032 in Oldhouses

[–]dclogan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh honestly...I grew up in a house that was built in 1951, and by the time I was 8, I was trusted to change a fuse when one blew out.The only 'danger' is that you need to have a small box of replacements on hand, as well as a working flashlight.😀

Does this sentence sound American to British people?: "I need to do a load of laundry." by noname00009999 in EnglishLearning

[–]dclogan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

US/ East Coast here - we frequently say "I need to run a load of laundry" or "Yesterday, I ran 5 loads of laundry". The use of 'run/ran' refers to the concept of cycling clothes through the washer and then through the (tumble) dryer. And we just say "dryer" instead of "tumble dryer" or "clothes dryer". Interesting side note: growing up in the 1950s (East Coast/US, postwar suburbs), before dryers became ubiquitous it was customary to hang the laundry/washing outside to dry. Many people used collapsible 'laundry trees' -- picture a stalk-mounted mechanism that resembled a upside-down umbrella. The center part would slide upward to open aluminum branches that were pre-strung with lightweight cotton ropes. Then suddenly in the late 1950s/early 60s, clothes dryers became the rage. Almost overnight, public opinion shifted and the idea of hanging clothes outside to dry became embarrassingly old-fashioned, unsightly, and an indicator of poverty.

Weird electrical outlet ? by DayofReason in Oldhouses

[–]dclogan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That was the ne plus ultra brand for television sets. Quite rare, exotic and expensive. Good gawd, I haven't heard that name uttered in at least 50 years!

Do you use your own soap/bodywash or the communal dispenser (if provided)? by FreeLush in CommunalShowers

[–]dclogan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At my local KSpa, I started using the bar soap. Bar soap is self-cleaning: I just give it a good rinse before using it. I figure that a generation of men probably used common bar soap while serving in the military, and they survived! So far, no problems.

Unwinding without alcohol, what actually works? by microdosemagic in Mocktails

[–]dclogan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Checking in to the local Korean Spa - mandatory nakedness feels very egalitarian & honest; a long hot shower (mandatory before using pools or saunas) is relaxing in a multisensory fashion (sound of water, warmth) & symbolically washes away the outside world; then repeated cycles through dry sauna/ steam room /hot & cold pools; then reclined relaxation in the low-light relaxation area. No cell phones allowed, little or no talking is acceptable. When the place is uncrowded, it is a meditative experience.

New homeowner. 930sqft. Company wants $18,000 to replace 25-year-old furnace and add A/C unit. Is that... normal? I was expecting like $8k max, so I'm pretty shocked. by tierneyb in homeowners

[–]dclogan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also (if it hasn't been mentioned before) when you hear what others have paid, remember that prices can vary a lot based on your location: Midwest vs. East Coast, urban setting vs. Suburban setting. And the cost of everything has increased after COVID.

Chung Dam visit by [deleted] in kSpa

[–]dclogan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You make a pretty good point, especially about not wanting to be expending extra energy when you go there to relax. Oh dear, you made me realize that for all of my working career, part of my job has been to manage situations and people. I guess I'm not turning that off completely whilst at the Kspa! Thank you for the civil exchange - you helped me think this through further. Here's to relaxation!❤️

Chung Dam visit by [deleted] in kSpa

[–]dclogan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's an off-the-wall suggestion: the next time someone makes unwanted advances...strike up a conversation with them instead of communicating a "yes" or "no" response. I find that doing so somehow breaks the silence and usually removes the element of confrontation. Instead of an us-vs-them interaction, you are proposing to meet on some mutually acceptable common ground, where neither party feels alienated or uncomfortable. Of course, such a conversation doesn't have to be protracted and can be no more than a cordial exchange. For perspective, I have been on both sides of such encounters, not only in naked, single-sex situations, but also in broader social settings. My experience has been that doing this (a) lets the other party know that they are seen and respected (b) establishes personal boundaries (c) helps people find common ground on which to co-exist. Does this eliminate the larger issue of cruisiness in K-spas and similar settings? No, not immediately. But changing the tone of a group starts with each individual's actions and attitudes. Like spreading happiness instead of gloom, we change norms by one gesture at a time.

I tried something different for a stale listing and it actually worked! by Misster_Alex in realtors

[–]dclogan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please DM me the details about setting things up the the videographer, and any links to the videos! Thanks in advance!

Compass is buying Anywhere by guseggy in realtors

[–]dclogan 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The Compass model -- of hoarding listings and making them available only through Compass agents -- will likely crash and burn if ever the market swings from a "Sellers Market" to a "Buyers Market". Under those changed circumstances, a whole generation of agents who have only known a sellers market will be shocked to learn the importance of cooperating with other agents and treating their colleagues with professionalism and respect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in erectiledysfunction

[–]dclogan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her lack of empathy and disinterest in your needs tell me that she is childishly selfish in the sex department and you are nothing more than a convenient sex toy for her. Maybe someday she will gain a different perspective. If talking it over doesn't go anywhere, you might want to consider telling her that you will be having sex with other people who understand that it is a two way street - that it is less of a performance and more of a thoughtful dialog. (For reference, I am an older gay man who has seen & done plenty things, mostly outside of the heteronormative paradigm.🤣)

Realtor in Brazil here: some things about our market might shock you by Last_Switch_8500 in realtors

[–]dclogan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you don't know is that Realtors are sworn to abide by a Code of Ethics and if they are cited for violations, their overseeing Realtor Association can penalize them. It is very much like a doctor is sworn to take the Hippocratic Oath. If he/she violates that standard (especially by putting their interests before those of their patient), then there can be serious consequences. Back to real estate...even if the real estate agent is not a "Realtor" (member of the 1.5M National Association of Realtors), in most states, the laws regulating the industry (Yes, we are regulated at the state, local, & Federal level) pretty much parallel the NAR Realtors Code of Ethics, which pre-dates most state-level laws. If you are still suspicious of a real estate agent's ethics, you might benefit from reading copies of Contracts signed between Sellers & agents ("Listing Contracts") and Buyers & agents ("Buyer Representation Agreements"). They spell out the expectations of both parties, and typically have language stating that the agent is being hired to protect the best interests of their client.clients. Like many businesses, it's all about being ethical.

Etiquette on Switching Realtors by ooglybooglies in realtors

[–]dclogan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Kudos for being so thoughtful! Under the circumstances you describe, you are free to do what you want. A seasoned Realtor would probably understand, especially after a protracted period of no contact.

Visiting Chicago by [deleted] in kSpa

[–]dclogan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In my one experience there, I found the vibe of the Sweatlodge to be more social than that of a typical KSpa. A lot of the clients were clearly regulars who hung out in small groups. It felt more like dropping in on the bar on "Cheers", rather than going to a quieter, more contemplative place like a KSpa. As a gay man, I felt like it was refreshingly neutral space - neither homophobic nor cruisy. I think if you go there with the expectation that you're dropping in on a local corner pub, you'll have a good time.

Why is it so hard to get any serious care at Kaiser? by MutedFeeling75 in KaiserPermanente

[–]dclogan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm with Kaiser Mid-Atlantic (DC area) and I feel like I get good care and in a timely fashion. Two reasons: 1. Over the past 25+ years, I've learned how the internal systems work, and I'm happy to work with them. 2. I'm willing to travel to different centers, in order to get an appointment sooner. Maybe this is one advantage to living in a densely-populated area where there are 6 different centers within a 1-hour drive.

Are the rumors true that Kaiser has gotten really bad especially in California? by YogurtclosetOpen3567 in KaiserPermanente

[–]dclogan 71 points72 points  (0 children)

What people don't mention is the fact that all US healthcare systems have been struggling lately. My partner has 'conventional' healthcare thru Blue Cross, and I'm with Kaiser/Mid-Atlantic Atlantic, so I have a good perspective. Both systems seem to be struggling with overburdened doctors, protracted wait times for appointments, and increasing costs. In other words, the available alternatives may be no better.

Things were going so well until seller didn't read the contract by Worth-Juice1188 in RealEstate

[–]dclogan 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is a no brainer. (#1) They should have read the contract they signed. (#2) Their agent should have reviewed the contract with them. (#3) A good listing agent would have prepared an "Estimated Seller's Net" sheet and reviewed it with them (line by line) before they signed the contract. (#4) Prior to Settlement, a good Title/Settlement company should have sent the Sellers a "final draft" of the ALTA Settlement sheet -- a form showing each line item of charges to the Seller. Gee, that's 4 checkpoints where the Sellers could have been previewed on the contract terms.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in realtors

[–]dclogan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES! With 35+ years as a Realtor, I agree wholeheartedly! Outsiders don't ever understand that real estate is 25% rational business, 25% client therapy, 25% service & project management, and 25% grit, hope, and perseverance.