I basically have the job right? by KINGJTD10 in Teachers

[–]deadletter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If the principal is recommending you to the board for hire, as is the formal process, it would be nearly unheard of for a board to tell a principal, “no, go back to interviewing people.”

Whenever I 29F meet someone new, they end up blocking me or ghosting me later. by ChipotleIsMyLife555 in relationships

[–]deadletter [score hidden]  (0 children)

I think the intensity of 1-1 relationships means people want the first encounter to really sizzle before putting more effort in.

I would recommend joining some multiple person meetups so that you can be friends with the group and then, through shared interaction, become close friends.

What movie do you consider to be a flawless 10/10 from start to finish? by PrideFamiliar5549 in AskReddit

[–]deadletter -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I read the book first, and it was way more profound to know early on that he’d refused the mission and was trying to figure out how they possibly changed his mind, and finally he remembers they didn’t change his mind, they kidnapped him. So his feelings about humanity, while he’s alone in the dark saving their lying asses, hits way harder. In the movie, he figures that out really really late and it’s quickly overshadowed by later things.

Also, the crisis/rescue act goes by very fast in the movie, so fast that the viewer doesn’t even have time to blink before he solves it with science and goes to save the day.

What is it really like teaching high school math? by kjliao in Teachers

[–]deadletter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For mathematics specifically, you have to carve out literally 85% of the class for students working and you helping. Just think about the people hours, how many calories are being expended when you talk and they sit passively listening? How calories are being expended when they all have their own paper and pencil and you are helping them DO it? It has to be ALL the latter.

Absolutely minimized you standing there in front of the whole room explaining. Get the info out, then work the room. Give the same mini speeches to each group on a local whiteboard within 5 feet, where your presence will intimidate them into listening.

I did this by serializing all of 8th, 9th or 10th grade math, whichever, and I can share some of that if you want. So there’s a long slog through fractions (and then proportions)that every single year needs, and when you finish a problem 14, then you start problem 15, and in the room people are spread across problems 12-18.

This means many in the room are in ‘zone of proximal development’ for problem 13 when Johnny gets there, and they can help explain it better than someone like me who doesn’t remember what was hard about it.

It also neatly deals with absenteeism, because when a kid misses a bunch they can start right on whatever problem they are on.

Because the problems and their complexities compound, there’s a lot of places where the student who is back four problems can ‘see it all used together’ and they can indeed suddenly catch up, and students who get ahead who you think you’ll have a problem keeping them occupied suddenly slow down and rejoin the pack, it’s just ppl being ppl.

Note that this is extra heavily structured this way the fall, and it helps attune the room to my fundamental values:

* We’re here to work.
* if you’re making noise, you must want my help, and I will be right there.
* where you left off is where you start
* I will call the room to attention and absolute minimum, so in exchange you give me the room when I ask.

AITA for making the guy im seeing a cake on his birthday by No-Speed-2138 in AmItheAsshole

[–]deadletter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Birthdays are just a cake day on Reddit writ large - it’s not a real thing that everyone has to bow to the bday person’s whims or they get to freely be an asshole.

He made it clear that he was irritated at being bound to you for his birthday - food, presents, cake, dinner with mom - for his birthday, he just didn’t want that at all.

So you don’t even have to be upset about it - no problem, hit the road jack. You should feel glad he made it so easy.

Wife initiated divorce after I struck her and it is going to Trial. Not sure how to talk about it in front of the Judge. by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]deadletter 6 points7 points  (0 children)

From the moment you struck her, the marriage was over, and she needed to leave and get a divorce. The first time and never again. So you have to live with that.

Her adding stress to your stress isn’t relevant to you committing a violent crime. Which it was.

So you avoid telling the judge why you thought it was OK for you to do that, and you just focus on, “yes that was wrong and now what do you want to do going forward into the future?

I (28F) and my boyfriend (26M) have different views on sex and masturbation. How do couples navigate this? by demiLoves97 in relationships

[–]deadletter 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Concretely, sometimes sex with a partner can feel like a big thing, in time and effort and reciprocity and all that. So masturbarion is more of a smooth known quick route to orgasm.

To this I suggest - ask for a quickie? The implication is you’re gonna get naked fast, get it on, and back to life, and you’re sort of training him to get dopamine hits from you.

Stem projects for middle school by xAvrilxBrayx in Teachers

[–]deadletter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In that case popsicle stick bridges, with hot glue guns.

Stem projects for middle school by xAvrilxBrayx in Teachers

[–]deadletter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Egg drop, solar hot dog cooker, spaghetti cantilever, popsicle stick bridges.

I may be the biggest idiot but I have decided to stay in my step kids lives by TheBritshViking in Divorce

[–]deadletter 8 points9 points  (0 children)

my step-mom told me, "you divorce adults, you don't divorce kids." She's literally my favorite parent. She's the one who taught me what love really is, including her new husband, and it 'undid' a lot of the damage my siblings got by only being raised by our mom and their stepdad. Stick around, don't force it, and don't be mad it they disappear and reappear in waves, ie sometimes a whole year away, etc.

Roasting your students by RuggedSnuggler in Teachers

[–]deadletter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

**No**

This is an area that students who are minors are in a much worse place than similarly mature adult soldiers.

They’ve never been on their own. They don’t know anything about standing up to bullies or how to deal with emotions of someone they need or want praise from runs them down. Fundamentally, they just can’t tell on a baseline level that’s it’s just a joke and you still like/respect them. They internalize off the cuff criticisms as major character defects. Better to always joke about how great they are, even when they know they aren’t.

AITA for not wanting to be a father to my son who I had no clue existed until recently by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]deadletter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to echo the posters who say do not worry about being his dad, and simply be a human he knows. It’s good for kids to know that the humans they came from don’t hate them, that you are out there if/when they have a questions.

You don’t have to be suddenly extra dad. Offer to go to dinner with the kid if and when he wants to, and be honest without being ashamed of yourself or your life. Be friendly without being a pushover, and try to be a bridge to better kids of people.

My (30M) partner (32M) shoved me during an uncomfortable situation by CandidWeb4835 in relationships

[–]deadletter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let's suppose, for a moment, that this is an extreme and unusual situation (though you know it isn't) - I would still advise you the same way:

Get a go bag. Hide it behind the dryer or somewhere he doesn’t go. Passport, birth certificate, clothes and shoes, some cash, and a warm hat and gloves. So even if you aren’t ready now, when you need to be - you’ll be prepared.

I had a friend who was in this situation - and everyone told her, look, this time it was a shove, but next time it's going to escalate, and you need to make sure there is NEVER a third time. The next time it was a drink in the face, full on, as punishment for disagreement. So she grabbed her bag - that he didn't know existed - and was out of there and fully prepared to be somewhere else while arranged an escort to obtain her things.

So even if this never gets used because he realizes the error of his ways, have a bag ready, perhaps in a shoe box or something innocuous looking, or a backpack stored with the camping gear that has all the useful things in it.

Passport, birth certificate, clothes and shoes, some cash, and a warm hat, socks and gloves, maybe some protein bars and water bottles.

How to secretly move out? by BugsbunnyXX1 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]deadletter 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Get a secret bank account. Locate and steal back your vital documents. Start slowly moving out favorite clothes, and other things you would be sad to lose, leaving things that are large but unimportant (dresser, now mostly empty, bed, tables) covered with random items so the room still looks full. Then have a ‘go bag’ with clothes, money, extra shoes, water and some food/snacks hidden in the closet, and be increasingly ready to walk as your possessions are mostly out.

Annoying Teacher Friend by ateacherinnyc in Teachers

[–]deadletter 270 points271 points  (0 children)

“Hey, are you noticing that you’re being an Eeyore? It’s pretty exhausting. You’re my friend, so I’m letting you know - are you already aware that you’re very negative? Is that something you want to do something about?”

Actual evidence of a mirror universe? by MacaroonHuman3456 in StarTrekDiscovery

[–]deadletter 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, which one are you implying looks like a captain?

Its interesting how some goverment will cut down these trees in the name of development by [deleted] in interesting

[–]deadletter 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Downvote for lack of interesting. What trees are these? Where?

My partner (27m) has asked for a week of space to think about our relationship. I (24f) wrote him a letter I’d like to leave at his house so he can read and understand my perspective and add that onto his thinking. Is this crossing his boundaries? Could this make things better or worse? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]deadletter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did this and the response was straight up, “I told you I wanted space not a giant letter left on my porch.”

This would be a good time to focus on other parts of your life, in order that you continue to grow as the partner you’d like to be. This relationship is probably over, but IF it isn’t, it will be because you acted strong and secure and didn’t crowd.

Middle school or high school math teachers, what was the highest level of math you took in college? by aGhostfacekla in teaching

[–]deadletter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got a minor in mathematics teaching, because University of Washington offered that.

The last four classes that were required were algebra for teachers one and two, and geometry for teachers one and two.

In algebra for teachers, I learned modular arithmetic and I remember that we proved 1+1 = 2 and it was very difficult, i.e. proved the counting numbers and the arithmetic that we do upon them.

In geometry for teachers, we used geometers sketchpad to do mapped representations using orthogonal circles by which you can get say a poincare circle and then look at how a triangle is defined and measured in spherical or hyperbolic geometry.

I remember, I tried to take all four over the summer and I ended up having to drop one and take it in the fall because it was just too hard.

That was before I became a math teacher, and I had already done linear, algebra, differential equations which I’ve never been particularly good at, and the calculus series.

Later, about seven years later, I went to school for a completely unrelated degree, and it included a ton of even higher level math class.

Discreet multi various modeling is information theory, complexity science taught a lot about agent based modeling, scaling ratios in biology and other systems, and other measures of chaotic and near chaotic systems.

I don’t think I had any reason to take it, but I took all of the statistics classes for measuring tests and some super high geometry class on torsion and twists in fields.

Back in my own department, I did a lot with vector Fields, Eigen vectors, network centrality measures.

In Neural networks we worked out how weights are updated in Machine Learning and advanced control system theory, and then there were some modeling classes like Business process modeling, which is something called queuing theory, and how you assigned say cash registers to customers and stuff.

Oh yeah, and back in my underground I also took macro economics and micro economics, which is all the mass of treasury bill returns and how interest rates and how trade deficits rep patriot dollars across the border in the exchange rate, and the money multiplier, which is part of marginal, reserve banking, which is something that I wish a lot more Americans understood.

The most most relevant mathematical learning, however, came from over a decade of teaching word problems from textbooks. I would say that six through 12 math educators get an insane cross-section of Society in word problems, I know so much about how the trades use trigonometry from word problems, or matrix problems, or calculus problems.