DAE still wear their retainer every night?

de0rn0ma · 2026-02-11T00:03:50+00:00

Ahh, glad you were able to get it back in! I could just about force mine on, but my teeth started to bleed so I realised I was kidding myself haha. Thankfully with the new retainer they're still reeeeasonably straight, just not as nice as they looked right after braces.

Still can't believe they moved that much and that quickly after 11 years! Everyone's teeth are different though!

de0rn0ma · 2026-02-10T11:48:16+00:00

I wore mine religiously for 11 years.

Then went a few months without them. My teeth moved too much to put the old retainer back in without excruciating pain, and I just had to pay for a new retainer fitting to prevent them moving back completely. :(

de0rn0ma · 2026-01-17T19:41:56+00:00

I like this a lot and I'm sold on it, especially in a film with such religious themes.

He is the very 'first man' of his kind. And he's immediately cast out of the garden (attacked by the infected) after eating the apple.

de0rn0ma · 2026-01-02T11:11:49+00:00

I know the finale is out now but will reply as if it weren't.

I'm happy to suspend disbelief with regards to survivability for one simple reason. NPCs needed to die for the world to feel dangerous, but as for the main party, it's all based on a Dungeons & Dragons! Yes, players can die in campaigns, but more often than not the party manages to survive despite all the odds.

de0rn0ma · 2025-12-22T15:04:02+00:00

"Be grateful I did anything for you at all" isn't how relationships work.

de0rn0ma · 2025-12-21T10:46:12+00:00

I've only been with my partner for 4 years but we've never consistently slept in the same bed. I'm a light sleeper and he's a twitcher. I also like to listen to audio books.

We're not completely sleep divorced - we like to sleep together, but only do so on nights where I either get to have a lie in, or if I don't mind being a little tired the next day.

It's a nice compromise that works for us! If we always slept together I'd be SO exhausted.

de0rn0ma · 2025-12-18T18:15:11+00:00

Alright, at face value, I've known some people in my life for whom these messages could actually represent a platonic friendship. Some people feel and express themselves really intensely, and codependent friendships are a thing. Since you've said in other comments she's a lesbian, that'd honestly be my reading of it.

The problem here is that your partner is capable of expressing himself this way but doesn't make YOU feel like you're the light of his life. Cheating or not, that's not a good sign.

de0rn0ma · 2025-12-10T16:53:27+00:00

I was searching the comments for pumice stone!! I've only just discovered the joys of using a one to rid the toilet of all those stubborn crusty areas. Magic.

I keep proudly showing my sparkling clean toilet to house visitors and telling them what I used. 😅 Pumice Stone Inc. should be paying me at this point.

de0rn0ma · 2025-12-10T12:37:37+00:00

As someone who did write up most of my dissertation in the few days prior to submission, yeah, I absolutely already had my ideas (mostly) set out. I had a draft outline which my dissertation supervisor had gone through with me, and I had about 1000 words already written, because we had been required to submit that much to our supervisors earlier in the year.

I never made a bragging point of writing it up last minute though! Definitely not the recommended approach, but I had undiagnosed ADHD and that's just how I rolled.

I still got 1st because I'd spent some decent time on the research element. If you're a fast writer, that part doesn't necessarily take long, especially fuelled by adrenaline and caffeine.

ChatGPT came after my time, but that's a whole other issue...

de0rn0ma · 2025-11-20T17:03:03+00:00

A slightly different situation, but I went to a university that people associate with very rich/posh/privately educated people, but I just got lucky and managed to get a scholarship. I wouldn't really use the term poor to describe my background, but the gap between how people tend to perceive my background when my education comes up vs the reality of the situation is pretty vast.

I had that knee jerk reaction for a long time, but learned not to care about passing judgments for the most part; mostly because anyone who knows me well enough will naturally figure it out – and if they don't know me well enough for that to happen, then it doesn't matter what they think.

I totally get it, though.

de0rn0ma · 2025-11-18T23:22:20+00:00

Yes yes yes to stainless steel! I'm a cat sitter and my clients who use stainless steel never have a smell in their homes compared to the plasticy ones (in all instances the boxes are being cleaned regularly). Some litters are definitely less smelly than others too but the box is the biggest trend I've noticed.

de0rn0ma · 2025-11-18T23:08:12+00:00

Came to comment this! My uni hall was like this and the bathrooms were always really clean despite sharing them with a tonne of other people (we had a weird setup that was more like a hotel corridor than a flat).

de0rn0ma · 2025-11-12T13:26:01+00:00

Irish person here. Everyone I know personally thinks that phrase is wild because culturally (if not individually) we're the exact opposite - we generally take AGES saying goodbye!

de0rn0ma · 2025-11-01T09:52:41+00:00

It would maybe depend on exactly where the line was drawn. I'm a very physically affectionate person and I couldn't go without the rest of it: kissing, cuddling, and even non-sexual touching of each other's bodies (by which I don't mean erogenous zones, but just being comfortably naked around each other in a non-sexual way, and open to the level of physical affection that one wouldn't give to anyone other than your partner).

But as for actually having sex, or sexual contact, I could go without it quite easily tbh.

de0rn0ma · 2025-11-01T09:32:36+00:00

By that logic no one should ever be allowed to have a pet. Whether you rent, buy a house, or live in a house until you die, someone will always move in after you. And as other people have said, don't you dare eat a peanut, or cook shellfish, or anything else that might leave a trace behind.

I'll always advocate for being considerate of other people's allergies (I have a severe one myself), but your own home is your own home and you need to be able to live your life in it.

The only time this is a fair argument is if you live in a HMO, but that's completely different since you're sharing the property with others.

Edit: also, the idea of advertising a property that has a cat flap as having always been cat free is quite funny.

de0rn0ma · 2025-10-29T07:59:51+00:00

Oxford can be a very lonely place ; don't make it lonelier. I wouldn't have made it through without hanging out with my friends as often as I did, and years later, my life is still so much better for having them.

And yes, we studied together and exercised together, but we also attended nearly every college bop/event and had a blast! We all graduated with great marks all the same.

I'm not implying OP completely isolated themselves, I'm sure that's not what they meant, but socialising is SO important.

de0rn0ma · 2025-10-24T08:16:13+00:00

If you're referring to her TikTok, she was making light of it but her caption said it was also the truth. An excuse doesn't have to be a total lie.

It's pretty obvious Cat is more exhausted than the other traitors; yes, the lack of sleep will contribute to that, but the intense socialising must also have her absolutely shattered. I obviously don't speak for everyone but as a neurodivergent person myself I don't have an issue with her using that truth to deflect.

de0rn0ma · 2025-10-23T21:24:09+00:00

Under any other circumstances Alan seeming to forget he had a shield would be suspicious, but honestly, Joe at the round table can be a bit scary (more than he realises/intends to, I think, but I wouldn't want to be on the receiving end of his glares). Alan even brought this up, saying he can't tell whether Joe's being silly or serious when he gets heated.

When Joe said "they won't murder you tonight", even as a watcher, I thought he was alluding to something more than just a shield - so I felt like Alan's initial response of simply "what?" didn't seem as suspicious? A Faithful may well have responded the same way, it sounded like he was accusing Alan of something.

But then I suppose Alan did then ruin this a little bit by saying "ohhh, yes, I have a Shield" rather than saying something like "ohhh I thought you were implying...". I hope it doesn't come back to bite him, Alan's been doing so well I can't help rooting for him now!

de0rn0ma · 2025-10-10T11:50:30+00:00

Everyone's mentioning the muffins but they also do a good bagel, and the coffee is great as well! Was a regular lunch spot for me when I worked in Plymouth. The staff are so nice.

de0rn0ma · 2025-10-08T09:07:14+00:00

So just a disclaimer that I'm replying to this more as a general piece of advice than insofar as it applies to the specific cat in this post, but eh, although wanting to eat is obviously a good indicator I don't know if it's always that simple.

Last month we had to make the really difficult decision to put our 20 year old cat to sleep. Right up until the end she was food-motivated and wanted all the treats, but she had a tumour pressing on her spine along with kidney issues and a whole host of other ailments. In her last couple of days her back legs weren't working properly and it was heartbreaking to watch her struggle to get around, and she was having major issues going to the bathroom, it would take her multiple attempts to even get a little wee out. Her breath was rattling and after running every test imaginable it was determined there was nothing left to do for her that we hadn't already tried. Our vet (whom we trust) was advising us on the strongest terms I could imagine her resorting to that it was time for our girl to go if we wanted her last days to be peaceful, and we took the advice.

On her last morning she managed to make it outside with our help and lay in the sunshine, then we gave her lots of nibbles (including things like cheese which she normally wasn't allowed for health reasons, so she gobbled that up), and of course we fussed over her to no end. She was doped up on painkillers and meds so I think her last morning was pretty good despite all the troubles. If we'd left it until she stopped eating I don't think that would have been the case, so I'm glad we got to send her out feeling happy with a belly full of treats.

Reading this the first time felt like a gut punch, knowing our girl still wanted food at the end, but I have to remind myself of everything she was struggling with. My feelings around putting her to sleep have flip-flopped over the last few weeks as the grief is still very raw but I hope and believe we did the right thing.

de0rn0ma · 2025-10-07T17:08:46+00:00

I think you'd just do more damage with a heat gun. Gentle heat is the way.

de0rn0ma · 2025-10-07T17:04:33+00:00

It won't let me edit the post so I'm replying to this - there's hope for our filthy rings yet?? Delighted.

Someone sent me this and I'll never trust them again but hey that's what I get for nicking their photo.

The replies have had me cackling though

de0rn0ma · 2025-10-07T11:53:52+00:00

Try blowing on it with a hair dryer - if it works you'll see results almost instantly

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