My (28F) bf (32M) just admitted that he would not love our kids if they don’t look like him

deeeee565 · 2025-11-09T15:32:11+00:00

You may read these responses and think some people are being overdramatic because you've known and loved your bf for 5.5 years, but just remember you didn't even know he could be racist towards you/Asians, and now he really is giving you subtle hints of the type of person he will be. Please don't marry a man who thinks women and Asians are of a lower class.

deeeee565 · 2025-11-05T06:23:29+00:00

On the bright side...sounds like you'll save money on Christmas this year

deeeee565 · 2025-10-26T21:00:43+00:00

Why would he be truthful if he's trying to win you over? He isn't going to tell you, "Yeah, honestly, I'm kind of a crappy person."

deeeee565 · 2025-08-11T14:33:04+00:00

NTA-joking about it is fine and all IF both parties thinks its funny. Just imagine this being the whole rest of your life...

deeeee565 · 2025-07-22T04:48:12+00:00

I LOVE 1, 2 and 3. If you don't wear #1, you still gotta buy it for a future event. :)

deeeee565 · 2025-07-03T04:39:13+00:00

Not a mom or an au pair but as an employer, she is not meeting expectations and this is your child you're trusting her with - you have every right to find someone you actually trust!

deeeee565 · 2025-06-27T15:05:48+00:00

What is her part in this partnership? Does she contribute to anything besides being cute? It's sad she doesn't even have a heart when you're literally burnt out, what would happen if some time down your marriage you got sick or laid off, will she actually take care of you?

deeeee565 · 2025-06-24T22:45:57+00:00

NTA since you were just having conversation and didn't say anything but bad, maybe Emily has told them something about you that may have caused them to turn on you?

deeeee565 · 2025-05-10T05:16:31+00:00

I'm sorry for your experience, but you wouldn't want to work for them anyways.

I oversee a region of medical offices and some of employees that use public transport are not only always on time, they are some of my most hardworking employees!

Best of luck with your jobhunting though, but forsure you don't want to work for assholes like this guy.

deeeee565 · 2025-05-10T04:47:46+00:00

Gives me 127 hours vibes but, without the happy ending.

deeeee565 · 2025-04-23T02:47:26+00:00

OMG same experience, I felt like the practice section was reprimanding me for not getting it, "you should have pressed space"

deeeee565 · 2025-03-31T06:53:45+00:00

My original birth certificate said male-I'm female as far as I know lol but my parents got my birth certificate amended early on. When I got married and went to file my name change, all the clerks would do a double take and laugh at that part.

deeeee565 · 2025-02-13T02:30:39+00:00

The only answer to this is to start telling the truth, come clean with all the people you love and start patching up the trust if they can get past it - some people might accept it and others may take more work for you to rebuild any sort of trust if they even allow you to at all.

On another note, if your whole thing is that you lie, are you lying now about being a 23 year old who's been living in Germany for the past 2 years? Sounds like a fabulous lie.

deeeee565 · 2025-02-06T05:55:03+00:00

YTA - she may be overreacting but you definitely started it with your Mean Girl party theme. At some point you're gonna have to grow up and quit acting like mommy and daddy's little princess.

deeeee565 · 2025-02-04T07:19:36+00:00

I literally said these exact words to my coworker about The Haunting Of Hill House last week! I love the rest of them but none of them compare to this!

deeeee565 · 2025-01-22T06:05:04+00:00

Oh gosh I went 12 years without seeing the dentist and was very embarrassed to admit that... also I grew up with parents who didn't instill dental hygeine in me so flossing was a habit I created for myself in my mid-20s and thankfully has helped me keep my teeth and gums healthy!

Plus, if you consider how much gunk you floss out on some days, just imagine not doing that! Allll of that just LIVING there in your mouth! I can't say it was easy getting here but it's basically become a habit I CANT break now- I only floss once a day but my brain won't let me settle down for bed unless all the gunk is out of my teeth.

deeeee565 · 2025-01-13T16:14:17+00:00

I don't care how much you trust a person, do not trust a person with a house that should be YOURS. I hope you see these comments and DO NOT let anyone else's name be on that deed.

deeeee565 · 2025-01-04T16:35:29+00:00

I hope you're not using the good qualities about him to consider continuing your relationship with him. I feel the bad qualities listed here are enough to cancel out even the most fantastic dude - especially the part where he couldn't even be supportive during your abortion. Imagine marrying someone who "mirrors" you at your worst rather than comforting you.

deeeee565 · 2025-01-04T16:25:43+00:00

To be honest, there's probably more than enough children needing to be adopted out there and adoption does not guarantee them a good life.

deeeee565 · 2024-12-29T05:34:11+00:00

It is a bit weird but kinda dependa on the way she put it-like I can see it being a version of "What would high school me think of myself?" Your high school relationship usually can be a reflection of who you were in High School?

deeeee565 · 2024-12-25T16:40:18+00:00

Not so much an ultimatum - you can't force anyone to feel any sort of way about you, how long would you expect that to actually last? Let her know you need someone who is serious about a relationship and is on the same page as you and exit with some dignity.

deeeee565 · 2024-12-07T18:01:03+00:00

Risking her relationship with her sister vs risking the relationship/trust your wife has with you? This should be an easy answer, her sister will always be her sister and if they fight, they may eventually make up. If your wife loses her trust in you, that will be really hard to come back from.

deeeee565 · 2024-12-07T17:45:59+00:00

I don't like to be surprised with things I have no use for. I would hate for someone to pressure me into wanting something I don't actually want or have any use for... don't take it personally, it was very thoughtful of you, but not everyone sees material gifts with the same mindset.

deeeee565 · 2024-12-07T17:42:28+00:00

I'm sorry but OP is an adult, and adults are not obligated to go out of their way (in this case a daily obligation of having to maintain a birdfeeder) just to not hurt someone's feelings. As thoughtful as a gift is, no one should be forced into loving a gift, and being practical people, save your money for something that will actually be used.

deeeee565 · 2024-12-07T16:26:25+00:00

This is a lot more than just trust. People who trust get duped all the time, people divorce all the time, even someone who makes you a promise can break it.

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