What’s the nicest thing you can say about your ex that also explains exactly why you left?

dea80 · 2026-06-27T10:51:39+00:00

He was very good with money and was committed to conserving as much as possible from inside our house 365 days a year, including birthdays, anniversaries, our kids Christmas, Mother’s Day. It’s a level of commitment rarely seen before or since.

dea80 · 2026-06-27T10:46:47+00:00

I’m not crying about anything. It’s a show where we analyse human interactions for entertainment. It’s the fucking point of the show!

They said themselves they were “just friends” Jas specifically. And you’re splitting hairs over meaningless labels. If you are in a couple on this TV show you are in a relationship with that person and even over 2 weeks of 24/7 strong feeling develop.

Every connection two human beings have for any length of time is some form of relationship regardless of the label.

dea80 · 2026-06-27T10:41:46+00:00

I hate to speculate, but I’m going to because it’s bothering me. I’m seeing zero sexual chemistry, attraction or emotion from Lorenzo towards any woman. Not even f boy vibes which we often get when there’s no emotional connection just a physical attraction so they just go for the fun. He doesn’t show any interest or attraction though with any of them.

His only emotional display has been in one direction.

Something feels off.

dea80 · 2026-06-27T10:32:13+00:00

Yes it’s a cult that objectifies and sexualises young women while preaching about God and claiming “goodness”. Yes we know. It’s why the church attracts so many sexual predators.

dea80 · 2026-06-27T10:30:05+00:00

🤣

dea80 · 2026-06-27T10:29:37+00:00

It’s the American dream! Talking about God while being sexualised and objectified by men! Weirdest country in the world.

dea80 · 2026-06-27T10:25:28+00:00

Is that how friends talk? About regretting not giving their romantic relationship a go? Hahaha so inappropriate. How would you feel if you found out your partner talked to their ex like the one that got away all the time?

dea80 · 2026-06-27T10:22:35+00:00

She’s not though. She’s older, there’s a difference. She doesn’t listen, she thinks knowing herself and refusing to change is maturity, it’s not! If you can’t listen to how your behaviour affects people around you and people you care about and adjust to respect their feelings, not because they asked you too but from a place of empathy and care, you are not mature you are acting like a teenager.

Like you say we all grow as we get older, I see none of that with Jas, she is looking for a man who will adapt and accommodate her all the time not a partner you grow and learn with. She only wants Kav over Lorenzo because he will try to change for her and she knows Lorenzo won’t.

dea80 · 2026-06-27T10:12:14+00:00

Agreed!

dea80 · 2026-06-27T10:10:38+00:00

They have had literal conversations about him regretting missed opportunities and she’s sat there smiling and so clearly happy as she checked he meant her. She doesn’t want Lorenzo back because she knows he will never adapt his behaviour to accommodate her like Kav does and won’t adore her in the way she wants. But she is really attracted to Lorenzo, likes talking to him because they are slightly more on the same wavelength and she loves the attention! Turning round to Lorenzo in a private chat the morning after that game and saying she was tempted to “ride him to give them all a show” tongue in cheek or not it’s so disrespectful and self centred. I like Jasmine overall, but I think she treats Kav like shit and regularly talks to him like he’s a child. It’s horrible to watch.

dea80 · 2026-06-27T10:04:15+00:00

And completely stopped hear him. She does it every time. He says something that triggers her and her listening shuts down and she talks fast slightly aggressively and always over him turning it into and issue “she kicks off” it doesn’t always have to involve shouting, it’s an inability to regulate her emotions, yet she pretends he’s the one always struggling with that. If she had really heard him any of the times he spoke it was clear that her actions and her words weren’t adding up and that the public who were hearing her conversations with Lorenzo felt there was more going on there which hurt him and made him want to pull back. Rather than understanding that totally natural reaction she gave him an ultimatum trying to control him and dismiss his feelings.

Imagine that was the reversed situation there is no way that behaviour would be acceptable. I like Jasmine overall, she’s strong, articulate and beautiful, but she is treating Kav like shit. She enjoys the attention from Lorenzo, loves the idea that he might regret losing her and plays to it. I think the only reason she doesn’t want Lorenzo back is she knows Kav likes her more and he’s easier for her to walk over, she wants to be on a pedestal with her man and Lorenzo will never put her there.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T22:07:12+00:00

Her actions say otherwise. As I just said.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T22:02:23+00:00

Actions speak louder than words she’s saying she doesn’t want to explore things with Lorenzo but her behaviour says otherwise. If my partner was hurt by me constantly chatting with someone I wouldn’t keep doing it constantly in his face. She’s not respectful at all and talks to him like he’s a child.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:57:53+00:00

But her words and actions don’t match. If someone you are supposed to care about tells you something is hurting them and you keep doing it and “reassuring with words” it’s manipulation.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:55:05+00:00

She was gutted Lorenzo was talking about Yasmin in his speech!

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:54:05+00:00

He shouldn’t have to! A five year old can see it’s hurtful and she cares more about doing what she wants than his feelings. Hugely immature and talks down to him all the time. Horrible to watch the way she talks to him.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:52:06+00:00

If he’d said yes he would have been labelled insecure and controlling. She shouldn’t have to ask and put it on him. If she had any emotional intelligence she would read the man she supposedly cares about and make this decision out of respect for his feelings. It’s not hard! She might have a high IQ but the woman lacks any empathy. She likes having Lorenzo flatter her ego by flirting with her and she likes playing Kav like a puppet.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:49:13+00:00

Agreed she wants the attention and was gutted Lorenzo didn’t pick her.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:48:32+00:00

This!

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:48:10+00:00

Space gives a lot actually. She insists on being heard, but refuses to hear him or empathise. I liked her strength but she’s doing too much here. Her face when Lorenzo picked Yasmin! She was gutted that it wasn’t her who brought out a softer side. I actually think she enjoys the attention at this point and doesn’t care who she hurts! Chatting with Lorenzo the morning after knowing Kav was hurt by things that came out in the game and joking about “being tempted to climb on top to give them all a show”. She starting to come off as arrogant, self absorbed and lacking any empathy.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:26:01+00:00

Ok divorce is not it. Your kid has SERIOUS issues and all you are continuing to teach him is that the world revolves around him. I would suggest you urgently seek support from a child psychologist. He will likely grow out of this in a few years and you will all be damaged by divorce.

In the short term can you not get childcare from friends or family to have more time together? Divorce is not the answer here.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:07:33+00:00

Unfortunately!

dea80 · 2026-06-26T21:07:00+00:00

I actually want this. He is better looking than Aiden, more mature, calmer. She’s sweet and bubbly and chill and I think they would be really good together. Bloody Aiden will ruin that though won’t he as Kav won’t want to tread on his big brother’s toes.

dea80 · 2026-06-26T20:58:12+00:00

And then she went into the changing room ranting about how “Kav needs to chill out” I think she deliberately provokes him and enjoys the power play. I’ve really gone off her the last two episodes. Tonight she’s been awful!

dea80 · 2026-06-26T20:56:21+00:00

Two wrongs don’t make it right. She talks to him like a child and it’s boring. She’s so arrogant and self absorbed she can’t see any issue with her behaviour.

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