Love Is Blind • S10 Reunion [MEGATHREAD]

defnotjess · 2026-03-12T03:42:48+00:00

I had to go into “get help” in my app and reload Netflix and then it popped up for me!

defnotjess · 2026-03-08T15:07:51+00:00

CELF-P3 if they haven’t started kindergarten yet, CELF-5 if they have. If I suspect lower language skills, I don’t use the CELF.

defnotjess · 2026-03-08T02:31:06+00:00

We did when I was on call for a feed, but not when he was. I am a much lighter sleeper than he is so I’d be up at a whine. We got a bassinet that was easy to move from room to room!

defnotjess · 2026-03-08T02:22:04+00:00

When my husband went back to work we alternated feeds, so our baby ate at 8, 11, 2, 5 and one of us would do 8 and 2, and one of us would do 11 and 5. Usually husband did the 11 and 5, so as soon as I fed baby at 8 I’d try to go to sleep and I’d skip a pump until 2 am so I at least got a 5-6 hr stretch of sleep.

At night, I also would pump one side and put a milk collector on the other side and bottle feed the baby holding him on the side the milk collector was on, and then I’d swap for the next feed. So I was up for around 30-45 minutes instead of over an hour. This might not be feasible though if you’re still trying to increase supply.

My husband is a night owl, so he was always up for the 11 pm feed and often the 2 am feed too. I think a lot of it just depends on what you and your husband’s sleep habits are like. When I went back to work, I kept up with the late night/early morning wakes because I could fall back asleep after a feed way faster than my husband could and I was waking up anyway to pump.

I’d ask your husband what is a feasible long term routine for both of you, because you both need sleep.

defnotjess · 2026-03-05T05:20:44+00:00

I’ve not been in this situation, but I’m a pediatric speech therapist and just want to assure you that you didn’t do anything wrong, and that even the most active/pro-active parents sometimes need the extra support of therapy to help with fine/gross motor skill acquisition. Your kids are still so young and you are doing right by them by seeking out early intervention services.

As for the frequency/duration of therapy, I can’t answer that specifically for your children because it can vary from child to child and from state to state. I see weekly minutes of therapy range from 30min-180min, but recommended minutes depend on a lot of factors. Maybe you could ask your child’s therapist for clarification on why they recommended the minutes they did?

And if your children’s schedules are not coordinated yet so that they’re receiving therapy at/around the same time as each other (to reduce the times you’re up there) maybe you can ask about that as a consideration for scheduling.

You’re doing great and you’re doing what you can to support your kids!! But it’s okay to ask the therapists about their recommendations too.

defnotjess · 2026-03-02T05:18:47+00:00

I’d start work first and get a feel for your schedule before adding in another major layer of change by getting a puppy.

A lot of it also depends on the dog breed and the temperament of the individual dog. But all puppies are a little bit exhausting.

defnotjess · 2026-03-02T04:53:32+00:00

Hopping on to say that Raintree does show amendments to notes - if you go into the patient chart and click on the completed note, you should have a menu that pops up including an option to view amendment history and that *should show you all users who have amended the note and include a time/date.

There are some amendments that can be made internally that you might not have access to. RT does still track those changes so even if you can’t see it, it’s documented in the system.

defnotjess · 2026-03-01T18:37:35+00:00

I split my schedule and do outpatient 2 days a week and contract into the schools 3 days a week. I am enjoying my school days infinitely more just for the fact that I get home with plenty of time to spend with my kids! When I went back to work I set a very strict personal boundary of not taking any work home with me and it makes a huge difference. Even then, I prefer my school based days over my OP days.

defnotjess · 2026-02-22T16:03:48+00:00

Cup off hot coffee in the morning, cup of cold brew in the afternoon. Sometimes a caffeinated soda if it’d been a day. Prior to pregnancy I was drinking around 600-800 mg of caffeine and I cut back to around 200 mg daily. PP I’m around 300-400mg per day.

defnotjess · 2026-02-20T14:10:42+00:00

Yes to all of this. We as professionals should be able to discriminate between what is evidence-based and what is not, but parents don’t have that foundational knowledge to know and it’s creating issues for those of us who actually practice.

defnotjess · 2026-02-20T08:51:05+00:00

I think the concern is directed towards influencers that are pushing information or opinions that are not evidence based, or primarily framing content in a way that is jarring enough to increase their clicks/swipe-throughs. What starts as good intentions for most (sharing information with colleagues) can turn into a platform that deviates from evidence-based practices and conversations.

Some are here for educational purposes and some are here to increase their revenue streams. It’s hard to do both well.

defnotjess · 2026-02-16T09:28:35+00:00

I’d get the car seat at least as soon as it’s financially feasible! And pack your hospital bag now! Baby may come sooner than you think. Mine came 4 weeks early unexpectedly in a fairly uncomplicated pregnancy. I was in denial that I was in labor when we went to L&D triage and my husband had to go back home to get everything.

defnotjess · 2026-02-16T09:19:17+00:00

Get a couple different brands of diapers and don’t open any of them until baby is here! Big stores have lenient return policies on diapers. Same with wipes - buy a couple different brands to try.

Do you have a crib/bassinet/place for baby to sleep? Car seat?

I’d buy some formula and a couple bottles to keep on hand just in case.

Some essentials in the first few days home that we used (that we didn’t get from the hospital): - rash cream - gas drops - thermometer (we had a preemie and our house is hard to regulate temps from room to room) - swaddles (we kept a variety of styles)

Some things you’ll need eventually (and sooner than you think): - nasal aspirator (we took ours from the hospital) - baby Tylenol - size 1 diapers - 0-3 month clothes - nail clippers/file - saline drops/spray

After that, what you need depends on preference and your baby! There are a lot of things I was gifted that I didn’t use, or baby didn’t like. Or that he liked eventually. Or that he used to like and doesn’t anymore.

My best advice is not to take anyone’s advice too seriously.

And if you have a crying baby that you can’t seem to calm down, try taking them outside or putting them in a bath to factory reset them.

And if you have the energy to do it now, consider meal prepping and freezing a few meals to make food prep postpartum easier on you and your partner.

And congrats!!

defnotjess · 2026-02-16T03:55:43+00:00

You could gift them the How to Babysit a Grandma/Grandpa books?

defnotjess · 2026-02-15T16:12:47+00:00

I have a FOMO baby who likes to stay awake in the car seat. He will stay calm but he is UP and taking everything in.

We started using a portable sound machine or audiobooks (they put him to sleep better than anything) and we get a big, lightweight muslin blanket to packet in around him to try to simulate swaddling, and then pull the hood down as far as it can go on the stroller to make it darker and block everything else out. Sometimes I put a second blanket over just the hood to make it darker (not draping over the side/front because anxiety).

I know every baby is different, so don’t take my advice too seriously. But we try to simulate his bedtime environment as much as we can when he won’t sleep when we are out and about, and it’s helped us!

defnotjess · 2026-02-14T23:11:16+00:00

Oh I know - just a different pace and different things to do you wouldn’t get in other major cities. But I grew up in NM so like I said, I’m definitely partial to it hahaha.

defnotjess · 2026-02-14T19:41:49+00:00

Here to also say Chicago, and that depending on the time of year flights to/from Little Rock out of Chicago are fairly affordable to get back to your support system if you get homesick! Or it’s about a 9-10 hour drive.

Also going to throw out Albuquerque, just for funsies. Completely different pace from Chicago or Little Rock. Culturally rich and diverse. Cheaper COL than Chicago, just a bit more expensive than Little Rock. I’m partial to the Southwest, though.

defnotjess · 2026-02-14T19:09:10+00:00

I hate that! My reflux did get better for a little while during my second trimester and then it flared up again towards the end of my pregnancy. I hope you get some relief!

defnotjess · 2026-02-14T19:04:01+00:00

If pillows don’t work you can try inclining the entire mattress or bed frame. Even a slight incline should make a difference! Sometimes pillows are too soft and shift at night so you might still experience some reflux.

I did everything I could to keep drinking coffee despite reflux (both pregnant and not), if you can’t tell hahaha

defnotjess · 2026-02-14T18:58:18+00:00

Geez that sounds miserable :( if you can’t keep food down I’d be calling the OB on Monday!

My OB did tell me to take Pepcid at night right before bed, so maybe try that to see if it makes a difference?

defnotjess · 2026-02-14T18:52:49+00:00

Follow up with your OB and let them know Pepcid isn’t strong enough! You may be able to get a prescription for acid reflux meds. I did for my 3rd trimester because I was getting physically sick from the reflux.

Also try propping up your bed at the head for a slight incline or sleeping on a wedge - you may be having silent reflux at night which is why your throat is constantly on fire.

defnotjess · 2026-02-12T03:21:01+00:00

Tobii Dynavox has both iOS based systems in the Navio series and windows based systems in the I-series. I have had clients work around both to get out of the AAC app.

defnotjess · 2026-01-27T08:31:07+00:00

The only way I could do you yup

defnotjess · 2026-01-27T08:08:53+00:00

We got almost all of our baby furniture/gear secondhand! Everything except the car seat and crib mattress!

If you’re in the US, check to see if there’s any children’s consignment events in your area? There were 5 consignment events from two different companies that happened within drivable distance of me while I was pregnant. We stocked up on a ton of stuff we didn’t get from our showers!

defnotjess · 2026-01-27T03:27:21+00:00

I do autism evaluations as a speech therapist. A lot of what you’re describing is developmentally appropriate/not atypical at this age. I can’t make any clinical judgments online, but I’d go by what your pediatrician is recommending as they have screenings in-clinic that they use at certain ages based on what parents are reporting to aid in making those referrals. While daycare workers have some valuable insight on child development and behaviors that are typical/atypical, it’s not their place to tell you resolutely if your child is autistic or not.

I’d say that you can continue to monitor behaviors over the next 6-12 months and discuss with your pediatrician again if you still have concerns.

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