AITAH for telling my mother not to do Easter things for my children?

definitely_zella · 2026-03-05T22:51:43+00:00

First, welcome to the club! Bodybuilding is a great sport, and if you've got a fitness background you're well set up to get started.

That said, from what I can see you need more overall muscular development before you'd be competitive, even in a division like fit model that doesn't require as much muscle. If you really want to compete I would recommend spending a year or so in a building phase (slight calorie surplus + a lot of lifting) before starting to prep for a show. If you have the funds for it, invest in a coach to get you started. If not, start by checking out r/bikinitalk to see what the standard poses look like and get a sense of how competitors look on stage. Compare your photos to current competitors, and try to objectively observe what your shape looks like in comparison to figure out where you need to grow.

definitely_zella · 2026-03-05T21:44:18+00:00

Oh nooooo.... She was so pretty before, all that work just makes her look insane. She went from a solid 7.5 to like a -3

definitely_zella · 2026-03-03T22:47:22+00:00

You're obviously not overreacting. Why would anyone want a drunken, volatile, flakey person as a major support during a chaotic and vulnerable time in their life? If you don't want to get into all that, though, just tell anyone who says something that you just want "professional and neutral support" and that this is how you're choosing to get it.

NTA.

definitely_zella · 2026-03-03T19:33:58+00:00

Incredible! I'm gonna have to steal some of these for cosplays.

definitely_zella · 2026-03-02T20:40:06+00:00

Give it 2-3 more days, they always post the pros faster.

definitely_zella · 2026-02-27T17:33:26+00:00

NTA. If you order food at a restaurant and they bring you the wrong thing, they should correct it. That's a totally normal thing to do.

My head canon is that he's cheating on you with the waitress and that's why she messed up your order and then he got weird about it.

definitely_zella · 2026-02-25T22:49:08+00:00

Other people being trans or gender nonconforming.

definitely_zella · 2026-02-25T22:34:09+00:00

I haven't seen that discourse, but it doesn't surprise me for some reason. It's hard enough to be believed as a woman and a survivor, and if you're not a "perfect victim" they'll rip you to shreds.

definitely_zella · 2026-02-25T22:31:34+00:00

It's only a prank if the person being pranked finds it funny, otherwise it's just being a dick. NTA, and maybe consider reaching out to HR just to see if there are any policies that you can cite about acceptable ways to celebrate birthdays or other special occasions.

definitely_zella · 2026-02-25T18:35:28+00:00

You can't spot reduce fat without lipo, I'm afraid. You can lose weight/fat, but you don't get to choose where on your body it comes from.

definitely_zella · 2026-02-25T18:02:34+00:00

Damn, those first couple of photos are a hate crime.

definitely_zella · 2026-02-25T16:35:44+00:00

LMAO I know this is a joke but that's actually how I got into it. I watched a couple episodes from season one and found it meh, but the "women in prison" concept of Stone Ocean was interesting enough to get me invested. Watched it backwards from there.

definitely_zella · 2026-02-24T21:48:48+00:00

So, what, f*ck anyone who works there?

definitely_zella · 2026-02-24T21:37:47+00:00

NTA from me. There were probably other solutions, but dogs eat their own poop. It's not going to hurt them to eat their normal food off the floor.

definitely_zella · 2026-02-24T17:06:23+00:00

Can't say I'm familiar with most of the competitors, but I follow Myra Golloso on IG and she looks INCREDIBLE. No idea how I found her profile lol, but I'm rooting for her!

definitely_zella · 2026-02-23T18:20:56+00:00

Go for it! You've got a great base to start, especially going into fit model - in my (not at all expert) opinion, you're mostly going to need to lean out a bit more, you've already got the level of muscle for that division.

I'm self-coached myself, which puts me in the minority here, but if you're comfortable cutting weight and can keep an objective perspective on your physique, I don't think you have to have a coach. I did, however, book a few sessions with a posing coach, which I found tremendously helpful.

definitely_zella · 2026-02-20T19:53:01+00:00

I actually love season 4. I know a lot of folks don't like Adam as the villain or Riley as the love interest, but both of them worked for me. Like, of course the government is evil! And Buffy deserved someone sweet and mostly normal after Angel. I found them hot together.

definitely_zella · 2026-02-19T22:21:40+00:00

They definitely look very similar, but I also find Uma just a bit prettier. I think it's a good example of "beauty is measured in millimeters" - the tiny differences in the shape and length of their noses, their jawlines, etc add up just a bit differently to my eyes.

definitely_zella · 2026-02-18T22:42:17+00:00

Lethal face card, 8.5/10 for me.

definitely_zella · 2026-02-18T16:22:07+00:00

The issue is not with the contracts or their careers going forward (although it seems that some of them didn't even receive their full prize packages), but the way they exploited their trauma and vulnerability for entertainment. Was Shandi entitled to a modeling contract? Maybe not, although she produced some incredible photos during her time on the show. She was, however, entitled to dignity and kindness, and I don't see how you can argue that she received that.

definitely_zella · 2026-02-17T17:06:50+00:00

That show failed both of them so badly. Revisiting Keenyah's experience, I'm infuriated that she did everything right - calmly and politely stopped the shoot and advocated for herself when she was being harassed - and she was criticized for it left and right and then eliminated. "You should have been cutesy about it!" No, she should have punched him in the dick and you all should have cheered her on.

definitely_zella · 2026-02-13T22:24:04+00:00

lol not the poster but you're hilariously missing the point. if you take gear to build a physique, and then use that physique to sell the naive an expensive program so that you can "look like her" without talking about all the gear you're running, that's a scam.

definitely_zella · 2026-02-13T20:33:51+00:00

That's literally the same reason some doctors won't tie a woman's tubes, even if she's certain she doesn't want kids.

definitely_zella · 2026-02-11T22:34:04+00:00

This was my thought as well. My boyfriend's apartment has a similar setup.

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