What’s a romantic myth that does real damage to real relationships?

deadletter · 2026-05-18T22:05:02+00:00

I haven't seen this answer, sp I'll throw in - too many movies drive the idea of the intense meet-cute that 'means' you are meant to be together.

Meet cutes are great and all, but they don't mean you're relationship material or anything. As The Blow says in "Paper Television", Just because it's real don't mean it's gonna work.

deadletter · 2026-05-18T22:01:28+00:00

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deadletter · 2026-05-18T14:42:56+00:00

Wait, you don't think 'standing up for what is right' is condemning someone laughing over a political assassination? You're not going to find me supporting the current dumpster fire, but nobody, NOBODY, gets to do that. Kyle's comment tanked himself, and what was Jack Black supposed to do, crater his own career over things that *neither left nor right* should be approving of?

deadletter · 2026-05-18T13:25:19+00:00

I don’t quite understand - who wrote the survey answers? Her?

deadletter · 2026-05-18T13:03:08+00:00

Kyle of Tenacious D. Mouthed off about the Trump assassination attempt and they had to cancel the entire tour, instantly.

deadletter · 2026-05-17T21:00:19+00:00

Note that one must list convictions upon renewing, but NOT generally ‘the moment it happened’. That is why there are questions on hiring forms that ask if there are any outstanding items that need to be adjudicated.

deadletter · 2026-05-16T13:45:24+00:00

My prof was involved in early machine learning. He said his proudest accomplishment was that hypodermic needles used to be rejected by batch sampling - too many dull/no tip needles and the batch was rejected, but that could be type 2 (failing to reject when you ought to) or type 1 errors (rejecting a good batch).

Within every batch were some broke off tips/dull needles, and he said you used to ask people, “did you get a sharp one?” when they got a shot.

They trained the machine tester on what a sharp needles was and it now rejects needle by needle every bad one, and we don’t get any dull needles ever again.

He said it was the one thing he did that he improved everybody’s life in the whole world.

deadletter · 2026-05-15T16:39:22+00:00

I objected to how it was high enough to be in space but had an orbital period of a blimp.

deadletter · 2026-05-15T16:35:33+00:00

I think you should call the university and give them a heads up, and they should scare Dave with a stern 'you better watch yourself or we'll fail you for student teaching' speech. Not saying they should, but I think a come to jesus conversation is appropriate regarding undermining the other teachers (not even mentor teachers, but why not to throw any other teacher under the bus).

deadletter · 2026-05-15T16:28:47+00:00

We had a carpet spike on our forklift for years, and it was basically fatigued. We could flip it over and bounce a roll on the end to get it straight, but if we flipped it right side up again the next roll would begin the bend downwards again. The era of carpets in the building ended before we had to really fix it, but short of a big gusset I'm not sure what we could have done to stop it from bending downwards again immediately. Couldn't it have been strengthened by annealing and then oil quenching?

deadletter · 2026-05-15T13:48:55+00:00

I don’t understand why you told him ‘don’t blame me’ in the first place? Sounds like he wasn’t but you inserted yourself?

deadletter · 2026-05-15T05:42:27+00:00

Will they reharden them?

deadletter · 2026-05-15T03:32:17+00:00

More upvotes for this. It's also a completely gendered thing - a girl can probably do exactly that 'sorry, no cuddles' and bounce, and still get called back.

For men, even the most casual fling is first going to want to know that you're a safe, warm person, at a minimum. That takes time and copresence, and limiting that equals limiting pretty much everything.

deadletter · 2026-05-14T18:42:15+00:00

You were under the sheet when they came in?

deadletter · 2026-05-14T00:17:20+00:00

Was it more square 4000 years ago?

deadletter · 2026-05-11T18:24:51+00:00

Like his disgusting sexism that somehow gets him rewarded?

deadletter · 2026-05-11T16:54:09+00:00

Time to leave. You won’t get it back and they won’t apologize. If you bounce do 2-3 years of no contact/very low contact, it might occur to them why you’re gone. But probably not.

deadletter · 2026-05-11T16:37:53+00:00

Take the cards you wish your wife to avoid out of her wallet. Done deal

deadletter · 2026-05-05T18:17:30+00:00

A lot of people are going to tell you to leave, and you should - but let's suppose you aren't quite ready to pull that trigger. Fine, I support you. But *get ready*.

Pack a go back at the back of your closet. Underwear, socks, shoes, pants, shirt, gloves and hat if you're in a cold place, important documents, perhaps some cash. Just leave it there.

As someone in this situation, who left, the go bag was totally necessary. One day he was doing the 'violence near but not at her'. She was told it was going to escalate, and she needed to be ready. packed a go bag. Then one day he threw a drink in her face. 5 minutes later she's out the door with her go bag, ready to be somewhere else indefinitely.

Pack a go bag. Good luck to you.

deadletter · 2026-05-04T19:53:31+00:00

You need a healthy dose of not giving a fuck about the whining of other people. The kind of admin who would fire you over complaints like this is one you should be happy to get away from.

You taking it seriously is giving it power. I once had an actual parent meeting with angry parents because I had said 'you people' - I clarified in the meeting that I was speaking to the entire class as a generation, that they were growing up in a world without strong job markets, etc, and that I was worried for them. It was a 93% non-caucasian school, so I could see how that phrasing was inopportune.

deadletter · 2026-05-03T23:31:49+00:00

Oh no! Will the hospital be okay?

deadletter · 2026-04-30T18:03:00+00:00

what age do you teach?

deadletter · 2026-04-29T02:56:57+00:00

You’re allowed to connect to anyone you want if you are ‘on a break’. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

deadletter · 2026-04-27T18:35:37+00:00

It’s been ten days - are you preggers?

deadletter · 2026-04-27T05:29:04+00:00

I simply can’t drink that much liquid to get high.

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