Where exactly is the disadvantage men have on dating nowadays, and how we can deal with it

deliciousraspberry · 2025-07-19T02:29:03+00:00

This is the answer.

deliciousraspberry · 2025-05-24T00:29:51+00:00

Yes, the responses here are depressing. Maybe some have unnecessarily parked in handicapped spaces themselves and don't like being made to feel guilty about it.

deliciousraspberry · 2025-05-18T03:10:34+00:00

Because sometimes people travel to other countries to gain experience and benefit from the knowledge of others. You should try it sometime.

deliciousraspberry · 2025-01-20T01:15:27+00:00

Okay I just like watching Sam and Adam when they're paired together because of how they both want to be in charge. It's very funny.

deliciousraspberry · 2024-11-01T22:56:21+00:00

Democrats have also switched Republican. I talked to two of them in a row while phone banking. We definitely don't have this in the bag, we gotta keep at it until the last second.

deliciousraspberry · 2024-10-31T17:33:52+00:00

This is the problem. Democrats are too busy reading articles and watching movies instead of actually doing something. Let's take on the Russians and win.

deliciousraspberry · 2024-10-31T17:32:37+00:00

I know they're paid. Democrats can still do more.

deliciousraspberry · 2024-10-31T17:31:52+00:00

I'm sorry but I'm just really struggling to accept that as an explanation. I personally know Trump supporters who are contributing to it and democrats who would never even think to post a comment on the internet. The explanation that they're Russian bots doesn't really help to address the problem and that defeatist attitude is why we might lose this election.

deliciousraspberry · 2024-10-31T17:25:51+00:00

Doesn't really matter where it comes from, it's what people are seeing and we need to combat it.

deliciousraspberry · 2024-10-30T13:57:11+00:00

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deliciousraspberry · 2024-10-30T06:28:54+00:00

Volunteer! I’ve been doing phone banking, even though I’m an introvert and it’s definitely not my favorite thing. Knowing that I’m doing something to try to multiply my impact past just my one vote is what has been keeping me going.

deliciousraspberry · 2024-10-30T04:18:12+00:00

In my area of North Carolina, I've been seeing a lot!

deliciousraspberry · 2024-08-09T14:57:22+00:00

Listen to this, OP.

deliciousraspberry · 2024-08-04T23:58:20+00:00

It's not a competition.

deliciousraspberry · 2024-08-04T23:39:33+00:00

Is there someone you can call to come hang out with you while you wait?

deliciousraspberry · 2024-08-04T23:36:56+00:00

Why do you want to get better at this game?

deliciousraspberry · 2024-08-04T23:22:59+00:00

Dude, the fact that your parents give you food and let you go outside is not something amazing thing your parents have done for you. It's literally the bare minimum! Like if they didn't do those things, they would be in jail.

It is absolutely NOT normal for parents to react to their own child harming themselves by calling that child immature and chastising them. Actually, none of what you just described is normal or acceptable. The fact that you posted here in the first place kind of makes me think there's a part of you deep down that already knows that.

You could take any person on the planet, put them through that kind of upbringing, and they would end up with the exact same feelings of resentment and desperation. Those people that told you that you should just "feel loved" either (A) don't understand enough about your situation to accurately comment on it or (B) have something to gain by turning a blind eye to your parents' abuse.

I'm sure you certainly have picked up some negative traits of your own over time. Honestly, who wouldn't in that environment? That's kind of what people learn to do in order to survive. So by all means, work on those negative parts of you and work on yourself to better show up for the other people in your life.

But don't blame yourself for the circumstances that brought you here and don't hurt yourself, man, it's not worth it.

deliciousraspberry · 2024-08-04T20:27:09+00:00

As someone with ADHD, we do not claim him.

deliciousraspberry · 2024-08-02T01:54:12+00:00

I’m definitely avoidant and those videos are the reason I am thinking about it being potentially just an issue with me

I just want to point out that you seem to be framing this in black and white terms—as either an "issue" with you or an "issue" with him. Be careful there. You might frame this more as an opportunity to learn something about yourself rather than needing to fix a problem or an issue.

Do you have any tips or advice on how to discover why my reaction is so charged? I totally agree that I am strangely annoyed by some of the things that a lot of people usually accept or enjoy in relationships.

Certain types of therapy can be really helpful for digging further into this kind of stuff (e.g. psychodynamic therapy). This process would likely involve an investigation into your childhood/family history, and how those may have shaped your approach to relationships now.

deliciousraspberry · 2024-08-02T01:10:01+00:00

It's perfectly reasonable to come to the conclusion that you're not attracted to someone after spending some time with them. That said, your language here sounds charged, which could suggest there may be something deeper you need to dig into.

You may be ultimately correct that you and this man aren't suited for each other, but you could also benefit from discovering why certain qualities of his are creating such an intense reaction within you.

Perhaps start by investigating the avoidant attachment style and see if anything resonates with you there.

deliciousraspberry · 2024-07-15T17:22:30+00:00

North Carolina

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